You tried hard. You went through first, second, and even third round interviews but you still didn't get that job. Why ? That's probably not the first question in your mind, and, in many cases, you wouldn't know the outcome of the search to begin with. And even if you did know who the person was that got it, you might just assume they did and/or were better than you.
As it happens - and it's been observed everywhere, whether you live in America, China, India or Russia - it's NOT your Resume, it's NOT your(grades) or SAT/ . It is not your work history which, while not perfect, was in line and perhaps superior to requirements. It's not your references, your "alignment" or "culture" fit.
What you don't know can hurt you, Or can't it ? What you didn't know is the job went to the long legged pretty girl who was up against you and dozens or more other males.
This is NOT on any statistic, nor on any bank HR memo, but for those who've seen it enough, it' s a part of life. It goes contrary to the (wrong) general assumption thatmales are the most sought after contingent on Wall Street. High achievers, target schools, and more horseshit. A lot of that is observed, but on one-on-one interviews, it seems the chick with long legs, and round ass "makes the rounds" better than any Harvard/Yale male geek, entrepreneur, or hard-worker. . Actually that goes up the ranks a whole lot further , to CEOs, CFOs, executives and government authority positions.
Soft skills, hard skills, personality skills, technical skills, IQ, they could't get you that job that "hottie little body" skills can get in this world. You've been out-ASSED and you didn't even know it.
You read the WSJ on flirting - the gamesmanship that no one learns at Harvard or anywhere, for that matter-
I've used my big, blue eyes and smile to get everything I ever wanted" says Ms. Wilson, owner of a Seattle marketing firm. "Flirting opens doors"
Experts define flirting as "ambiguous behavior with potential sexual or romantic overtones that is goal-oriented. In other words, we flirt with a purpose"
Women play the sexual card every bit as refined and calculated as any professional sport/activity for males that require extensive training and preparation (say, boxing or hunting).
Women are nurtured that life owes them as a "hot girl"
Women spend two hours a day looking in the mirror while the average guy spends how many minutes : 10 ? Less ? A little bit more ?
No wonder the average Joe feels every woman is a whore...because, the higher you climb on the attractiveness scale, statistically, the larger % of them are. [of course, just like in anything, there are outliers, i.e. women who already are into money].
What's amazing is that women can get so much without actually doing anything.
What would you do to have an effective gender-neutral HR policy ?
Put in gay hiring managers ? Maybe not. Little old ladies ? Better.
As a mother and a fireman-I agree.
Back to the Interview/Conference Room
Ok, what can you do about it ? If you are in the semi-final or final round of interviews, chances are that all of you who've made it will be invited to interview the same day. You'll be a small group, of 3 or maximum 5 but even 5 is a large number for semi-finalists. Generally speaking, the candidates here are practically equally qualified, so who goes back home crying and who doesn't it's not an easy tell. Suppose you spot that Miss Hot Pants, and face it dude, yours is a losers bargain. As much as you'd like to, you can't throw a cup of hot coffee on her face and watch her skin burn, because they'll say your're clumsy and stupid. You are not Bart Simpson either, to put needlesticks or glue on her chair right before she sits down, they will see you doing that plus there could be hidden cameras.
What would you do ?
I'm asking readers to please HELP ME somehow WRINKLE MISS HOT PANTS'S flawless performance for the day. I mean, I don't mind putting chewing gum in that chick's hair if no one's looking. Maybe I could spray her with ink or something-what can I use for that ?
Have any readers known of a chick [that took their job or promotion away]...
Remember what they say: Looks can kill. They can kill away your hopes and dreams, too.