Addressing people as "Mr." vs. "first name"
I'm just curious to hear what some other people's rules are for this. I am an undergrad SA and my rule has generally been anyone above analyst level I address as Mr. until they tell me to call them by their first name and have gotten mixed reactions with this.
What do you guys think? And where do you learn it? I feel like it depends a lot on where you come from.
Appropriate Business Salutations
Sure, we all have teachers we still call “Ms. Smith,” and we haven’t quite made the switch to calling our doctors “Joe,” but the workplace is different. Here are some general guidelines for how to address superior in a work situation:
- Emailing an MD you haven’t met before: Mr./Ms./Mrs.
- In person: First names only
- Exceptions: Be aware of cultural differences. In some countries, it may be more appropriate to address people by Mr./Mrs.
"Mr" only for Chairmen of Chinese companies.
Otherwise, first name. We're all adults.
SSits is correct, and actually not joking on the first part.
I think it all depends on your relationship with whom youre talking to. Somebody you have never met before, you should always call them Mr. Especially as an SA. I think its up to you to decide when to stop calling someone Mr/Mrs. For example, if they email you back and sign it with their first name only, I took that as a sign that I could call them by their first name and it not be inappropriate the next time I saw them in person/talked on phone. Really up to you though and the person you are conversing with.
Who has ever signed off with the last name?
Best regards,
Mr. Biscuit
A lot of people. Especially when they are emailing a SA and they are old enough to be their father. When I was a kid and went over to a friends house, I called the dad Mr. "Last Name". I do that to this day with some of my best friends father's. Only if I had a great, long relationship with them did I call them by their first name. I think this somewhat transcends to the workplace. Its just a sign of respect which is needed especially as a SA. However, if you are FT at the firm, this does not apply as much (IMO).
To the person whom has the authority to hire and fire you and/or possibly end your career, I would suggest that you start off with Mr., Ms., Mrs., Sir and Ma'am. Wait until they instruct you otherwise. Otherwise maintain your self- respect and dignity among wheelers and dealers and address them by their first name.
^ yea if you go in with an attitude like Countless Capital, they are probably going to think you are a fish.
When you were introduced, did he introduce himself as "Mr. _____"? Probably not- you should call that person by whatever they introduce themselves as-which is probably their name- which it is just fine to refer to them by.
Did you guys ever think that maybe that "higher up" person is just a dude and probably isn't thinking about shit like that?
You call your associate Mr.?
Wowsa.
First name with everyone in this country. This is one thing that has changed over the course of my career and, frankly, I think it's for the better.
The only exception seems to be for teachers. I went to some event for one of my kids probably 15 years ago. I met one of the teachers and introduced myself as Dick. She introduced herself as Ms. Smith. I nearly threw up as she was probably only in her twenties or early thirties. I'm the CEO of a global bank and she calls me by my first name and she's teaching 9th grade English and I call her Ms. What a world.
PS -- Does this still happen?
Graduated HS two years ago, and I called my teachers my Ms. X or whatever. Nobody I knew ever referred to their teachers by their first name. Hell, many of us didn't even know their first names.
Was she aware of who you were?
I don't know for sure, but that school asked us for a lot of money.
Yes this still happens. Ironically I just experienced this a few weeks back when I met with my son's math teacher, her name was Ms. Smith as well.
Reading everyones responses here has made me think of a secondary question regarding doctors. At my age I automatically address everyone by their first name but always hesitate, for some reason, when I am introduced to a doctor. I find it strange that if I met you, Dick Fuld, the previous CEO of a global bank, that I would feel comfortable calling you by your first name but when a new prospective physician is referred to me I have doubts on how to initally address them. Do you feel the same "first name" always rule should apply here?
Good point. Doctors do the same thing. For some reason, that never bothered me as much. I guess it's worth de-personalizing the guy who sticks his finger up your butt.
Working across two of the top non-MBB consulting firms, I can say that I have literally never seen anyone reffered to as mr./ms. a single time. Always first name, all the way to the C-suite, even when I communicate with client folks.
First names
Addressing your superiors--first name or Mr/Mrs.? (Originally Posted: 12/13/2009)
Do analysts usually address their superiors with Mr.___ or by their first name?
first name, this isn't grade school
How about if you are emailing an MD you haven't met before?
Obviously you would use Mr/Mrs. then
Mein Führer
Agreed.
Just call him Boss.
"Hey Boss"
Do Analysts address their MD's by first name in person, or should you call them boss?
Banker88... you just had an internship according to one of your other posts. What do you think? If you call them Mr./Mrs. and are working there, almost all MD's will immediately tell you to call them by their first name.
Yea I call the MD by his first name. But say at a BB if your MD doesn't tell you to call him by his first name, should you just call him boss? Or has the word "boss" been totally removed from the workplace in America? (Except for shoe shiners -- "shoeshine today boss?")
I thought we were joking about the whole "boss" thing. You might as well just call him chief
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To me "boss" is akin to calling your high school instructor "teacher." It is just kind of weird. I'd go with Mr./Mrs. if you are not corrected.
I think it's different as a summer analyst. Maybe I've been in school for too long, I felt a tad uncomfortable addressing the head of M&A at the BB I was at by his first name.......... it felt, intimidating. he was a big guy too.
Address VPs as "Sire" and MDs as "Your Majesty"
I personally like to use "Master" or if in he is a bad mood I call him "God"....
Well, sometimes its BSD and other times its "That MFer who keeps giving me this BS work," or perhaps "The A-hole who staffed me on Xmas." Or my favorite, "the douche bag MBA who doesn't know shit."
I called mine boss daily but sorta playfully. Just use first name - you're not his servant
First name if its within the same firm. I reserve Mr/Ms purely for formal messages to people who I would not have any relatinship with if not for the message in question. Even still, first name is never bad unless you don't know Ted from Theodore then you just look like a goof.
I prefer to be called Sir Charles.
But if you are serious, you should use first names if you are working day to day with someone even if he's the top MD in the group. When I was maybe in my first week as an analyst if I had to talk with an MD I didn't know, I might say "Mr. X do you have a minute" to which he'd say "Call me John" or something like that. Shows deference and respect, not stupidity if there is a HUGE gap between you and who you are talking to. You're not going to run into the CEO of Goldman in the elevator and say "hey Lloyd, what's up mother fucker".
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I prefer to be addressed as MD or sir, I believe I've earned it.
And the witness will address this court as Judge or Your Honor...I believe I've earned it.
DO NOT CALL SOMEONE BOSS
Jesus, you might as well say 'yo chief'
Just write out their first name. If they e-mail you first, use whatever they sign it as. Otherwise first name is solid. Ask your immediate manager for advice if still nervous.
How many of you have called an MD "boss" and how was the reaction?
how about 'chief'?
I called mine boss ... he's fine with it
I've dealt with MD's across the shop where I work at and I refer to them all by their first name when I speak with them. If I'm meeting someone in person for the first time, then I will simply say it's a pleasure to meet you Mr./Mrs. > and continue to refer to them by their first name after the introduction and there are MDs that still like being called Mr./Mrs. >. It's just a matter of preference.
There's one MD that I've had the privilage of working with who has never had a problem with being called Cheif, Boss, El Jefe, Bossman, Hoss and "Hey Asshole". The last one is reserved for when we're out drinking though, so go figure.
Seriously - use first name.for everyone. It comes off more friendly.
Even when talking to the big public company CEO's that we're dealing with, I address them by their first name.
I'm not sure about outside of the US, but here i've never heard of Mr. being used. At my firm you can call the CEO and Chairman by their first names without any drama.
Mr. until corrected otherwise.
Hmmmm. No need to be so formal in the work environment. You ever get an email, Dear Mr. You, it looks and feels wirerd. Just go with their real name and cut the mr. and ms. crap unless you are pulling a job in Reservoir Dogs.
YOu can't handle the truth!!!!
Addressing bankers - first name/last name (Originally Posted: 06/13/2012)
This may be a silly question, but when I reach out to bankers for informational interviews via email, I always adress the banker as "Dear Mr./Ms. __________." The reply is usually by first name "Max, would be glad to chat, etc."
At this point, should I head any replies with "Mr./Ms. _______", or is it ok to switch to first name?
Thanks!
You can start by using their first name when you reach out in the first place...be polite, well-spoken, etc. but no need to be that formal.
If they are much older, and very senior, and I know they have connections like crazy, I always address them by their last name until they start signing emails/introducing themselves on the phone with their first name
I think you should use Mr/Ms until they reply back to you, then use whatever they signed their email as. In general I think that using Mr/Ms is safer because it's more formal, but using first name is more personal and more likely to get a response especially if it's not a senior MD. Imagine how you would feel in one or two years if someone emailed you and called you Mr.
I always use first names, and have always had good rapport with people who replied. Don't think it's a big deal either way.
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Thanks! Exactly what I needed to hear.
how to address md, vp, etc.. (Originally Posted: 03/01/2007)
Hello,
How would you address an MD or a VP whom you just met / been told to contact by a reference. For example, for a thank you note or a follow up question after an interview, how do you address them?
Mr.? just his first name?
I would go with Mr. and stick with that until they correct you, can't go wrong that way
It's a little too formal, but go ahead and do the Mr. in writing until/unless he's told you to use the first name. It shows respect. In the office, we all use first names. I think that goes for everywhere in the US and most other places in the world.
Correct. In fact, even if it is a woman, use Mr.
lol, zala you are one smartass
no, that rule only applies in the western world. in Asia you would get fired on the spot for using first names for someone more than two ranks higher than you.
Well, I know in Tokyo it's still ____-san... and always will be. Not aware of what it's like in Hong Kong.
Yeah, in Russia you will address your superiors by first name, middle name. Would be a really Westernized company to use first name protocol...
Same in India
sir or m'am
Why would you need to address him as anything at all?
if you've met, no reason not to use first name. otherwise i'd use mr/ms unless they refer to themselves with first name only in written communication.
how do you address people in higher positions if you're an analyst? (Originally Posted: 02/26/2008)
If you are an analyst, how do you address people in the following positions: Analyst, Associate, VP, MD? Usually for analyst/associate if I haven't met them, in my initial I will put Mr. or Ms, afterwards I may call them by their first name if they seem to be around the same age as me (and even then not always). How about for VP, MD? It's less clear to me. Thanks
I've always used their first names
i wouldn't call an analyst or associate Mr
are you talking about in an email or in person? i would never call anyone mr in person and maybe an MD mr in an email but i probably wouldnt even do that personally
O exalted one? :-D
Just call them by their first names.
-------- Right now this is a job. If I advance any higher in this company, then this would be my career. And um... Well, if this were my career, I'd have to throw myself in front of a train.
First name/nick name :D
First name for anyone of any rank. Nickname if I work with the person. If I use someone's last name, it's only as a nickname (and never with a prefix).
I suppose this could depend on the culture of your group/firm but I think it's generally safe to default to addressing your senior bankers by their first names.
Both email and in person, for people you know and don't know. For email if I don't know them I put a title, if I know them and they are around the same age as me I use their name, otherwise title. In person if they are around the same age I think I use the name, but I'm not sure for some people in higher positions such as manager, etc. who are like 20 years older than me.
From the responses it seems first name is generally appropriate in person for any rank. Even if the person is like 50 and you are still in school?
Thanks
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