Addressing people as "Mr." vs. "first name"

I'm just curious to hear what some other people's rules are for this. I am an undergrad SA and my rule has generally been anyone above analyst level I address as Mr. until they tell me to call them by their first name and have gotten mixed reactions with this.

What do you guys think? And where do you learn it? I feel like it depends a lot on where you come from.

Appropriate Business Salutations

Sure, we all have teachers we still call “Ms. Smith,” and we haven’t quite made the switch to calling our doctors “Joe,” but the workplace is different. Here are some general guidelines for how to address superior in a work situation:

  • Emailing an MD you haven’t met before: Mr./Ms./Mrs.
  • In person: First names only
  • Exceptions: Be aware of cultural differences. In some countries, it may be more appropriate to address people by Mr./Mrs.

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I think it all depends on your relationship with whom youre talking to. Somebody you have never met before, you should always call them Mr. Especially as an SA. I think its up to you to decide when to stop calling someone Mr/Mrs. For example, if they email you back and sign it with their first name only, I took that as a sign that I could call them by their first name and it not be inappropriate the next time I saw them in person/talked on phone. Really up to you though and the person you are conversing with.

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Who has ever signed off with the last name?

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A lot of people. Especially when they are emailing a SA and they are old enough to be their father. When I was a kid and went over to a friends house, I called the dad Mr. "Last Name". I do that to this day with some of my best friends father's. Only if I had a great, long relationship with them did I call them by their first name. I think this somewhat transcends to the workplace. Its just a sign of respect which is needed especially as a SA. However, if you are FT at the firm, this does not apply as much (IMO).

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To the person whom has the authority to hire and fire you and/or possibly end your career, I would suggest that you start off with Mr., Ms., Mrs., Sir and Ma'am. Wait until they instruct you otherwise. Otherwise maintain your self- respect and dignity among wheelers and dealers and address them by their first name.

 

^ yea if you go in with an attitude like Countless Capital, they are probably going to think you are a fish.

When you were introduced, did he introduce himself as "Mr. _____"? Probably not- you should call that person by whatever they introduce themselves as-which is probably their name- which it is just fine to refer to them by.

Did you guys ever think that maybe that "higher up" person is just a dude and probably isn't thinking about shit like that?

"That dude is so haole, he don't even have any breath left."
 

First name with everyone in this country. This is one thing that has changed over the course of my career and, frankly, I think it's for the better.

The only exception seems to be for teachers. I went to some event for one of my kids probably 15 years ago. I met one of the teachers and introduced myself as Dick. She introduced herself as Ms. Smith. I nearly threw up as she was probably only in her twenties or early thirties. I'm the CEO of a global bank and she calls me by my first name and she's teaching 9th grade English and I call her Ms. What a world.

PS -- Does this still happen?

 

Yes this still happens. Ironically I just experienced this a few weeks back when I met with my son's math teacher, her name was Ms. Smith as well.

Reading everyones responses here has made me think of a secondary question regarding doctors. At my age I automatically address everyone by their first name but always hesitate, for some reason, when I am introduced to a doctor. I find it strange that if I met you, Dick Fuld, the previous CEO of a global bank, that I would feel comfortable calling you by your first name but when a new prospective physician is referred to me I have doubts on how to initally address them. Do you feel the same "first name" always rule should apply here?

 

Working across two of the top non-MBB consulting firms, I can say that I have literally never seen anyone reffered to as mr./ms. a single time. Always first name, all the way to the C-suite, even when I communicate with client folks.

Still not sure if I want to spend the next 30+ years grinding away in corporate finance and the WSO dream chase or look to have enough passive income to live simply and work minimally.
 

Banker88... you just had an internship according to one of your other posts. What do you think? If you call them Mr./Mrs. and are working there, almost all MD's will immediately tell you to call them by their first name.

 
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Banker88... you just had an internship according to one of your other posts. What do you think? If you call them Mr./Mrs. and are working there, almost all MD's will immediately tell you to call them by their first name.

Yea I call the MD by his first name. But say at a BB if your MD doesn't tell you to call him by his first name, should you just call him boss? Or has the word "boss" been totally removed from the workplace in America? (Except for shoe shiners -- "shoeshine today boss?")

 

First name if its within the same firm. I reserve Mr/Ms purely for formal messages to people who I would not have any relatinship with if not for the message in question. Even still, first name is never bad unless you don't know Ted from Theodore then you just look like a goof.

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I prefer to be called Sir Charles.

But if you are serious, you should use first names if you are working day to day with someone even if he's the top MD in the group. When I was maybe in my first week as an analyst if I had to talk with an MD I didn't know, I might say "Mr. X do you have a minute" to which he'd say "Call me John" or something like that. Shows deference and respect, not stupidity if there is a HUGE gap between you and who you are talking to. You're not going to run into the CEO of Goldman in the elevator and say "hey Lloyd, what's up mother fucker".

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I've dealt with MD's across the shop where I work at and I refer to them all by their first name when I speak with them. If I'm meeting someone in person for the first time, then I will simply say it's a pleasure to meet you Mr./Mrs. > and continue to refer to them by their first name after the introduction and there are MDs that still like being called Mr./Mrs. >. It's just a matter of preference.

There's one MD that I've had the privilage of working with who has never had a problem with being called Cheif, Boss, El Jefe, Bossman, Hoss and "Hey Asshole". The last one is reserved for when we're out drinking though, so go figure.

 

I think you should use Mr/Ms until they reply back to you, then use whatever they signed their email as. In general I think that using Mr/Ms is safer because it's more formal, but using first name is more personal and more likely to get a response especially if it's not a senior MD. Imagine how you would feel in one or two years if someone emailed you and called you Mr.

 

It's a little too formal, but go ahead and do the Mr. in writing until/unless he's told you to use the first name. It shows respect. In the office, we all use first names. I think that goes for everywhere in the US and most other places in the world.

 

if you've met, no reason not to use first name. otherwise i'd use mr/ms unless they refer to themselves with first name only in written communication.

 

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Just call them by their first names.

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-------- Right now this is a job. If I advance any higher in this company, then this would be my career. And um... Well, if this were my career, I'd have to throw myself in front of a train.
 

First name for anyone of any rank. Nickname if I work with the person. If I use someone's last name, it's only as a nickname (and never with a prefix).

I suppose this could depend on the culture of your group/firm but I think it's generally safe to default to addressing your senior bankers by their first names.

 

Both email and in person, for people you know and don't know. For email if I don't know them I put a title, if I know them and they are around the same age as me I use their name, otherwise title. In person if they are around the same age I think I use the name, but I'm not sure for some people in higher positions such as manager, etc. who are like 20 years older than me.

From the responses it seems first name is generally appropriate in person for any rank. Even if the person is like 50 and you are still in school?

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