Explain how I can ask an ex this...?
Not what I usually post but bear with me. OK, my ex and I keep in touch still and we're still pretty good friends now. We had a pretty ugly break-up and have had major arguments after the fact (I mention this for context).
I met a friend of hers a while back (I doubt she remembers me), and now she's in the same city as me. She was pretty hot and still is judging from her Facebook pictures. So my question is, how can I get my ex to set me up with that friend? Couple of things to note:
1) Although, I wasnt, my ex claimed I was possessive. Utter crap because no other girl has ever said that to me. So I'm worried she might mention this and screw things up for me.
2) As mentioned, an ugly break up but friends since. We've had our ups and downs. How does that effect me do you think?
3) My ex is a more traditional type and comes from a very respectable and different culture so I'm not sure what the protocol is with this.
4) My initial way of getting her to go out with me was a bit out there but it worked. But she brought that up a few times to disparage me. So not sure how that plays out.
5) The girl I'm interested in is Canadian-Pakistani. Anyone had any experience with Pakistani women?
Any help will be appreciated.
My inclination is to mention in passing that I saw her friend recently (she lives in a different city) when I didnt and how perhaps she should set us up.
my inclination is for you to man the fuck up and stop asking pathetic questions on the internet
Relax dude. Generally, I dont make such stupid posts but a bit stuck as to how to approach it. Plus its the internet man, dont be so serious and its no different to the tons of other posts on here about such topics.
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You want your ex-girlfriend, who thinks you were possessive and with whom you had a nasty breakup, to recommend you to one of her friends? Nice thought, but why would she do that - because she thinks you're an awesome guy and you'd be great for her friend? There's no way she thinks that. Either set yourself up with this girl (this is always the best option) or look elsewhere.
agreed, but I think the fact that we're pretty good friends now has got to have some cachet. I have no idea why she thought I was possessive but there we are. I would ask but to reopen old scars would be a bad idea.
I would set myself up but 1) Not too sure where she hangs or crowds she associates herself with, 2) How am I supposed to contact her? and 3) what happens when she introduces me to her friends? Same friends no doubt as my ex..
Bro, you might as well ask if you can have a three-some together.
Why so pessimistic dude? Three way wouldnt be a bad idea but I'd settle to finding a good way to get this girl on just one date. Rest is up to me.
Consult ratinamaze. He is the WSO resident expert on Paki girls. I am guessing your ex was Indian.
Yeah, was Indian.
Look dude, if women are jealous, South Asian women are at least three times as much. Dude, I can assure you as a South Asian that she is going to torpedo your chances with the Paki girl. You have to be South Asian to understand our psyche.
Honestly, I think that you're an idiot for even thinking that calling up your ex (who you had a bad breakup with) to hook you up with another girl. Don't you know how girls talk? My thoughts were confirmed when I saw that you don't even know the difference between "affect" and "effect."
So ignoring the fact that we're good friends now?
And shut up dude, it was clearly a typo.
So the consensus appears to be that I have no shot.Really surprises me, I mean we're friends now and she has no reason to be a bitch about it. We broke up two years ago.
Alright, different tact. If you were where I am, and this girl is pretty smoking (and I'm assuming guys on here would be interested in a hot girl despite the obvious issue), how would you approach it? You can get in touch with her but only through your ex?
Moving on is an option but say your stubborn and wont do so until you exhaust options.
funny how more than half the posts in this thread are from the OP
Umm...how about not involving the ex at all and approaching her yourself? Not that difficult.
Again I dont know where she is, who her crowd is, anything. My ex does, hence the question. I did mention this to begin with. Maybe not that difficult to read..?
Maybe you should just get over it if you are too much of a puss to approach her yourself. Why the fuck are you so obsessed with this girl anyways? Obviously you have had very little interaction with her. There are plenty of hot females in this world. It's pretty creepy.
90% chance you won't get any if she's actually muslim. she may look like an utter whore on facebook, flirt, go to bars/clubs/etc. but there's a good chance you'll get no where fast, even if you were desi this would be true.
I dont buy it. Nice of you to call them 'whores' though.
My favorite thing is when people ask for advice, then get pissed when they don't like the answer.
Take this: http://www.pornhub.com/video/search?search=indian
You'll need it after you don't get any.
Better question, why do people come to WSO for dating advice and then get annoyed when bros make fun of them?
Not annoyed, just think its a little childish. If we're all 'bros' on here, surely do the bro thing and make a valid observation or provide a good piece of advice.
On your first point, yeah, its not ideal. I just figured someone on her may have had a similar experience or offer something constructive that may help in deciding how to approach it. Nothing to it really. I like the community on WSO and its nothing different then what I've seen here recently anyway.
I think 'bros' want to show that they dont need help on the women front. Ironic considering many of the people on here are still in college (not hating on them and realize that the same may be giving me advice, just saying!)
Good luck with that....
id upgrade weird to creepy/likely carries roofies on him at all times
I suggest you ask the misc (srs):
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/forumdisplay.php?f=19
Girl here. I think it really depends how you approach it. Bringing it up as the first thing you mention when you speak next, would be a bad idea. Perhaps push her into mentioning that she has a friend in town rather then saying you spotted her on Facebook, which has a slightly stalkerish undertone (harsh but the world we live in). IF that doesnt work, perhaps say you saw a friend of hers out on a night out and how she should introduce her to you. Any other way to approach it is a bad thing.
Not sure why her ethnicity or culture would play a part but again I'm not well versed to make a judgement. Just make sure your ex is aware that your intentions are honorable. Another thing is how bad your break-up was. Why did she think you were possessive? What have you done to change her mind? How did you remain friends? Consider carefully, you may end up losing a friend. Good luck and dont listen to some of the guys here, I think many people like to portray the image of solidity in their private lives (when the opposite could be true). Nothing wrong with either. Open your minds, guys!
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