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My friends and I have have had bad experiences dating guys that make less money than us. The power balance seems to inevitably get thrown off as the girl ends up wearing the pants in the relationship and the guy inevitably finds a nit-picky reason to break up with the banker chick, only to start dating a PR girl. If having a "high powered" job or a larger paycheck than your boyfriend means that you're emasculating him ... who are bankers girls supposed to date besides the obvious...other finance types? And - what're peoples' thoughts on this? If you're a guy, could you date a girl that made more money than you? IE - if you were working at a MM bank, how would you feel about your girlfriend working at a BB? Caveat - no, I don't think that someone's salary determines their self worth etc etc etc ..

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  • mathematicsofadream's picture

    Personally, I expect my relationships to have the kind of mutual respect (real respect, not just talk) that takes no consideration of what jobs we have or how much we make. It's not just an issue of profession or money - it's respect in any circumstance and any issue, so if it doesn't exist in that area it'll come up in some other.

    We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.

  • oasising's picture

    I may be in the minority, but I always seem to go for girls that have more money than me. I think it started with my tendency to date older girls in HS, and the trend has continued. Some came from family money, some had well-paying jobs, etc. A part of it seems to be that I am really into girls who are very fashionable, which generally goes hand-in-hand with having money. I would definitely date a girl that earned more money than me, though I can't imagine what would bring in more than high finance. Ambitious girls are hot (except those cold cutthroat ones).

    That being said, I do think that being part of a banker couple would lead to a pretty devoid sex life. I don't want to be with someone who is always going to be as tired as I am. That would be depressing.

  • Cockstone's picture

    Personally I'm not intimidated by banker chicks...however, I would never want to date/marry one. I like it when women are ambitious, intelligent, etc. but when you're looking to settle down you want to be with someone who will make a good wife and mother - banker chicks, no offense, will not be either of these things.

  • fp175's picture

    You can date older guys. A 30 year old accountant who is successful should be making more than a 1st year analyst.

    As to cockstone - why would someone who is a banker at the age of 25 be a banker for life? Just because you've done something out of college doesn't make it who you are and brand you for life. Are you going to be a banker until you retire?

  • CDNmonkey's picture

    Date a guy with self confidence.

  • Fishsail's picture

    My fiance is a engineering phd student in the same university with me. We got engaged just before I got my FT offer last year (I wasn't an SA). He's been so supportive to me when it came to my career choice.

    He couldn't care less how much I make now, neither does he worry if I'd be a good wife/mother. We're happy together and believe we'll make it a wonderful family. He believes in himself making billions in the future, when I can retire to be a housewife ;)

    I don't think people should consider female analysts to be evil (in marriages). That's not fair because people in banking may well have diverse personalities, plus they won't necessarily go down the same career path.

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  • eric809e's picture

    Remember the guy: girl ratio in finance. Chances are, you're likely to find a guy that makes as much/more than you there. Or you can date outside your field. Outside of banking, most people don't know much/care about it. "Oh you work in finance. Can you do my taxes?" There could be a slight difference in pay, but the guy will still feel like they're wearing the pants in the relationship.

    Sometimes, it's just the personality type. To make it into banking, you've got to work hard and be pretty determined about what you want. Wouldn't that translate into the relationship as well? This could be why the guy feels like she's wearing the pants. She knows what she wants and makes the call.

    If you're dating a guy that makes less, don't flaunt the money around on dates. Spend on things they notice less (clothes/shoes/makeup/haircuts) and don't tell the guy how much it costs (how many guys can really tell how much these things cost). Let the guy treat and feel like a big shot. Don't tell him how much your bonus is. Comparing "base" salaries should be pretty comperable.

  • mathematicsofadream's picture

    fishsail, I totally agree on all points.

    We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.

    We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.

  • Frank Slaughtery's picture

    "IE - if you were working at a MM bank, how would you feel about your girlfriend working at a BB?"

    hilarious btw.

    personally i think other bankers, drs, lawyers, traders are your best bet. i dont even think its about the money i just think an ambitious women needs an ambitious hard working man to match her. for example i think the dynamic between a female banker and a male struggling artist wouldnt work but i suppose stranger things do happen.

  • ghosht's picture

    I know this is totally generalising, but I would not date a banker chick. first of all im with bankers and banker chicks 18 hours a day. for the 4 hours of free time i have in the week, i want to spend them with non banking people, just to get a break from banking. i dont want to discuss comps and models or even deals in the little precious free time i have. I just want to feel like there is a world outside the four walls of my cube (turns out there is!)

    theres a banker chick in my group, nice on the outside, reasonably attractive. she is the most selfish, cold hearted, calculating woman i've ever come across in my life. all the while being nice. there were times when we've had conversations about committment and relationships, and she says " i'd neverrr do that for a guy, or i'd never ever do that for a husband". she loves money and is also very shallow and would stab her friends to get ahead. so smart, not bad looking, ambitious, and horrible girl friend/wife material all at the same time. I pity the guy who would marry her.

    This girl has really skewed my vision of banking chicks. I am keeping my eye open for a girl who works in non profit or teaches third grade.

  • earlybird's picture

    Guys don't want girls who date them for their money, but they also don't want to date girls who make more money than them.

    Obviously a generalization, but still. It's a lose-lose proposition.

  • Marcus Halberstram's picture

    I will echo ghost on his "banker chick" sentiment

    A girl I used to work with was one of the most conniving malicious people I have ever come across. She was super smart, slightly above average looking and she dated a guy at a PE shop (might be engaged now). We alway joked that if she was holding a suitcase full of money and her boyfriends hand at the top of a buidlding and had to let go of one....dude would be kissing the pavement.

    She is as close to the devil, Patrick Batement, Gecko etc. than anyone I've ever met. Managment and clients loved her as her superficial character masked her true identity, but I have feeling it will catch up with her one day.

  • Seanc's picture

    I would never seriously date any girl that works in Investment Banking/Trading or even has worked in those sectors. Just not my thing/

  • Disjoint's picture

    My most recent ex used to work in marketing and made a s...load of money in her job ($70 000 as a first year). She was always proud of it, while I was simply going for a masters degree.
    I didn't really mind the idea that she made so much money while I made -$50 000 to pay for my masters degree... The thing that bothered her the most (and what seems not to be your concern OP) is when I landed a banking gig in London. I made much more as a base salary than she did, and she knew banking bonuses were huge as well.
    She was litteraly jealous of her boyfriend for making more money than her...

    On another note, it's ok if your girl friend makes more, the important part is that you have the potential to be making more than her in the future. This is one of the reasons I never was bothered w/ my ex having the higher salary; I knew I would eventually get something much better paid than her.

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  • TheKing's picture

    srr636 wrote:
    A couple of my girlfriends and I were having this conversation the other night - most of us have had bad experiences dating guys that make/will make less money than us (ie - one SA was dating a guy working at a non-profit for awhile). It's not that we're gold diggers, just that the power balance seems to inevitably get thrown off...the girl ends up wearing the pants in the relationship and the guy inevitably finds a nit-picky reason to break up with the banker chick, only to start dating a PR girl, who, in several cases was not better looking. If, theoretically, having a "higher powered" job or a larger paycheck than your boyfriend means that you're emasculating him ... who are banker chicks supposed to date besides the obvious...other finance types? And - what're peoples' thoughts on this? If you're a guy, could you date a girl that made more money than you? IE - if you were working at a MM bank, how would you feel about your girlfriend working at a BB?

    Caveat - no, I don't think that someone's salary determines their self worth etc etc etc ..

    I'd be fine dating a girl in banking. It's a job. As long as she's got more to offer than work, sure.

    Ambition is a fine quality in a woman, it's part of a total package.

  • mark klein MD's picture

    I would DEFINITELY date a girl who makes more money than I, and so would most of my friends - we've had this conversation.

    I will say, though, that I am never surprised in the least when a girl in a high-powered money job turns out to be a shallow and pushy bitch. Keep that in mind.

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  • numi's picture

    I don't know who female bankers are supposed to date because I'm not female, but how about someone who appreciates them for their smarts, ambition, etc. rather than their money? I've dated women who were wealthier than me, as well as women that had less money than I did. I think a big reason why the relationships lasted as long as they did was because of the respect and appreciation we had for each other, instead of money being the focal point of everything.

    For me, inherent traits like ambition and drive are very important qualities in terms of the women I go for, but there are many ways these traits can be manifested. All else equal (if such a comparison is fair), I think I could have the same appreciation for a woman in finance as I would for an artist who was passionate about their craft, or a researcher that loved their clinical work. And I say this only because finance, as big as it seems in our individual lives, is just one possible career path out of many. Although it's not so easy for someone in another career to appreciate the nuances of our professional lives or vice versa, it's actually pretty easy to identify determination and ambition when you see it, no matter what field the other person is in.

    I can't make any broad generalizations about women in finance being more or less desirable than other fields. I know that it's not uncommon to encounter the shallow or conniving types in this business, but those types of women exist in any field, not just in finance. If you can look past the labels and not define you or your significant other primarily based on their profession, I think you'll find that there are men and women in finance that are actually pretty relationship-worthy.

  • In reply to Frank Slaughtery
    nauru's picture

    iambateman wrote:
    "IE - if you were working at a MM bank, how would you feel about your girlfriend working at a BB?"

    hilarious btw.

    personally i think other bankers, drs, lawyers, traders are your best bet. i dont even think its about the money i just think an ambitious women needs an ambitious hard working man to match her. for example i think the dynamic between a female banker and a male struggling artist wouldnt work but i suppose stranger things do happen.

    Why is that hilarious? I'm curious as to how guys would react to that situation.

  • In reply to nauru
    mark klein MD's picture

    nauru wrote:
    iambateman wrote:
    "IE - if you were working at a MM bank, how would you feel about your girlfriend working at a BB?"

    hilarious btw.

    Why is that hilarious? I'm curious as to how guys would react to that situation.

    Have you ever been in a relationship in your life? Are you a virgin? Does your life experience come from posting on internet messageboards like this? I don't think they would "react" at all, or "feel" any way in particular. You think the difference between someone working in IBD at HLHZ and someone working in IBD at Merrill is significant enough to affect a relationship? Get a freaking clue.

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  • Frank Slaughtery's picture

    nauru- hilarious at the thought of a guy refusing to date a girl bc he is at an MM and she is at a BB, its like something straight outta LSO

    honestly its hard enough to find a girl with a combination of brains, looks, and personality that further reducing the pool by career is a pretty stupid move imo

  • srr636's picture

    mark klein MD - idk that i agree with the majority of the posts on this thread - but you better believe that the difference between someone working at, say, Cowen and Co versus someone working at Morgan Stanley is significant.

    someone correct me if i'm wrong - but i've never known any guy that actively wanted to start as an analyst at a lesser ranked bank when he could have gotten a position at a bulge bracket bank. maybe you are capable of dating a girl who may succeed in an arena where you yourself have failed, but that is most definitely not the case with most 20 something males i have met, especially not finance guys who tend to take a lot of pride in the fact that they work in finance.

    it's not about who makes marginally more money (although, i still think it's awk to date a guy who makes less than you do - call me old fashioned), it's about the fact that guys are traditionally the more ambitious partner in a relationship - it definitely screws up a relationship when that balance shifts. if you think these sorts of comments are totally out of left field - you've been hiding under a rock the last five years. if nothing else, go take a look at the plot lines for recent abc and nbc shows - cashmere mafia and lipstick jungle which frequently show men leaving their wives because they can't handle the fact that their wives are more successful than them. admittedly the shows are terribly acted, but the themes they deal with are legitimate and are significant enough that they're being dealt with on prime time tv shows...

  • In reply to Disjoint
    mathematicsofadream's picture

    Disjoint wrote:

    She was litteraly jealous of her boyfriend for making more money than her...

    On another note, it's ok if your girl friend makes more, the important part is that you have the potential to be making more than her in the future. This is one of the reasons I never was bothered w/ my ex having the higher salary; I knew I would eventually get something much better paid than her.

    I hate to post any negativity on an online forum where people love to jump at any such opportunity, but don't you think you're being hypocritical? You hated, understandably, that your girlfriend was jealous of your salary, yet say that the important part is knowing you'll make more than her later.
    Numi has got it right - it's all about respect and trust, the issue is very simple in any field, and of any gender. It's pretty depressing to think that most people can't understand that.

    We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.

  • In reply to Warhawk_1
    curiousmonkey's picture

    Warhawk_1 wrote:
    I know at least two couples breaking up because of the girl doing IBD. And one of them was specifically because the girl got into a bulge and the guy got a noname boutique

    you at wharton?

    is this stuff common?
    the girl actually broke up with the ugy because he was in a no-name boutique? wow.

    do girls at wharton date guys based on where they're working? crazy.

  • Oconnor's picture

    I would never date a banking chick either, simply for the reason that you need to have another life away from your job which you would never fully get if going out with another banker. Fortunately the chicks I know in banking are all actually quite nice though I don't think any of them will last longer than analysts (they also sort of say this themselves when talking on nights out) so maybe I haven't met any really cutthroat. As people above said your best bet is just people from other professions or somebody who genuinely doesn't care, which I think would be the best thing as it is probably deep down the equivalent of all us guys wanting a smart but sweet chick who teaches kids or something, ie a contrast to what you are but obviously still has to be relatively intelligent. Fortunately for us guys, the female equivalent is easier to find but that's simply because we aren't going againt the grain, and I don't care if you say I'm sexist but that's what chicks going into banking are doing.

  • In reply to ghosht
    mikesdaboss's picture

    ghosht wrote:
    I know this is totally generalising, but I would not date a banker chick. first of all im with bankers and banker chicks 18 hours a day. for the 4 hours of free time i have in the week, i want to spend them with non banking people, just to get a break from banking. i dont want to discuss comps and models or even deals in the little precious free time i have. I just want to feel like there is a world outside the four walls of my cube (turns out there is!)

    theres a banker chick in my group, nice on the outside, reasonably attractive. she is the most selfish, cold hearted, calculating woman i've ever come across in my life. all the while being nice. there were times when we've had conversations about committment and relationships, and she says " i'd neverrr do that for a guy, or i'd never ever do that for a husband". she loves money and is also very shallow and would stab her friends to get ahead. so smart, not bad looking, ambitious, and horrible girl friend/wife material all at the same time. I pity the guy who would marry her.

    This girl has really skewed my vision of banking chicks. I am keeping my eye open for a girl who works in non profit or teaches third grade.

    okay, ghosht. not to sound like a racist, but is this banker chic asian? i've found asian banker chics tend to be of this type... again, not trying to be a racist, just a trend i've found.

  • dosk17's picture

    Seriously... I don't think I would date another banker, just too close to myself. I've dated girls in the past who had similar jobs and it never turned out well. For me differences attract more than similarities and most of the banker girls I've met have been even more Type-A personalities than I am, which is scary.

    Who knows, maybe if I end up working at a nonprofit I'll be more into banker girls...

  • In reply to mark klein MD
    nauru's picture

    mark klein MD wrote:
    nauru wrote:
    iambateman wrote:
    "IE - if you were working at a MM bank, how would you feel about your girlfriend working at a BB?"

    hilarious btw.

    Why is that hilarious? I'm curious as to how guys would react to that situation.

    Have you ever been in a relationship in your life? Are you a virgin? Does your life experience come from posting on internet messageboards like this? I don't think they would "react" at all, or "feel" any way in particular. You think the difference between someone working in IBD at HLHZ and someone working in IBD at Merrill is significant enough to affect a relationship? Get a freaking clue.

    Relax buddy, it was an honest hypothetical question. And clearly others on this board thought it was a topic worth discussing.

  • In reply to mathematicsofadream
    Disjoint's picture

    mathematicsofadream wrote:
    Disjoint wrote:

    She was litteraly jealous of her boyfriend for making more money than her...

    On another note, it's ok if your girl friend makes more, the important part is that you have the potential to be making more than her in the future. This is one of the reasons I never was bothered w/ my ex having the higher salary; I knew I would eventually get something much better paid than her.

    I hate to post any negativity on an online forum where people love to jump at any such opportunity, but don't you think you're being hypocritical? You hated, understandably, that your girlfriend was jealous of your salary, yet say that the important part is knowing you'll make more than her later.
    Numi has got it right - it's all about respect and trust, the issue is very simple in any field, and of any gender. It's pretty depressing to think that most people can't understand that.

    Well, posted the way you have there is absolutely no problem to posting anything somewhat negative :) I guess that would be somewhat hypocritical; however, I don't think that it is only about respect and trust, most men always will always have an inferiority complex to their partner making more than they do. We already are a bit envious if a colleague of ours makes more than we do, what would it be like if our own girl friend made more?

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    Remember, you will always be a salesman, no matter how fancy your title is.
    - My ex girlfriend

  • In reply to nauru
    mark klein MD's picture

    nauru wrote:
    mark klein MD wrote:
    nauru wrote:

    Why is that hilarious? I'm curious as to how guys would react to that situation.

    Have you ever been in a relationship in your life? Are you a virgin? Does your life experience come from posting on internet messageboards like this? I don't think they would "react" at all, or "feel" any way in particular. You think the difference between someone working in IBD at HLHZ and someone working in IBD at Merrill is significant enough to affect a relationship? Get a freaking clue.

    Relax buddy, it was an honest hypothetical question. And clearly others on this board thought it was a topic worth discussing.

    The reason others on this board thought it was a topic worth discussing is because... well, because of the type of person who tends to hang out on this board.

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  • LizzieJane's picture

    It's a little silly to group the female bankers all together like this. Just because we're in the same profession doesn't mean we're ALL more apt to date (or not date) certain people. While my job may say a lot about me it certainly doesn't define who I am. It would be a very inaccurate picture if I were to be judged solely on my choice of profession.

    Power (which money is often a proxy for) is definitely a theme in relationships though. It's caused me a lot of grief with exes because we needed different types of interaction from our relationship. Some people need to dominate (or be dominated), others need equality. You just have to find where you are on the scale and find someone that's compatible - sometimes that means his job matters, sometimes it doesn't.

  • CompBanker's picture

    Interesting thread...

    As someone who works at a quality MM, not a single individual in my analyst class has a desire to work at a bulge bracket firm. In fact, many of us are counting our blessings that we have 100% job security and are pretty much going to be making more than the street this year with a substantially lower cost of living. The truth is, most of the guys I work with are just really bright guys who just want successful careers without the need to completely sacrifice their youth. People talk about how their next job will definitely be at a "lifestyle" firm and they would never take positions at the likes of Audax / Summit / Other shitty sweat shop PE firms! The mentality is just completely different. Dating someone who works at a BB firm would be more likely to trigger feelings of pity than jealousy.

    To be honest, I'm really surprised in this day and age by any man who feels as though they need to be making more money than their spouse. My girlfriend has aspirations of being a CFO for an international company and I truly hope she achieves it (and brings in way more bank than me). I find it important to act as a "team" and not to view it as my salary vs hers. Bsides, for all those guys who are scared that a chick will only be interested in their money, this is a perfect way to dispell any suspicians. I'm very surprised that all of the people here, who are sacrificing so much in the pursuit of wealth, would be opposed to having even more wealth. Once you're married the money is all going into the same pot anyways and who is bringing in what will certainly never be a topic of conversation.

    CompBanker

  • aloki's picture

    My dad is an exec at a F500, but my mom is a specialized surgeon and brings in more than he does. It really wasn't an issue until several years into the marriage and definitely pops up every once in a while. Compbanker, it's nice to think the way you do now, but keep in mind that it may not always be that way. You may be the type of guy and your spouse the type of girl that can accept a shifted power balance, but after some time a lot of couples struggle with it. If you guys manage to stay the way you are, then all the better for you. I'm just saying that based on personal experience, time and money can change behavior.

  • aloki's picture

    As to myself, I wouldn't mind dating someone who makes more. I actually seek out more successful/older girls anyways (still in college, not quite in the working world). To me, a salary differential wouldn't be an issue as long as my spouse doesn't hold it over me. I don't know about a lot of you, but I'm happy to see my girlfriend succeed. I've got big aspirations and so far have done well for myself, but if my girlfriend manages to be more successful, all the better for her and for us.

  • Vertere's picture

    A woman who's better than me at something is a major turn-on.

  • soul09's picture

    It depends on your commitment in relationships... as for me I could care less as long as we get to spend time together (occasionally... haha). I don't care about her status, her money, only that she loves and respects me just as I do, her. I don't know how some of you guys do it, but props on having a successful relationship while in banking.

  • soul09's picture

    no pun intended.

  • In reply to ghosht
    SwappieMonster's picture

    ghosht wrote:
    theres a banker chick in my group, nice on the outside, reasonably attractive. she is the most selfish, cold hearted, calculating woman i've ever come across in my life. all the while being nice. there were times when we've had conversations about committment and relationships, and she says " i'd neverrr do that for a guy, or i'd never ever do that for a husband". she loves money and is also very shallow and would stab her friends to get ahead. so smart, not bad looking, ambitious, and horrible girl friend/wife material all at the same time. I pity the guy who would marry her.

    Hehe, reminds me of a girl I met on the trading floor last summer. She seemed so sweet and nice and smart at first... But she turned out to be the most cold-blooded, back-stabbing, opportunistic and calculating female I've ever met. At a certain point, she specifically told me (and a bunch of other SA's) that she only dates men who are also working in finance and are a bit more senior than she is, so that she can benefit from their mentoring and network. She then went on to say that she was now looking to date an MD or something (she was a summer associate). I jokingly said that maybe she could start off with a VP or even a smart associate. She didn't even get the sarcasm, and continued rambling about some of her friends having made that exact mistake as well, but how really she wanted someone who had climbed up the ladder all the way (meaning an MD or PMD) or maybe a buyside guy and blablabla... It was fucking amazing, we all laughed our ass of when she was gone.

    Anyhow, this episode reminded me of why I don't date finance women. I tend to prefer academics and artsy types - they can be really driven and ambitious too, but it's at least not about money and prestige (usually).

  • fp175's picture

    It's totally ridiculous that you would equate all finance women to that woman. None of my friends in finance (or myself) are like that. I avoid those type of women.

    Having spent enough time in the bathrooms of bars and clubs, I can tell you right now that there are plenty of women not working in banking who are just as calculating when it comes to meeting men in finance. They have no ambition other than to marry a rich guy - and that's pretty scary. At least that chick wanted to network for her own career through a partner, rather than just being a straight-up golddigger.

    You should really focus on the qualities you dislike in a potential partner, rather than her profession. It will get you a lot further.

  • In reply to fp175
    SwappieMonster's picture

    fp175 wrote:
    It's totally ridiculous that you would equate all finance women to that woman. None of my friends in finance (or myself) are like that.

    Maybe so, but why even take the risk? I dig academic types, they tend to dig me, and I have yet to meet the first PhD student in medieval history who is after me for my money/experience. Same with (most) artists. With finance girls you never know.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are some nice, sweet, genuine women in this industry indeed. But it's just too much effort to weed out the bad ones. It's the same principle as why banks don't recruit at non-targets, really :-p. I have to go through much less bad dates to find a good girl this way.

  • In reply to SwappieMonster
    yawster's picture

    SwappieMonster wrote:
    It's the same principle as why banks don't recruit at non-targets, really :-p. I have to go through much less bad dates to find a good girl this way.

    Touché my good man. Touché. LOL

  • In reply to SwappieMonster
    sleepisfortheweak's picture

    ghosht wrote:
    theres a banker chick in my group, nice on the outside, reasonably attractive. she is the most selfish, cold hearted, calculating woman i've ever come across in my life.

    SwappieMonster wrote:

    Hehe, reminds me of a girl I met on the trading floor last summer. She seemed so sweet and nice and smart at first... But she turned out to be the most cold-blooded, back-stabbing, opportunistic and calculating female I've ever met.

    Right, because females should totally be nice, sweet, naive/not calculating and survive on the trading floor, right? Since everyone (read: men) are just as competitive as the woman you've described here, she and the other females in banking feel the need to overcompensate for their gender, such as acting "cold-blooded" or overly tough. This reminds me of another comment in a female-in-banking related thread (actually I think it's from fp175)-- "I can be aggressive.. but only at work." Ask yourself: are you as much of a cowboy or obedient monkey when you're on a date and off work?

    With that said, it is absolutely your choice whether you limit your selection to a certain type of career or personality..though I have to agree with fp- females can be calculating from any field. While career choices may affect her personality, many other factors can influence how she thinks more. i.e. you can make a good argument on how a woman's current financial situation correlates with her tendency to gold dig.

  • tropos's picture

    I'm a female and speaking from experience, there are plenty of backstabbing women out there who would throw you under the bus in a second if they could. That's not every woman though. I mean, do the women who reply to your posts here, do we sound like we would throw you under the bus?

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  • In reply to fp175
    LizzieJane's picture

    While it may be more efficient to rule us all out as undate-able, incompatibility may be an issue. My exes were all from totally unrelated fields and in the beginning it was refreshing. But after time it always wore on the relationship because we didn't understand what the other was going through on a day-to-day basis. It's difficult to come home to someone who has no idea what you do, or what it takes to do it.
    Hahaha, perfect example: read the thread about conflicts with SO's in the workplace...

    fp175 wrote:
    I can tell you right now that there are plenty of women not working in banking who are just as calculating when it comes to meeting men in finance. They have no ambition other than to marry a rich guy - and that's pretty scary. At least that chick wanted to network for her own career through a partner, rather than just being a straight-up golddigger.

    I also think it's pretty scary when I hear people talking about how desperately they want to marry into wealth. It makes makes me feel badly for their prospective SO. Sure, on the surface they seems like a great catch, but it's not like they're ever going to tell you they're dating you for your earning potential.

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    fp175 wrote:
    I can tell you right now that there are plenty of women not working in banking who are just as calculating when it comes to meeting men in finance. They have no ambition other than to marry a rich guy - and that's pretty scary.

    I confirm this as 200% true!

    I know so many women who have put an unbelievable amount of time and effort into meeting a wealthy investment banker. For example, if they know bankers are prone to hang out on Fridays at a local bar close to work, they will be there. If they know someone who knows someone in banking, they work very hard to put themselves in the same social circle to meet their future banker husband. If they know that X banker is on the board of XYZ not-for-profit foundation, they will join as a volunteer. They will do anything so that they're well positioned to meet a banker. And I kid you not, they have tried to befriend me in order to meet a banker! It's insane. Pathetic really.

    My standards are low. I just want to meet a kind man with a nice butt who's a great kisser and is crazy about me. LOL!

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