Friend zoned, now what...
Hey guys, been lurking on these boards for a while...can't believe my first post is about relationships, but so it is. All the depressing talk around here about marriage and relationships (and in real life) made me realize that a good thing is REALLY hard to come by.
Basically, known this girl since college. She's the rare perfect relationship material type - cute, smart, cooks, plays sports and good at it too, video games (?!), works in finance, can laugh w me, blah blah blah. Always had a thing for her but lately it's dawned on me that if I don't make a move she might get taken real fast...so, what to do?
Thing I don't get with her is that she's friends with a bunch of guys but she's staying single...and no she's not a slut, we run in the same circles so it's easy to tell. So now I'm like one of the guys she hangs out with as friends...no idea how to break out of this position...and I'm on this site on a Saturday night. Yea..how to do it with the LEAST damage potential to friendship?
Advice? Is it even worth risking? Or just forget about it and move on?





You've come to exactly the
You've come to exactly the right place.
She probably has no idea
She probably has no idea about your feelings so making a big move might be too risky. I think maybe asking her to a movie or lunch, something casual, would be a good idea. Then maybe a week after you could ask her out to dinner which would be more of a date, and that way it'd be obvious without you really having to say it. If she says yes, she probably likes you, and if no, then well at least you got your answer.
This may not be one of the
This may not be one of the best advice, but how about just explicitly asking her out on a date? Don't do one of those "Would you like to get coffee with me?" questions because that can seem very vague and she'd probably take it as a friendly gesture, but actually express your emotions straight up with her and asking her on a date. This may depend on the type of person you are though, because I'm more on the straight-forward side of the spectrum when it comes to expressing emotions, so I feel comfortable with this method.
You gotta create
You gotta create attraction...friendship is cool but it doesn't create attraction...How do you do it? You gotta talk to her about interesting things not the common things friends talk about (problems, work). You gotta tease her and make small jokes at her and then flirt and very importantly watch how she responds. You gotta show her that you are a price she would like to have, so you gotta act like you are the price. Hang out with another girl and make sure she knows about it and sees it. Leave her hanging by not telling her the full story about whatever. Don't be needy and beyond all stop being a caring friend. That's unattractive. A combination of these things might spur a spark of attraction in her (assuming you are alright physically) ...Good luck
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forgetfulmonkey wrote: She
She probably has no idea about your feelings so making a big move might be too risky.
If you are friend now...making a straight forward bold headed move will make it all look awkward and uncomfortable (so i agree with the comment above) ...you have make sure she sends you the right signals...it's a one way street.
Do what you want not what you can!
Be more sexually attractive.
Be more sexually attractive.
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Show her you're wanted by others and she'll realize she's sitting on an accessible treasure. When you show her you have options, you'll be all the more desirable. It's exactly like leveraging offers.
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My advice is: models and bottles, pre nup and hit it and quit it.
Oh, and sack up.
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bro u gotta hop up out da
bro u gotta hop up out da bed, turn yo swag on, take a look in tha mirror say WHAT UP. Get dat money, throw some hunnets in her face and let her know u can ball.
then she gon know u fo real.
If you've dropped a hint
If you've dropped a hint before and she friend zoned you after that, it's probably a hint back from her that she's not interested...
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Ask her out to dinner and a
Ask her out to dinner and a movie, and a few more dinners after that. Escalate the conversation to something beyond the typical friend zone bullshit. Gauge her reactions. If positive, find the opportune time to let her know how you feel. If she says no, be cool with the fact that you at least have clarity. Not knowing where you stand with a lady is stressful. If you cannot be friends after that, it sucks, but so be it. You were not content merely being friends with her, so you went for it. All or nothing. You deal with the blow and move on.
Tennis Champ wrote: Be more
Be more sexually attractive.
Yeah. Become tall and good looking. That should help...
Get her drunk and have her
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Date other girls and have her
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Take her on 3 dates. After
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