Girl trouble - am I being petty?
Ok monkeys, be gentle with me.
When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. So I told her how I felt to kinda compensate for the what may appear to be semi regular contact. She was angry at ms for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months she remained in the country (she was from Pakistan, smoking hot as well) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.
So she left and we remained in touch via Facebook. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise. We started skyping, calls and texts again
Finally, I actually visited Pakistan because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.
I'm graduating next week (year late because graduation is always a year later here) and she's gonna be there. Would it be petty for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.
Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
Monkeys, normally I wouldn't out this stuff up here but you guys have been pretty helpful to me thus far and really need some advice. I don't wanna be a douchebag but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can click her fingers and I'll come running.
Apologies for the long post but thought it better to present the full story.





tl; dr / grow a pair
tl; dr / grow a pair
you're being petty. Chances
you're being petty. Chances are she likes you but has issues beyond male comprehension.
lets put it this way. a real man wouldnt be bothered by that. he'd get on with his life, let her get on with hers without doing any chasing and she'd come running back.
P.s.tip for future. Her way of not replying was a way of keeping your attention.
As one of the above posters
As one of the above posters said, she's got some shit going on that's beyond male comprehension. She probably doesn't even know what she wants. There really is only one tactic that has any chance of salvaging it. If you continue on your current course, you're going to be permanently "friended".
Here it is - you need to bang someone else and make sure she knows about it. Seriously. All the better if you pick said girl up at a bar in front of her, dance a bit, make out, and then take said new girl home. She needs to know she can't drag her feet, and needs to see that you'll bounce elsewhere if she keeps this shit up and she'll miss her chance. Plus there's a lot of basic female psychology you'll trigger that will make her want you after seeing you with another hot girl. Do it, don't apologize.
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She is a women if you were
She is a women if you were suppose to understand she'd tell you in black in white. In other words, just keep it moving. Lastly, yes you're being petty..holding a grudge over a girl no need no time. FBGM
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God only knows whats going
God only knows whats going through her mind.
I agree w/ everything the above posters have said. Just make sure, whatever you wind up doing, that you don't lose your dignity and manhood. Looking like a self-sorry, unconfident pushover won't get you anything other than pity.
Duuuude, you're letting her
Duuuude, you're letting her play you. You gotta let her know that you got bigger fish to fry. I don't mean that you should completely ignore her, but make sure she understands that your time is important. Girls aren't that difficult once you understand they want your attention (initially)....eventually they want much more, sometimes more than you'd be willing to give up for them.
I say you say hi to her and make small talk, but show no aggressive emotions. Make sure you act like you got other things going on in life (hopefully you actually DO have other things going on).
Good luck, if it doesn't work out make sure you play your cards right on the next one.
Oh yea, some Paki girls are pretty hot, hotter than indian girls (unless you're dating a bollywood actress), just my opinion.
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@ adiolan & op: Not to be a
@ adiolan & op: Not to be a dick for the sake of being a dick, but with this girl, you already have 'lost your dignity & manhood' and 'looked like a self-sorry, unconfident pushover' to quote adolian.
First, you need to completely forget this broad because she is unsalvageable. Then, you need to take some time to find and read some resources that are available about game or whatever you want to call it unless you want to get played, fucked with, and just generally used by bitches for the rest of your life. Its society's fault more than yours that you're dealing with women in this conventional manner, but the earlier you improve this the better.
wow... here's a free
wow... here's a free lesson
1) From the book of Insecuritas (9:14:1): 'Treat a girl like dirt and she'll stick to you like mud.'
When you see her, tell her that it's nice to see her, and that she shouldn't listen to "what everyone has been saying" because she doesn't look "all that bad". Then don't talk to her. She'll get pissed and her insecurities will start to eat her alive... and she'll skype you within the next week looking for some sort of validation. If she complains say "listen woman, why the fuck you trying to stress me all the time? We haven't even fucked *yet* and you act like we're married... you scare me"... She'll be mad and likely act all offended and hang up... just wait - patiently. It won't be more than 48 more hours till she calls TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU. At that point, suggest perhaps that she takes you out for a drink to say sorry... proceed to get smashed and then do work on that ass... she'll be begging for it, wondering if she really is looking ugly or if you still want her.
Class dismissed
Girls and their fucking
Girls and their fucking games... of course a woman would get mad at you for ignoring her after she constantly ignores you. Are all women so self entitled? I'm also sick of their games and I'm going to use them for the only use most of the crazy ones have... a cum dumpster.
Try finding a girl that doesn't play games... God speed. I think you'll have a better chance becoming partner at KKR.
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Very simple: You say hello to
Very simple: You say hello to her but then immediately begin talking to another girl. She will most likely get jealous and try to pry herself between you and your new interest. This is the important part, you stay on target like Jek Tono Porkins and give her nothing.
She will then be all over you.
Doesn't know what she wants /
Doesn't know what she wants / fucking games.
adiolan wrote: God only knows
God only knows whats going through her mind.
I agree w/ everything the above posters have said. Just make sure, whatever you wind up doing, that you don't lose your dignity and manhood. Looking like a self-sorry, unconfident pushover won't get you anything other than pity.
Thats what I'm saying. I dont want to be considered petty, i.e. someone holding a grudge over a small matter (to some not necessarily to me) for so long (will be a year).
But also worried that if I act like I'm OK with what transpired, it makes me look like an idiot. She can do whatever and I will come back.
Arbrotrageur wrote: @ adiolan
@ adiolan & op: Not to be a dick for the sake of being a dick, but with this girl, you already have 'lost your dignity & manhood' and 'looked like a self-sorry, unconfident pushover' to quote adolian.
First, you need to completely forget this broad because she is unsalvageable. Then, you need to take some time to find and read some resources that are available about game or whatever you want to call it unless you want to get played, fucked with, and just generally used by bitches for the rest of your life. Its society's fault more than yours that you're dealing with women in this conventional manner, but the earlier you improve this the better.
I dont want to salvage anything anyway. Its not like I still am in love with her. Plus, the thing with Pakistani women is that they are a tease. My friend said that they like to come abroad, have their fun and go back home and marry where their parents wish is.
I want to be friends as I want her in my life but is that unsalvageable?
Im with Busey wrote: Very
Very simple: You say hello to her but then immediately begin talking to another girl. She will most likely get jealous and try to pry herself between you and your new interest. This is the important part, you stay on target like Jek Tono Porkins and give her nothing.
She will then be all over you.
That doesnt work. She's very stubborn. I've done it once after we hooked up. She wasnt that interested and carried on with her evening. She's a really outgoing girl and has loads of friends so if its not me, she'll hang with someone else.
Again, to make it clear, I've passed the stage of me still having feelings for her but if I ignore her, she'll think its an unrequited love thing when it so isnt.
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Dude. paki girls are like
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