Ok monkeys, be gentle with me.
When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. So I told her how I felt to kinda compensate for the what may appear to be semi regular contact. She was angry at ms for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months she remained in the country (she was from Pakistan, smoking hot as well) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.
So she left and we remained in touch via Facebook. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise. We started skyping, calls and texts again
Finally, I actually visited Pakistan because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.
I'm graduating next week (year late because graduation is always a year later here) and she's gonna be there. Would it be petty for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.
Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
Monkeys, normally I wouldn't out this stuff up here but you guys have been pretty helpful to me thus far and really need some advice. I don't wanna be a douchebag but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can click her fingers and I'll come running.
Apologies for the long post but thought it better to present the full story.