Girls on train

Currently on the train. Wanted to see what any of you fellow gentleman thought about starting a convo with a girl (or full on woman) while heading to or from the cubicle.

Is it weird and generally off limits as I perceive it to be, or has anyone had productive experiences doing this and gotten a date out of it? Realistically, we're meeting people off Hot-or-Not apps these days, so it shouldn't be that weird, but at the same time people tend to come off as unapproachable and angry on the trains... Especially attractive girls. Anyway, wanted to see if anyone had insight or experiences, do's and dont's.

Netflix and chill season is quickly approaching, it's a dangerous time to be timid

 

Part of me wants to advise you to continue staring at the girl across the car, hoping you'll find her on Tinder, then hoping once again that she'll swipe right on you before embarking on the dizzying, lust-filled adventure that you've seen happen 1000 times on TV.

HOWEVER,

I would recommend growing a pair and saying hi. That's like, literally all you have to do. I don't know why you think approaching people the "old" way (read: normal) is uncouth, but its how you got here, its how your dad got here, and its how people will continue to breed ad infinitum. Ladies will always appreciate the man who isn't afraid to go after something he wants, and in the most basic form that is being able to approach her and have a normal fucking conversation.

 

Girls generally seem a little stand-offish on the train on the way to work. The train ride on the way home might be a better option, unless you get home at 2am every night.

With that said, Fridays are your best bet. They are generally in a better mood right before the weekend (obviously). As the user above me said, just have a normal conversation. No need to dive in showing you want to get in her pants, simply talk about a book she is reading, the music she is listening to, what she does for a living, etc. Good luck. I haven't been single in a while so I'm not sure how well this still works but you should be fine

 
giantdad:

AKA keep staring at her until she leaves or starts grinding on you

Which is what happens if you don't have the balls to follow through.

For the rest of us it works by checking to see if she holds eye contact, then start a conversation if she does.

 

Say hi and maybe you can shove your mushroom tip inside some sweet sugar walls and leave da nuts hangin out

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Did it last friday kinda. It was awesome. I was walking to the train after work and i saw this super babe ask someone for directions and i could somewhat make out where she was heading. Turns out, i was going to the same place so i followed her for a bit, stared at her amazing ass and even untucked my shirt. This is creepy I thought to myself, so to make it less creepy i talked to her like the semi-normal individual that i am. "Hey, you seem lost, do you need any help" i said and she replies "yes, where can i find the train station?" score.

We walked there together and chatted about the normal stuff and realized we were both going to the same destination. She was a half finnish/swedish chick attending a college in my town, so we were headed to the same stop. Perfect. We got to the train but it was too packed to sit together, but she sat right behind me. Once the train cleared up and there was an open seat i asked her if she wanted to sit with me until our stop, which she agreed upon. We chatted some more, talked about our weekend plans and what not, so i asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime. She said yeah, so i asked her for her number. She said I could find her on Facebook. Foreigners, man.

 

Some guy followed my wife out of the subway in downtown NYC this morning, tapped her on the shoulder, introduced himself as some Canadian who works at Goldman Sachs, told her she was beautiful.

She cut to the point and told him she is married. Thing is, she doesn't wear a ring. He spotted that, told her she was being mean and was a bitch.

Now she's considering changing her route to work to avoid running into this guy again.

So which one of you mouth breathing, subway stalker fucks was this?

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HerSerendipity:
Most likely, girls keep their headphones in because they don't want to speak to anyone on the subway. I've had guys tap me on the shoulder though to ask me for the time or whatever and segued from there.

that's obvious enough to me, but I really don't care. If men have to be the ones to make the move and subject themselves to the pain of rejections, we'll damn well make the move when we want to - even if rejection is likely.

I think most people - myself included - listen to their ipods out of habit, but I certainly wouldn't be averse to a conversation with an attractive stranger. It'd be a nice change of pace.

I'm going to employ Marcus' strategy the next time the situation arises.

 

Have to agree with HS on this one. I take it your not interested in hitting up random women listening to their ipods but rather have someone particular in mind that you see regularly.

This is not an easy approach at all because the Ipod is acting as a shield. Talking to random hot chicks on the subway is already hard enough as it is.

If you really want to press just try what Marcus suggested, you have about 10 seconds to make her feel comfortable before your window runs out. Dont flake just be confident.

"Oh the ladies ever tell you that you look like a fucking optical illusion" - Frank Slaughtery 25th Hour.

"Oh the ladies ever tell you that you look like a fucking optical illusion" - Frank Slaughtery 25th Hour.
 

Just make it look like an accident, kind of like the way a chick might be talking to friends at a bar, and you lightly touch her and say excuse me, then begin a conversation. The subway/ipod isn't the problem, I'm more concerned about your game, or lack thereof. Suit up!!!

 

it sounds like a joke but if you can look attractive and you cross eyes with her a couple of times, smile nicely, attractively, confidently, you can even succeed with a pitch like "i've been thinking how to start a conversation with you this entire trip. is it at least good music?" and you start a conversation about music, completely random. if you know your music but don't come off as a know-it-all you could get her, unless of course she's not single, or gay, or having her period (and so is short tempered) or just a plain bitch. fun!

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"... then, lobbest thou thy Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch towards thy foe, who, being naughty in My sight, shall snuff it."
 

Odds are stacked against you. Unless you are drop dead gorgeous, she'll be pissed if you interrupt her. If you catch her eye one day, tell her you always see her on the subway listening to her music and wonder what she's listening to. She'll start recognizing you, and hopefully one day soon you can actually have a real conversation with her.

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you can follow her into a dark alley and improvise from there :P

random hackneyed words of wisdom

"... then, lobbest thou thy Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch towards thy foe, who, being naughty in My sight, shall snuff it."
 

Saw this thread name in "Awesome Related WSO Content" at the bottom of another thread and had to check out which year it was from. iPods are something from like a decade ago. I remember when every little shit in middle school had to have one of these to be cool like everybody else.

As for this thread, when somebody has headphones on, in the gym, on a bus, wherever, it's mostly a way of saying "don't bother my ass." I wear them in certain environments to discourage random conversations I don't want. Like avoiding the dude who loves to bullshit with everybody in the gym and never does anything. I don't do it because I like Mozart or whoever.

 

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