Have job...feel empty! Help
Hey guys,
So I have a job lined up for summer. Great group at best BB but I feel kind of
Empty about it.
I wanted this for a long time but what now?
I've achieved my goals.
Any advice
Hey guys,
So I have a job lined up for summer. Great group at best BB but I feel kind of
Empty about it.
I wanted this for a long time but what now?
I've achieved my goals.
Any advice
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You're telling me you got an internship at an elite Wall Street firm and your life is still not complete??
When I got my internship I remember seeing the heavens open up and not having a worry in the world. That was the peak of my life and now it's all downhill from here.
I'd try to take some time off from the whole career thinking. Probably you got all worked up about the job/SA hunt that you fell a bit into a hole.
While it might be that you just focused on it because you got sucked in from business school group think and you actually never wanted this for yourself, I think it's more likely that you were so short term focused that you just need to gain some perspective at this point.
You ask "what now" and I can definitely tell you that there will always be more goals to conquer in the future. There will always be a more awesome or rewarding job and there will always be a gazillion personal challenges. For now, just take some free time and do something to open the horizon. Probably you should first get drunk and party, then go travel or simply take time to read some non-work related books and stuff.
Getting a job doesn't fill you up, family and friends, and a career in which you can develop yourself over time for example do. So look a bit into the future and spend quality time with your dearest. You can be proud about your achievement, enjoy the present and also know a single achievement doesn't set you up for the rest of your life, think long term as well!
Ah ha ha ha... HAHAHAHAHA. You then know the secret of fulfillment. The world is transient and our goals are temporal. All things turn to dust in time and nothing that anyone else can offer you in terms of money, power or prestige can make you happy. Only you can do that.
For more on this, see how lottery winners often spend all their money on bullshit and are in worse shape a couple of years down the line than the average person.
Lol you haven't even started.
Who knows; Greece defaults, Euro zone goes then you can regain your purpose on the job trail once more.
I don't have a job, haven't been accepted to an MSF yet, and still have to take my GMAT. Let's trade places!
You poor thing!
Job at the best BB, eh. So... MS, then.
Zing!
I am kind of like you. This guy sheds some light on it. I am sure it is obvious anyway.
If you don't have the time (12 minutes), watch from 9:25 till the end. Actually, watch the whole thing when you have time, it's a great talk.
lol you are gonna be a sad man one day if all your life's goals are around career... esp if your goal begins and ends at getting a summer job.
OP, I absolutely understand where you are coming from, and I think that some criticism that you have received was undeserved. Back when I was recruiting for SA, I was so focused on the process that nothing else around me existed. Mainly because I realized that if I don't get a BB job after graduation, I am going back to my home country (smaller banks generally don't sponsor for visas so that wasn't an option). Though I did attend a very well known school, it was complete non-target in terms of IB recruiting, so I always knew I will have to work my butt off to land an SA offer.
Anyway, I did get an offer from my top choice, which I was extremely happy about, but the next day I remember sitting in my dorm room and thinking to myself "Now what?". For 6 months my life was revolving non-stop around preparation, networking and interviewing, and all these things that became a part of my routine were not there anymore.
OP, yes, I understand that it might "feel empty", but that is happening because you perhaps forgot that you actually had a life before recruiting started! Now you can catch up with your friends, read books for pleasure, take some silly classes, or maybe instead focus on serious classes! The choices of things that you can do/ achieve are endless, you just need to remind yourself that they are out-there.
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i\'m sure this happens a lot, you focus so hard on reaching that goal that when you actually reach it - it takes awhile to sink it. Enjoy it, relax, and reward yourself a bit / have some fun. After that set up your next goal for something in the future.
I hate this thread.
I know the feeling. Similar thing happened to me when I got the job I\'d been gunning for. After being so motivated and working so hard and for so long for something, it\'s strange to just have .... nothing else to strive for.
I turned that motivation towards bodybuilding/general fitness and the way I see it, either the motivation dies and you chill the fuck out, or you get unbelievably swole. Win win.
im sure once you\'re working 100+ hour weeks you\'ll reach a new level of emptiness so don\'t worry about it bro
Totally agree man. Got an offer for a summer position at a BB this week, and felt so much relief, but also that "emptiness" you talk about.
I think just take time and reflect on some new goals. That's what I'm doing. Getting back into working on my physical fitness, and get myself pumped to kill my summer internship!
I hear ya, OP; it's like your whole life revolves around this one thing, and then once you get it, you forget what you had been doing with your time prior to that. Take some time to celebrate, or pick up something else productive to spend your time on, like working out or learning something new.
Try getting laid
A career path is not a destination, it is a journey. Getting a job means nothing until you've started and made a size dent in it. A lot of people (especially Western culture) think of success in milestones. If you buy in to the fact that milestones in your life is supposed to mean something (or supposed to make you happy), you're in for a very big disappointment. These milestones (e.g. getting a job, a promotion etc.) are merely just events in your life. So all I'm trying to say is, stop focusing on these events and just enjoy the journey.
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