Ignoring personal problems

you need 2 put your P in a V, then B your L on somebody's T's

Step 1: Ask thineself, art thou human? Step 2: Confirm that thou art human. Step 3: Being that thou art human, thou shallst have feelings. Step 4; Let us now take a lesson from the book of Euro, Chapter 8, years 2008-2012; "Yea, let us gather and eat and drink and be merry, verily kicking this can down the road." Step 5: Know and hold dear that you should not subjugate your core happiness to the will of King MDicus.

If it is really bothering you that much, go talk to her or do whatever you need to do to resolve it now. You won't get anything done at your desk anyway if you're really as distressed as you say you are.

Well, having a gf means you have weaknesses. Find them and get rid of them. Only then you will be truly free.

Good luck.

CanadianPositiveCarry:

So, I need some tips on how to become a bit of a sociopath. I am a smart kid, but my brain turns retarded when I am facing big personal issues. For example, right now I have to pull an all-righter worth of pitchbook-updating-slavery. However, me and my gf just broke up over the phone, and I can't get that shit off my mind. Any tips on how to handle personal issues at work? Is there any trick to just "box" negative emotions, so you can deal with them later. I'm a guy and I can't have relationship BS interfering with my career.

PS I already went to the gym for 2 hours, and it didn't help much

PSS I know I sound like a chick haha

haha, love the feedback guys

Ball up into a fetal position, blaring savage garden and scream it wasn't me.

the problem is not that he's not getting laid

it's that his ex-GF is cruising bars getting slammed by multiple cocks every night and the imagery is killing him

Fuck this, never again am I getting into a relationship. Meaningless sex with strangers > relationship bullshit. Seriously, now I am starting to understand why senior execs are slaying high class hookers instead of getting into relationships. Thurs, fri, sat = planning to OD on NYC pussy! :)

Sometimes you just have to crank through, no matter how you're feeling.

also, dat imagery, melvvar

glad I broke up before work started LOL

The most important lesson from my first internship was to never let your "feelings" show, EVER. Showing that you're human (in that your life has ups and downs) is the beginning of the end. You are a happy cheery motherfucker at work, and nothing is bothering or holding you down, end of story.

Those whose minds need a break get a drug habit. When you are getting high (or drunk), that is pure happiness. During that drag, that toke, that shot - you are taking a glimpse into the heavens.

During my smoke breaks, I've always thought that "this is the happiest moment in my life". No one is telling you to do anything: what to think, what to wear, what to say, how to feel, how to behave....it is you, by yourself, with that burning stick. Looking back at all the moments in my life, good and shitty, I have never experienced such serene tranquillity.

Relationships are a very natural and beneficial aspect of life. If your coping mechanism of a failed relationship involves turning into a souless sociopath then you have problems.

My ex broke up with me in a phone call just before a presentation I was making to a client. It hurt like hell (and I deserved it) but I had a job to do and soldiered on. Real men dont turn all emo and emotionally reckless simply because they got heartbroken. Man the fuck up son!

I might be crazy, but when I broke up with my ex-gf, I went back to work, stayed there till midnight and went home and slept it off.

CanadianPositiveCarry:

However, me and my gf just broke up over the phone,

My gf and I...

stop being canadian..quick! change your citizenship to something less gay.

also, stop being a pussy and slay some dragons...gotta slay the dragons and mountain trolls before you get to the princess...MOVE ONNNN

You know how hippies and new age assholes always say "give yourself to others" and "humanity is beautiful"? A lot of them are tards but some of their ideas are pretty valid. Why would you want to be the 40 yr old that can't maintain a relationship and fucks hookers and whores? You look down on those poor bastards. Just man up and find the woman that will support you in your profession. Ben Fountain, writer of Brief Encounters with Che Guevara, sucked at writing for years before hitting it big in 2006 and his wife supported him through all of it.

In terms of the broader picture of emotions at work, the same principle stands; man the fuck up. It's okay to be sad, discouraged, depressed, and angry. Those are all human and natural. Just don't burden your coworkers with them. They shouldn't be in your personal business anyway. Share it with family and friends and I'm sure your support system will back you 100%.

Start wearing suspenders to work. Suspenders > confidence > other girlfriends > forgetting about your girlfriend > problem solved.

Or, you know, you could always wank one off using your own tears as lubricant.

First of all, pat yourself on the back and consider yourself a lucky man. Now you can potentially have sex with any girl you meet (without feeling guilty) and that's awesome. Even if it is a Canadian girl...just kidding.

Go expand your social circle asap. Take risks when you do it and make it exciting. Once you get things rolling, make tons of new friends, see the potential of meeting new women and how easy it is, you will feel like a new man. Thoughts of your ex will eventually fade and you will forget why you were even with her.

It might feel like a struggle at first, but push through it.

If you're doing 80-100hrs a week, I don't know.

But, if you can carve out the time, look up social/networking groups such as Young Professional Societies that hold networking events in your city. Events are usually at a popular bar or restaurant. Some groups are general, and some are industry specific. This can be a great way to expand your network.

Use Facebook and linkedin to research these groups your city and message the founders that you want to get involved. They will be very welcoming.

I met someone through a mutual friend that started a fundraising group (which I plan to join) that throws charity events at (mostly) bars/lounges in my city. His friends' father I was introduced to is a professor at Wharton. I happen to be looking into MBA programs right now.... not a bad contact to have.

Network.

Call up acquaintences you haven't seen in a long time to grab a beer. Get introduced to their friends. Make an effort to stay in touch with people by planning ahead if you can. Don't bring up your ex in conversation with new people.

Only talk your close friends ear off about what happened. When you're sick of hearing yourself whine you should naturally end up doing what I've suggested.

sorry man... i'm late to the thread. contrary to what some have suggested, I wouldn't actually try talking to her. because you probably initially broke up because she is ignorant and doesnt understand certain things you do / why you cant give her attention because of this internship etc etc. so if you talk to her, she'll just stay ignorant, blame you, and make you feel worse.

been where you are.. night before the deadline to my big intern project (interned in bb s&t, where you can't actually do actual work.. so my little project weighed a lot), my ex called and blamed me for being unavailable, and i think just kept blaming me until i started crying, and/or proceeded to break up/go on a break. he more or less ruined my project/shot at getting an offer at that specific rotation.

i think i just kept trying to fix it over the phone, and got myself into deeper shit and really couldnt focus .. in retrospect both the relationship and project might've turned out better if we stopped our blame war earlier in the evening. we all hope you feel better. you are strong for seeking out help so you can continue to be efficient and do well.. but there isn't much you can do than just try your best to focus. if it doesnt require a lot of thinking, i'd blast loud music on an ipod or something to get your mind off her. sorry i can't offer much other than telling you that many of us have been there (ignorant ex's).

you're a hopeless retard. grow some balls you idiot.

Think that if you can go through this, you will grow as a person.

I had feelings interfering in my work during college. My 15yr old dog died 2 days before I had to deliver an important presentation by myself in a class of 60 people. The prof chose just a select group of students, and had already told me I had to take up half of the class time. I was deeply sad when we had to put down my dog, but thought that telling that to my prof would sound as a lie and that if I could go through that it would "harden" myself. Thing like that would happen many times during my life time and I could not let that interfere with my carreer/goals.

My name should give you a hint of what you should do. Just try not to think about it, don't talk to her again till you are done with the pressing work you gotta do.