Life potential is ruined and I feel trapped and chanceless

I wasted so much potential.

Wasted so much time and I am still doing it.

I am 23 years old when I graduate with an economics degree with a 3.5 GPA. No work expierence.

I know I wont make it to the top anymore, I wasted my opportunity. I cannot live with this. I dont want a regular job. I know I am smart enough for a lot of things but I just have 0 discipline and I keep having 0 discipline. I had the brain to ackomplish anything I wanted.

I dont know what to do. I have just taken an oxazepam.

I hate myself.

Has anyone ever been in the same situation and recovered?

 

Grow a pair and sort it out. You're 23, you've fucked up college but the rest of your life is only starting. You claim you had the brain to accomplish anything yet you've got nothing on paper to prove it. I used to spend my time convincing myself I was smart enough to do anything if I could only have the discipline. I finally realised convincing myself I'm fantastic doesn't achieve shit, only hard work does. Grow a pair and get your act together. Popping benzos wont solve it.

 

Intelligence without discipline is useless in the real world. As a point, there are countless hoards of people out there, such as yourself, who are intelligent but lack discipline, so yours is not a particularly unique case. Practically speaking, in careers like IB a much higher premium is placed on discipline than on intelligence, as extreme self discipline is a rare quality indeed.

My advice to you: As the old Marine adage goes, "embrace the suck". Learn to enjoy what you would otherwise hate--this is part of the growing up process. If you take pleasure in doing certain mundane unavoidable daily tasks, that have long term benefits / payoffs, you will come to notice in due course that these routines become significantly more tolerable. Finally, the easiest solution to a problem is always action; the shortest distance between two points is a straight line! If you incorporate the "do more, think less" mentality into your lifestyle, you will find yourself much more satisfied and confident on the whole. GL

 

Honestly, I sucked in many ways in college and to this day I can't totally explain why. I definitely tried tricks to improve my productivity, focus better, etc. It's not like I was partying or popular or hooking up. I wasted tons and TONS of time. And I knew I was doing it and to this day I'm not sure why I just couldn't be normal like other people. I wasn't even depressed!

I'm convinced that SOMETIMES IT JUST TAKES TIME. MAYBE YEARS. Took me a few years to get where I wanted to be but somehow I landed in a somewhat prestigious and sophisticated career/job. I'm not at some badass shop like KKR but I do have an awesome job, I am productive (well, somewhat, I'm still on WSO), I have an attractive gf, a nice place, a nice car, nice clothes, live in a city I love ...

I have a sibling who went through some really wasteful, unproductive, pathetic years but she seems to just be coming out of that phase. I'm convinced it took her longer because my parents enabled her, and I'm convinced I turned around more quickly because I hurled myself into bizarre and uncomfortable situations. You need to do that too. If you don't have the money to do it, there are ways to do it while you're poor too. It's not like I went on some international journey, I just explored things and pushed myself to really see what it's like to be alone and to rely on myself in a variety of weird situations. You sound like someone who might be too much of a pussy to do that, though, so I hope this isn't wasted on you.

 

If you keep putting yourself down, you'll never get where you want to be. Who cares if you 23? You need to take a long hard look at yourself and reassess your goals. Figure out where you want to be 5 years, make a plan and make sure you have the discipline to stick to it. Everyone at some point in their life reaches a low point and experiences a time of crisis...what matters is how you get out of it and what you do to improve yourself. As the saying goes "You are your own worst enemy".

Keep it together and you will go far..
 
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man, that's nothin. Is a 3.5 gpa really a failure at life nowadays? Shit I had a 3.6 from a complete non-target and feel like i've done okay.

You want to hear about a real f***up, one of my best friends just got arrested in a sting for trying to hook up with a 14 year old anonymously on craigslist. Guy was doing his second post-doc, had a Nature and a Science publication, and was in-line to get a sweet faculty job at a good university. Now he'll never work at a university again. His life is pretty much over. Wife and two kids gone. Job probably gone. Never gonna get hired in the private sector as a sex offender.

Just don't make terrible decisions like that and you'll be alright. Might take you a little longer to get wherever it is you're trying to go than the Princeton dork with a 4.0, but who cares... perseverance matters a lot more than raw intellect in this industry. Just be a stubborn asshole and you'll be fine.

 
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man, that's nothin. Is a 3.5 gpa really a failure at life nowadays? Shit I had a 3.6 from a complete non-target and feel like i've done okay.

You want to hear about a real f***up, one of my best friends just got arrested in a sting for trying to hook up with a 14 year old anonymously on craigslist. Guy was doing his second post-doc, had a Nature and a Science publication, and was in-line to get a sweet faculty job at a good university. Now he'll never work at a university again. His life is pretty much over. Wife and two kids gone. Job probably gone. Never gonna get hired in the private sector as a sex offender.

Just don't make terrible decisions like that and you'll be alright. Might take you a little longer to get wherever it is you're trying to go than the Princeton dork with a 4.0, but who cares... perseverance matters a lot more than raw intellect in this industry. Just be a stubborn asshole and you'll be fine.

Um...what the fuck? What kind of friends do you have...

 

Well I hope you have only taken a small amount as a benzo overdose will do you in right quick. If you have taken a lot and are still able to read this, please call an ambulance. The likelihood of you living if someone gets to you in time is pretty high for a benzo overdose. It's not worth losing your life over. Life is precious and rare. I can assure you that starting your career in IBD is nowhere near as valuable.

 

my advice was don't go looking for jailbait on craigslist and you'll be fine, someone already mentioned that.

OP, my advice is military or master's degree (I'd recommend engineering or finance), you need to hit the reset button and those are the 2 main ways to do it. plenty of other threads on here talking about success stories there.

also, stop feeling sorry for yourself, the world is a cruel place and no one gives a shit, own your destiny. some specifics? get laid, get in shape, surround yourself with positive people, and do countless other things in an attempt to better yourself, you're only 23 so you have PLENTY of time.

 

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