Marrying another banker

I'm a girl. I'm not hugly

by DaniNo (Senior Baboon, 204 Points) on 2/19/08 at 11:53am

I'm a girl. I'm not hugly competitive... but ok, I'm lying I kind of am. Last time I dated someome, I broke up with them because they weren't competitve enough. That said. I guess it really depends on your personality.

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In response to b

by Prince of Wall ... (Gorilla, 557 Points) on 2/19/08 at 5:36pm

Not that this can really compare to your experience on the street b, but I did spend 3 summers working in banking at MS for what its worth. I probably worked with about 35 different bankers who were older than 25. About half of them were married. Only one of them was married to someone in the industry and they are now separated. I know this is all anecdotal but I do resent that in your last post you acted like I don't know anyone who does banking full-time.

The female bankers I have worked with and for in previous summers were not treated any differently than the guys in the office. I also worked for an MD who was a real rainmaker one summer and it seemed like the fact she was a woman didn't really factor into how she was perceived. However, I can't really say how women are perceived by more junior people or at all banks. That is just my experience.

The Prince of Wall Street
http://www.princeofwallstreet.com

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Highly Suspicious

by Hockeyfan (Monkey, 43 Points) on 2/20/08 at 3:25am

Prince, I find it highly suspicious that you summered three summers in MS IBD - unless you are the CEO's son or the 2nd coming of Christ, but even then I highly doubt it because one of my best friends summered in Goldman's finance dept with Blankfein's son. Apparently his son purposely chose ops his underclassmen summer since he knew he'd be in IBD the next summer and wanted to live a little at least one summer (i.e. not work 100 hours a week).

Anyone on here ever heard of someone having three summers at a top IBD (GS, MS, etc.)?

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One of the directors I

by GameTheory (King Kong, 1393 Points) on 2/20/08 at 1:16pm

One of the directors I worked with in banking had a wife that worked at another bank as a VP. I'd say they were pretty happily married. He was a great guy but a terrible banker, though, so that probably helped with the free time situation.

There were definitely some really cool girls I worked with (at the associate level and up, too). So I wouldn't rule out the possibility.

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Hmm can't say I'd do it

by dosk17 (Senior Gorilla, 853 Points) on 2/20/08 at 7:34pm

I wouldn't want to marry someone in my own field with basically an identical job, it pays to have variety. Also, it would be kind of difficult to raise kids with 2 parents as bankers... talk about some deprived children.

I have seen bankers marry before, but I can't say I'd honestly consider it.

In theory, female bankers should be treated the same as everyone else, and most of what I've seen confirms this. But I can't help but think they must feel somewhat alienated given that many offices have only a few females and banking/finance in general tend to be male-dominated.

atropolation: I've been trying something similar wrt that diet, though not quite as extreme and it has also worked pretty well. Though now it's difficult to go to restaurants with co-workers and whatnot.

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marriage is not a business

by unct91 (Senior Baboon, 195 Points) on 2/20/08 at 8:10pm

marriage is not a business proposition.

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granola hippy chicks and

by atropolation (Senior Orangutan, 392 Points) on 2/20/08 at 10:27pm

granola hippy chicks and girls who work at sothebys? I don't think that they co-exist. hahaha.

My kinda guy....well....yeah if he can use tools and the such...yeah that would be really sexy. I kind of go for the hipsterish dude who can wear skinny jeans and a sweatshirt and smell nice. Call it the effect of art school on a girl.

********"Babies don't cost money, they MAKE money." - Jerri Blank********

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I'd never rule a person out

by GameTheory (King Kong, 1393 Points) on 2/21/08 at 12:34am

I'd never rule a person out based on their profession. Although my girlfriend now is probably the last person you'd ever see in banking, which is fine by me. I will say I was quite surprised at the amount of women that I worked with while I was in banking that had were fun, had witty personalities, stayed fit, and were very cute. More than I would have expected, anyways. Even the not-so-cute ones were fun to be around, in my opinion.

Now that I'm in private equity and have more time, coupled with the fact that dealflow is non-existant and probably will be for at least a little while, maybe I'll hunt down a female banker to marry and support me...

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A bit coincidental... but

by aadpepsi (King Kong, 1212 Points) on 2/21/08 at 1:29pm

A bit coincidental... but every teacher/artist/art gallery/granola type chick I know is the first to go get breast implants. They're also the most likely to ooops, accidentally get pregnant?

Coincidence? Eh, don't think so. These girls have you bums all figured out. They're not as dim as they act. They covertly want to marry you, be barefoot and pregnant and then ask for $8K a month in divorce. The house. They'll want the house for sure.

Go get 'em fellas! I'll invite you to rendezvous at my private cabana in the Seychelles when you need some hand holding after these chicks work you over. I promise I won't say I told you so. LOL.

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DaniNo

by mark klein MD (Senior Orangutan, 439 Points) on 2/21/08 at 6:11pm

You sound like an absolute basket case. Thank God I don't interact with girls like you.

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I agree that pre-nups make

by GameTheory (King Kong, 1393 Points) on 2/21/08 at 6:21pm

I agree that pre-nups make alot of common sense, but don't agree that it's extremely petty. Asking for a pre-nup can be extremely insulting to a lot of girls.

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The only thing "insulting"

by atropolation (Senior Orangutan, 392 Points) on 2/21/08 at 6:24pm

The only thing "insulting" to it is because you're putting a price on your marriage. It's like an option.....it could expire worthless..if you stay together...but if you divorce and exercise then it's worth it!

/end of bad analogy.

********"Babies don't cost money, they MAKE money." - Jerri Blank********

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Link

by F9 - Update (Senior Orangutan, 442 Points) on 2/21/08 at 7:38pm

Does anyone know where I can find the "So You Wanna Be An I-Banker Girlfriend?" article? Does anyone have it saved (for whatever reason) or have a link of it? I would love to send it to my girlfriend.

And, yes, the artsy-type is the way to go. It's the most destressing thing to love someone who has no idea about finance, banking and business. Pretty colors and hugs and kisses - the simple things the artsy-type cares about - is a huge destresser.

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pre-nups

by mark klein MD (Senior Orangutan, 439 Points) on 2/22/08 at 1:33am

First of all, you apparently didn't read my post. I said that any concerns of "awkwardness" are extremely petty if you have known this girl for 5 years and are considering marrying her. Grow the fuck up and tell her the truth.

Furthermore, if it's insulting, then that's even more reason for them to know that you want one. How do you think these easily "insulted" women would feel if they found out you were seriously considering a prenup but were keeping it a secret?

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I'm a banker (well S&T)

by fp175 (Gorilla, 678 Points) on 2/22/08 at 9:08am

I'm a banker (well S&T) chick dating a banker (IBD) guy. It helps that we don't have the same job, although we're in the same industry. We can make dinner reservations at 9:30 and neither one of us complains. We can commiserate over all of the shit at work. And because we don't have a ton of time, when we're together we focus on having as much fun as possible. It's working out pretty well I think.

As for in general, I know a few people on my team married to women in banking but not very many. But you have to remember - there aren't that many women in banking. Also just because their wives are not bankers doesn't mean they were NEVER bankers - I went to high school with a lot of girls whose housewife moms had been on Wall Street for a few years out of college and then given it up.

That having been said - none of the women in my team are single. So someone must want to date us.

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Interesting

by aadpepsi (King Kong, 1212 Points) on 2/22/08 at 11:35am

I think I agree with this. I've decided that I'm absolutely going to marry an Architect. Men outside of banking are just much more affectionate and they definitely, positively give more HUGS.

Now... where do I find an architect?!? Where do they hang out?

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I'm telling you, HUGS are

by aadpepsi (King Kong, 1212 Points) on 2/22/08 at 2:58pm

I'm telling you, HUGS are important! If we hugged each other more often the world would have peace.

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Aim high

by AltESV (Senior Orangutan, 386 Points) on 2/26/08 at 4:43pm

Here you go, via the Internet Archive/Wayback Machine:
http://web.archive.org/web/20070414230257/http://make-you-hmmm.blogspot....

The best quotation comes at the end: "Aim high. Like mom used to say: Reach for a banker. You can always settle for a consultant."

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This is easy - marry a

by baloogafish (Orangutan, 298 Points) on 2/29/08 at 2:19am

This is easy - marry a trophy / house wife, she'll cheat on you. Why? You're never home and eventually she'll get really lonely and need attention. One day, you'll hear "Honey, can we get a pool boy?" That's just asking for a divorce.

Marrying a banker ensures that your partner won't have the free time to feel lonely / crave the attention while you're in the office all day and all night.

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no

by fp175 (Gorilla, 678 Points) on 3/9/08 at 8:36am

If it was the exact same job function, maybe. I'm not sure that a commodities trader and an equity derivatives trader are going to have many notes to compare.

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I'm gonna be a neurotic

by holymonkey (Gorilla, 599 Points) on 3/13/08 at 12:26am

I'm gonna be a neurotic corporate lawyer. I'm not marrying a neurotic investment banker. Period. Case closed. Neither will I go marry another neurotic corporate lawyer. (Hmmm....that just screams conflict of interest to me.....your wife is opposing counsel? Plus we won't be able to commiserate about work because we can't talk about our clients...not that you're supposed to talk about your clients' cases with anyone anyway) I think I'll go find a consultant someplace. Or a college professor or something.

Or maybe I just won't get married.

Seanc-don't forget those 19 hour workdays!!!

"We are lawyers! We sue people! Occasionally, we get aggressive and garnish wages, but WE DO NOT ABDUCT!" -Boston Legal-

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