Wedding Invitations

So...let's say you get invited to a wedding in a city where you don't live. You get a +1 invitation (so you can bring someone). Let's say you're dumb enough to actually bring a date (I'm considering it) who's not a long-term girlfriend.

Do I have to buy them pretty much everything all weekend? I don't really care about buying her a plane ticket, and I guess I'd have to purchase two hotel rooms (if just to avoid the awkwardness of explaining that she's sleeping beneath me for the next two nights, and she has no choice in the matter), but is this going to be a 3 day long super date? If so, I'm probably going to go by myself.

The girl I am considering is pretty cool, and will probably get along with my college friends, but there's a solid chance my college roommate is going to drop some knowledge on her that I'd rather remain secret, so I wouldn't want to bring her with me everywhere.

That's probably not kosher, right? If you bring a date to a wedding in another city (especially one where they don't know anyone), you need to entertain them the whole time, right? And get them their own hotel room, I guess?

The more I talk about it, the less keen I am on the idea. What about bringing a girl who wasn't invited to the wedding but knows some of the people? That would be kind of awkward too, right?

Any thoughts appreciated (especially comical ones).

 

Dude, if she agrees to go out of town with you. You're sharing a room.

Quit being such a pussy.

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Dude, book 1 room.

If she doesn't want to stay with you, find a hooker aka one of the bride maids and enjoy your fucking weekend!

If you book 2 rooms - and think its a date - your officially in the "friend zone" and are never going to sleep with this girl and your cost is 2x. Doesn't seem like a good trade to me.

 

Agreed-- is this a serious question? Suit up man. If she's down to ride, she's down to ride; stop pretending you were a badass in college. Judging from your suaveness (or lack thereof) you can parry whatever "embarassing" stories your buddies tell with "no no, I didn't take his knight with my bishop, it was with my rook! Tee hee hee"

But seriously, channel your inner Tiger and put it in the hole. Luck has got nothing to do with it-- it's a wedding, might as well be splish n' splash. Drip drip. Get 'er done.

 

yeah 1 room or your not going to be doing much with this girl ever. and yeah if you bring a girl out of state to a function you will be hanging everywhere together unless some other girls there invite her to do something and she goes wit them for a little. either ur banging her or go solo and find a chick there

 

Wow! Speechless. There are so many things wrong with the OP that I don't know where to begin. Do yourself a favor by not inviting that girl you meet a Joshua Tree last night. The fact that you are asking these questions is insulting to both said skank and the groom. Let me put it in banker terms. If you would not invite this chick to your group outing then don't invite her to the wedding. Then again based on your questions and tone you are probably "that" 1st year analyst who brought his college GF to the outing. You know who you are!!!

 

Thanks for the (mostly) worthless posts. Clearly, the upside to bringing a girl to this wedding is the certainty of getting laid. The drawback is having to entertain her the entire time, and (maybe) missing out on banging some randoms I don't know. Also, there is some shit from college (not sexual necessarily, just embarassing) that I wouldn't want any girlfriend to know. Some of that is bound to come up in a weekend of hanging out with my college friends (most of whom are assholes).

I guess the question should have been somethine like, "How long do you have to be dating a chick before you are EXPECTED to bring them to an event like this?"

 
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Do you call this girl your girlfriend? Then bring her. 

If not, then don't. 

Don't know how old you are, but if you are older than 25 don't go to events and bring someone who isn't your girlfriend, gets awkward when people ask what you "are" and could also seem needy. (This is in comparison to down the road, don't be over 45 and bring someone you call your "life partner". You ether have a girlfriend or a wife.)

From your posts it looks you want to bring her for two reasons, 1 to try and get laid, 2 to basically show off to your friends; but really, it sounds like you don't want to bring her. If I were you I wouldn't be using this as an opportunity to try and get with said girl, you should be able to close that on your own. If you're worried about stuff she might hear, having to pay for her, or "entertain" her for a whole weekend, maybe rethink what you're doing here. If she really likes you she'll be around when you get back in three days. You have a phone, you can text her. 

Weighing the outcomes, on a positive you could bring her and get laid (which if she likes you you'll get laid at a later date so its almost a net-net). Negative is, you bring her, she's like, I appreciate it but let's just be friends, than its an awkward weekend. How often do you see these friends, wouldn't you want to hang with them? Looking at it, I see a lot more that could go wrong than go right, and it seems like you're almost trying to rush to make something happen (which I'd say, don't do that)

 

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