Would you marry a girl who has done nude modelling and photography (not porn) to put herself through school.
She's at HYPSW.
She works for non-profits.
She gets along with every family member of yours.
She's pretty.
In fact she's perfect in almost every way that you could ever dream of... except she's got a dark past.
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Why not. Let bygone be bygone. It's not like you can do a pro forma on her or something.
No, I wouldn't.
This just is more evidence that she is attractive. Don't really see why you should care.
On the other hand, marriage is a very risky business. Worry more about what would happen in the case of a divorce - you don't want to have a divorce in 10 years and end up losing the kids, paying child support, alimony, and forking over half your assets.
Why the fuck wouldn't you? Porn is one thing, but getting nude photos done is completely different.
bet shes a freak in bed son, go for it
She must be pretty if there are nude photos of her. Of course you should marry her if that's the only thing stopping you.
Why not a porn star? She is probably.a fun person ;)
WWCD?
What Would Charlie Do?
Hahahaha
Many people have a much 'darker' past and turn out just fine, but I would ask why she chose the easy way as opposed to waiting tables or something to make money.....the answer, and HOW she answers could be telling.
What's the problem dude? You're fucking a model.....that's the dream. If you think that a hot chick just sat around and waited for you to come along with your magical self for her to get some action, you have some growing up to do. It's not like she was getting threewayed in a porn shoot: RELAX.
The one and only potential pitfall that I see is if you have an interest in running for office, but in this country, where strip clubs and porn are such big business even that could be used to your advantage if addressed correctly. Turn it into an 'empowering women' issue or some other bullshit. I'm issuing a 'Marry' rating, based on the information provided. Then again, I'm anti marriage lately, so my opinion on this matter is basically worthless.
Post the pictures so we can give you better advice.
show me the pics and ill give you my answer
hahahaha
No, I wouldn't. People don't hold each-other to high enough standards these days. What would you think if your daughter did "non-porn" nude "modeling"?
P.S. What a girl admits to others, what a girl admits to herself, and what actually happened are three very different things. But you already know that, which is why you are here. You will find plenty of people to talk you into it, to help you rationalize it to yourself, but you know in your gut that this chick is not for marriage. And no matter what you others tell you, or what you tell yourself, that feeling won't go away.
Trust your gut. Keeping hitting it, but marriage is a no-go.
I wouldn't rush into it. She is hot and she is a model means she can seduce an elephant. If you been with her for a long time (about 2yrs) you should know her personality well. If she's the type where she doesn't tell you all, or pretends like there is nothing to tell, or tells you half truths and no straight answers then watch out.
There are over 3 trillion women in the world, with even 1% of them looking like yours it's still plenty of fish, so never be carried away by her looks if you are planning to get married. If she leaves you will definitely find another.
Source please?
Street Estimates...lol
Use this link
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OP is a female from H so perhaps she is the one who did the modeling.
If shes done nude modeling, could you really handle the fact that other dudes are jerking off to your girl not wearing any clothes?
To me she seems like the girl I'd hook up with and then either remain friends with benefits or just walk away, but thats just me
Have you seen them?
There is plenty of high fashion shit that is nude but very sexy and tasteful. If she is just sitting there with her legs open then I would think twice.
Wow.
I literally can't believe so many people would hold this against a girl. Oh well, more models for me.
Listen if you marry her other guys are just jacking off to pictures of her. If you don't, other dudes are fucking her. Your choice.
This is retarded. You are going to pass up marrying a hot ass biddy (with a good education) that you can actually stand being around for more than a few minutes because she showed her giblets in some wannabe artsy fartsy picture (which she did to pay her way through school)? It would be different if you were trying to rub one out before class and came upon her in a video with 6 giant weiners called Wharton Whores 44 or something.
Why not limit yourself to marrying a virgin or a girl that has never ground her money maker into a dudes cock at a club. Good luck getting a nun to leave the convent homie. Marry her and run. Then send your buddy Happy the pictures.
Thank me later.
Great cue for a soapbox moment.
Speaking as someone who did marry a virgin (before me at least) and has just about the best marriage out of any of my peers anywhere.....
No, it's not "retarded". Girls who don't crave male attention make good partners if you're looking for someone you want to keep around for a long term relationship or make babies with. In fact I have a general piece of advice that I like to give people: Never marry a girl who posts selfies. Ones necessary for profile pictures excepted of course. It demonstrates that she is motivated by getting male attention enough that she's consciously thinking about what moments in her day would make for great selfies, and plans out selfies. If she's that motivated by having thirsty dudes slathering about her I can guarantee her head isn't where it needs to be to make a good wife and mother. I can also guarantee that you, the analyst working 90 hour weeks, can't give her the kind attention that type of personality craves and your odds of being cuckolded are pretty good.
What should you be looking for in a wife? Someone who gets their happiness from strong family relationships and seeing the people around her happy. That's the kind of person that is more likely to stick around. Personality types may vary but I've run into a lot of that type working as vets, nurses, teachers, etc.
On the other hand the "good luck" comment about finding a virgin is correct. I don't pretend that me running into the one I did was anything other than lottery-winning kinds of luck. They're hard to find because that type will do most of their socializing in family circles, church groups, or sometimes altruistic community groups. They simply don't put themselves out there the way the "freak" type of girl does and when they do you won't notice them as much because they're not as good as marketing themselves to men.
For OP I'm curious what site she modeled for. Somewhere "artsy" like the metart or was it a less classy softcore porn like playboy? Makes a little bit of a difference.
Someone has got to be the first.
I call troll on this nonsense.
i would.
I've thought about this before. Say she is a girl like 'Jamie Westenhiser', only has done nude photos. Regardless of how hot she is, whenever you type her name into google naked pictures will come up.
Guys on my hockey team used to forward around naked cell phone pics their girlfriends took, I could understand that because its not like you're having children with the girl.
omg.
dead giveaway... only girls call other girls pretty
that, or OP is a gay dude
OP is a troll or just stupid can't tell by the previous posts
I assume she's told you about these pictures. That's a good sign that shes being honest with you. Its not like she was doing porn gangbangs or something, no disrespect.
I got married back in Sept, and I know this wouldn't have changed my mind. If she's honest and open to you then go for it, if you don't trust her then I would think about things carefully.
OP either you are a troll or an idiot. Do you really want ur friends, coworkers, parents, relatives etc..... throwing that shit in ur face for the rest of ur life? thanks to the internet theres no such thing as "forgetting about the past". lol unfortunately shit will always come back to haunt u
I think you should post pictures so that we can decide for ourselves
love how we continue to feed this troll
fuck that hoe tell that bich to be gone put out or get the FUCK OUT
naked model =/= pornstar =/= girlfriend
Yes, I absolutely would marry such girl, nevertheless I would use that to insist on taking a set of pics of her myself, and then let it go.
Of course I would. I'm amazed by how many of you guys think that you can find a girl worth marrying who has never done anything interesting. Have fun with your Stepford housewives, because the rest of us will be out fucking good looking girls with actual personalities while you masturbate to pictures of the girl you wished you married.
This
I'm in. Where do I sign?
Haha..dude marry the girl
I'd like to hear what the guy deciding this has done in his "darker past." The fact that this counts as her having a "darker past" is laughable, anyway. If everything is perfect but for this (which makes me think this is a troll) why wouldn't you marry her? Plenty of respectable girls do nude modelling...how else would some of the great nude pieces of art been made? If anything, I now think she deserves better if the guy will discard the 99% good in her because of the 1% "bad."
It may seem inconsequential, but I'm sure that this is a really big deal for people of certain cultural/ethnic/religious backgrounds. In those cases, the problem will be more about how his family would react to her nude photos.
I'd have a much bigger qualm with someone happily working in an industry that rapes and pillages tax payers and revolves around sucking every last cent of things other people have created and produced than a girl with a few nude photos.
If you need to ask, the answer is don't.
I also think the guys are right, her profile says she's at Harvard so I'm gonna hazard a guess and say this is a hypothetical revolving around her own situation.
The part that is a deal breaker for me is that she works for a non-profit.
Non-profit girls are HOT. Clearly you've never seen the sort of girls who work in finance
she sounds like a catch!
If it was hardcore pornography I don't think I could mentally get over that hurdle... but a few nude photos does't sounds like to big a deal to me. As long as you're talking playboy 1980 rather than hustler 2010, you're golden
As a second wife? Sure.
A Penn girl posed for Playboy while I was there...
http://www.playboy.com/girls/amateurs/castingcalls/casting-philadelphia…
Dude, I'd marry a pornstar (as in sex, not just nude pics) if she were "perfect in almost every way you could ever dream of except for her "darker past""
Take it from me, you don't know what you got til it's gone, so don't be a dumbass.
agree with this sentiment. However, the public perception is: if a girl has done hardcore porn, she is "easy" or is pre-disposed to fucking as many black dicks as possible whenever and wherever possible. Of course, being a slut could have predisposed her to work in porn, but not a necessary condition by any means. For most people, it's just easier to assume that she's a slut.
and Drexel -- the guy was being sarcastic about the non-profit comment
Yes I would and I wouldnt be ashamed of it at all....anybody who is judgmental about such a minor thing isnt somebody whose opinion I care about. Taking nude photographs isnt really a big deal. Even porn probably wouldnt be a deal breaker if everything else was cool...at then end of the day its just you and her in the relationship so dont worry about what other people are saying. In general, my strategy for dealing with people who make personal judgements about me is to not give a shit and this is no different.
Its nice to think this way, but when you are entertaining clients at a golf event and everyone has their spouse there it could create some issues if you are the one who brings the ex porn star. It really depends on the context of the photos.
1 i dont have clients, #2 if I did I wouldnt structure my life based on their moral values (if that creates occasional problems then so be it), #3 I do not play golf.
there's a huge difference (haha) between Pamela Anderson /Tiger's ex-mistress and someone like Jenny McCarthy/ Cameron Diaz. I also once ran into Leena of Juranal Park fame in a very respectable company, and she definitely didn't jump out at you like OMG pr0nstar!
The bigger question is has she done nudes non- profit?
No I wouldn't. Absolutely not.
can't contribute. but please post pics?
So you think you are a good guy because you haven't done nude photography? Don't marry her. You don't sound like you can embrace her.
I agree.. slip me the digits and I'll do the embracing...
A friend of mine had done nude photography for Playboy...
But still, I'd say having done it for financial reasons probably makes it worse rather than justifies it.
And if this is you we're talking about, I'm guessing that's how you saved up that $30,000 you were talking about. Obviously you made more than just "put yourself through college", so that says something else too...
Why to marry? Just date her, it's enough
Is her name attached to the photos in any way? If it is, then I'd find it strange that she didn't think or care about the possible repercussions her modeling gig would have on her future. I mean, if people can find her pictures by googling her, that's kind of effed up. But I doubt that's the case...they're probably anonymous and the chances of someone who knows her finding them and recognizing her are extremely slim.
The idea that you can find a photo of someone just by typing their name in to a computer dates back only about 5 years. Nude photography goes back a lot longer than that.
If she's hot and you can trust her, then YES!
pics or it didn't happen ...
ur dad did...oh shiizzzz
This is bullshit.
You see ppl that come from monied backgrounds going into non-profit post-elite education because they're not terribly concerned with money. SO they dont need to pay their own way through school, and doing nude photog would be very frowned upon.
The people that come from more modest backgrounds at a HYP just want to get paaaaaid... because they don't come from money and because if they were working their self through college (i.e. $40K+ / year at HYP), they probably maxed out their debt as well and need to pay it off.
Also.. I can imagine this being a grl herself testing the waters to see if she should tell her bf or not. In which case, I also see it as a completely sugar coated story... i.e. sex tape released across campus and still floating around somewehre as opposed to nude class photos to pay through school.... and probably not as polished a Stepford Wife as shes making herself out to be.
I say.... she a 6, at best, went to Boston College, she works at a top wall street head hunting firm, and has a sex tape floating around from college and maybe even hosted her own web cam site to make a few extra bones in college. Dude's family probably marginally tolerates her and she's under the impression her fake enthusiasm for his family is perceived as genuine and likewise perceived their fake enthusiasm for her as genuine. MOre likely scenario. The original post doesn't add up.
Also, WTF kind of nude photography for a college student is not porn or porn related?
Deep psychological analysis.
BOOM.
That just happened.
OP,
Based on your profile, I am assuming you are trying to decide whether or not YOU should do this "modeling" and "photography", and whether or not this will impact a guys decision to marry YOU. It's going to be 50/50 as you can see from the replies. I say go for it, don't riddle yourself with debt you can avoid, and the guy that cares wouldn't have been worth it for you anyways. If you're ok with doing the "modeling", your views wont mesh well with someone that wouldn't accept the fact that you did.
^^ haha good point bro. @OP All I know is that my dad would give me a high 5 and if you "she" was really hot my boys would dap me up too. Whats more important if you have any other prep school/ivy league friends that have gone noodie point them my way haha....in all seriousness self secure guys won't care about the pics at all
^ Yeah, since you're not man enough to handle this, give me her phone number. It sounds like she's out of your league and you're trying to rationalize how you should be in the position of 'dumper' as opposed to the whiney little punk that you are. Non-profit? perfect, she's not into money.
Man up or send me her phone number you fool.
First of all, marriage should not be taken lightly. Frankly, you should not be seeking such life-changing and impactful decision from anonymous strangers on a financial blog site. Although amusing, the flippant comments you will read here are not what you should to base your decision(s) upon. I, of course, count myself among the many recommendations on this site that you should NOT base your final decision upon. I will, however, offer you my insights and some questions you ought to ask yourself.
You are considering linking permanently (presumably) your future, well-being, and reputation to this woman and you should think long and hard about any such commitment. Marriage, obviously, has significant social aspects. You must ask yourself some very difficult and personal questions. Let’s put it this way: someone has seen the photos. How much and in what way would it bother me if these photographs were to resurface?
The very fact that you are on this forum, asking strangers for suggestions on such a decision should be proof positive of the depth of your doubt.
“She works for non-profits” Goldman Sachs” or “Save the Whales”. This is about you trying to grapple with her past actions.
Let’s take a broader view. First, her story...
Now, I am not saying she is a liar, but as someone who did go to HYP (from what I can tell, forum etiquette demands I not be more specific) and/or as someone who can read a University website, I find the story of ‘paying for school’ highly dubious. These schools, for the most part, have tremendously generous financial aid/scholarship programs. Even for families on the border of middle and upper-middle class, there are options for financing such an education. And frankly, unless she was getting an exorbitant amount of money (again dubious- think $46,000-52,000/yr) for those pictures, she was likely not doing the pictures to pay for tuition and books. That is an extremely difficult pill to swallow.
Assuming for the moment that she is indeed telling the truth and was using the money for her studies, is someone who resorts to such options something you would support- i.e. if you were with her at the time when she made that decision, would you have supported it? Is that an acceptable course of action (morally, socially, psychologically, etc.) for meeting a financial shortcoming? Is that the judgment you desire in the potential mother of your child(ren)? I am not one to condemn for eternity anyone with past mistakes. As the cliché goes, “Everyone makes mistakes”- but the corollary is that some people make mistakes that are far stupider, dangerous, and carry heavier consequences than other and those mistakes often reveal internal character traits about them. Only you know if this is something you can live with, but the fact that you are on this forum asking this question leads me to doubt that you are comfortable with this (not that most people would be). Much of this issue depends on what type of person you are and the type of person you desire to represent you.
Marriage is supposed to be life-long. Don’t rush in or sell yourself short. Don’t be hasty and try to make a considered decision.
Now to my entirely subjective, therefore irrelevant, opinion- Don’t. Too many questions unanswered (from available information), story is questionable (at best), and your reputation (now and forever) is on the line. Even if you divorce her, God forbid, you made the decision to marry her and that itself says something about you.
tl;dr
second.
here is a tip: she couldnt have "put herself through school" just doing "not porn" photographs.
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