I wouldn’t exactly say I’m crestfallen these days, but I do often question what I’m doing with myself. The question has plagued me since I moved out of the 18-24 box. You ask other people for advice, but how often do ask yourself what you are doing. Maybe its time to have a little 1-on-1 time with the man in the mirror. Read on to see some of the questions I've been asking myself as of late.
Be honest with yourself otherwise the exercise is pointless and try to answer the first thing that comes to mind
- When was the last time you learned something new?
- Would the 15 year old version of yourself be disappointed with the “you” today
- Would you be fine if you were in the same place you are today, a year from now?
- Who has the job you want?
- Why do you want it?
- When you first started your job was it supposed to be long term?
- What are you/aren’t you doing that makes no sense at all?
- How did you add value to yourself today?
- What excuses did you make for yourself today
- Does today feel different than yesterday?
- Have you done anything lately worth remembering?
- What is one thing other people would say you’re good at?
Bonus
Would you rather fight 100 duck sized horses or 1 horse sized duck?
when i read 100 ducks, for some reason 100 rubber ducks popped into my head, and then 100 rubber duck-sized horses. Those would be some fun little guys to play with. Like puppies, but different.
I've been tackling these sort of questions myself over the last few months...it's definitely not an easy process to go through, but hopefully I come out a better version of myself after this period of self-reflection.
Self-improvement is the key to long-term happiness and growth. I definitely agree OP.
As for a quarter-life crisis...for me personally...the best thing to happen was to a near-death experience. It really changed how I view everything in life. You see most people have an abstract concept of death. They know it is inevitable, but usually think of it as an event that happens way off in the distance sometime - in your late-70's.
Most people don't really internalize the idea of KNOWING your death is inevitable and that there is a good probability that it will happen much sooner than you think. Everyone is literally just a blood test or one distracted cabbie away from meeting the reaper. Fate may not let you see the retirement community.
You should view life as...say...a bonus level on a video game...you realize you've already lost, but you try to get as many points as you can in the short-time you have...not knowing when it is going to end.
Whenever you are anxious, stressed about work, or a "quarter-life crisis," think to yourself: will I even remember this on my death bed? If not, shrug it off and keep playing the game...for a chance at hitting that high score.
*Quarter
The bonus questions seems easy to me: a horse sized duck is basically a dinosaur, you would have no chance in a mano a pato duel to the death. But, I could kick the shit out of a bunch of duck sized horses.
It's the equivalent of would you rather face one 220 lb Mike Tyson or 22 ten pound babies?
It's always sunny in Philly?
The most important thing in life is to be brutally honest with yourself about a lot of times your facing struggle.
One harsh reality I'm dealing with now: you have to settle on your career aspirations a bit so you can live life. This sounds like a punk-bitch move but when you truly understand the fragility of life then you start to realize how valuable time is.
I still struggle with that one. A few short years ago I'd have ridiculed you and called you a bum, but I'm starting to understand. With that being said, I'm one of those people who is pretty happy working for the most part.
I read the title like 5 times, think nah bro I prefer that Dubai life not Qatar
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