The Only Side that Matters: The Soft Side

Although fear of being charged with slander in the future played an important role in why I changed my blog's topic for today, I mainly decided against it because something has been occupying my spare brain cells (the very few working ones) for a few days and it’s about time I seek camaraderie among WSOers.

Look, I am not the deep type. I find most deep conversations lame and insincere, I don’t ever want to talk about feelings or the effect of said feelings on life, paths, personalities, or behavior. Well, unless I do care and want to listen. Which is rare.

So, I will cut your caring time and save your attention span and possibly your patience and tell you that when asked, I without hesitation stated that the ONLY thing I am afraid of losing is “the sense of wonder”. Feeling paranoid, I took a few days to evaluate every intangible and tangible asset in my life and imagined myself without it, and came to the conclusion that my answer was correct. I do not ever want to lose my sense of wonder.

I would be lifeless without it. I don’t know what I will do if sequin seized to grab my attention, or how I can live with myself if I didn’t have the urge to read, or gain knowledge on useful as well as relatively useless topics. I mean, if nothing is interesting to me anymore, then why do I live?

Wonder is a bitch sometimes, of course. I got in so much trouble because of this over inflated sense. I traveled to places I have no business being in, I ate little animals that shouldn’t be eaten, EVER, I volunteered my brain to lots of mad scientists and I destroyed my childhood innocence by knowing too much too early.

Runner-ups included: My mother, working brain cells, a healthy body, a valid global entry passport and monkey sex.

We are all guilty of getting caught up in our own lives. We all take things for granted until we don't have those things anymore, and sometimes we don't even know that this thing mattered that much. I think it's not a half bad idea to remind ourselves from time to time. On one hand it might lead us to a better utilization of this thing, maybe more respect? More appreciation? And on the other hand, it could set us straight and forces us to better structure our priorities and for all you know, you discover something that makes you happy.

Now I want you to lie back on the couch, relax, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and tell me…What is one thing you can’t live without?

P.S: Bring it, trolls.

 

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger May you never take one single breath for granted God forbid love ever leave you empty handed I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I hope you dance I hope you dance

Sorry couldn't help myself

 
fearless:
Do you think alot of people dislike deep conversations?

I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with deep conversations. Unless you are speaking with a very close person, it sort of feel forced and almost always ungenuine.

Maybe a reason for that is the cliche thing? Because there WILL be a cliche thrown somewhere when you're having deep conversations.

I may not be on the Jedi Council, but I sure am great with the Force. See my WSO blog posts
 
Disincentivy:
fearless:
Do you think alot of people dislike deep conversations?

I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with deep conversations. Unless you are speaking with a very close person, it sort of feel forced and almost always ungenuine.

Maybe a reason for that is the cliche thing? Because there WILL be a cliche thrown somewhere when you're having deep conversations.

May be true for your experience, but it doesn't have to be. Deep conversations don't have to be cliched and trite; what people fear is not having an answer.

Metal. Music. Life. www.headofmetal.com
 

"Close your eyes and begin to relax. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Concentrate on your breathing. With each breath you become more relaxed. Imagine a brilliant white light above you. Focus on this light as it flows through your body. Allow yourself to drift off as you fall deeper and deeper into a more relaxed state of mind. Now, as I count back from ten to one, you will feel more peaceful and calm. Ten. Nine. Eight. Seven. Six. You will enter a safe place where nothing can harm you. Five. Four. Three. Two. If at any time you need to come back, all you must do is open your eyes. One."

Metal. Music. Life. www.headofmetal.com
 

"Safe in the light that surrounds me, Free of the fear and the pain, My subconscious mind starts spinning though time To rejoin the past once again.

Nothing seems real, I'm starting to feel Lost in the haze of a dream. And as I draw near, the scene becomes clear, Like watching my life on a screen.

Hello, Victoria. So glad to see you, my friend."

Metal. Music. Life. www.headofmetal.com
 
In The Flesh:
"Safe in the light that surrounds me, Free of the fear and the pain, My subconscious mind starts spinning though time To rejoin the past once again.

Nothing seems real, I'm starting to feel Lost in the haze of a dream. And as I draw near, the scene becomes clear, Like watching my life on a screen.

Hello, Victoria. So glad to see you, my friend."

Roses are red, Violets are blue. I have a gun. Get in the van.
 
BTbanker:
In The Flesh:
"Safe in the light that surrounds me, Free of the fear and the pain, My subconscious mind starts spinning though time To rejoin the past once again.

Nothing seems real, I'm starting to feel Lost in the haze of a dream. And as I draw near, the scene becomes clear, Like watching my life on a screen.

Hello, Victoria. So glad to see you, my friend."

Roses are red, Violets are blue. I have a gun. Get in the van.

...I don't think we're quoting the same band. :)

Metal. Music. Life. www.headofmetal.com
 
In The Flesh:
"Safe in the light that surrounds me, Free of the fear and the pain, My subconscious mind starts spinning though time To rejoin the past once again.

Nothing seems real, I'm starting to feel Lost in the haze of a dream. And as I draw near, the scene becomes clear, Like watching my life on a screen.

Hello, Victoria. So glad to see you, my friend."

Your time on the couch is up. Thanks, see you next week

I may not be on the Jedi Council, but I sure am great with the Force. See my WSO blog posts
 

It sounds petty, but entertainment. I love books, television, movies, comedy...I really enjoy seeing the creativity of others at work. I guess that is why I thought that Cuban bond investment mentioned the other day was so awesome. It's why I enjoy reading about (and attempting) investing so much: it forces the players to be creative.

 

I see what you're saying about a sense of wonder. I've been out of college for 4 years now and it seems increasingly uncommon to really fall in love with a certain book/movie/piece of music; to have a great night out and meet a ton of random people, etc. I can still have all of those things, but it's too easy to get caught up in the day to day grind. Or maybe I just need a change.

 
Best Response
Hayek:
I see what you're saying about a sense of wonder. I've been out of college for 4 years now and it seems increasingly uncommon to really fall in love with a certain book/movie/piece of music; to have a great night out and meet a ton of random people, etc. I can still have all of those things, but it's too easy to get caught up in the day to day grind. Or maybe I just need a change.

Not sure if change is the right thing you need, I'd say you need more exposure. Sometimes we reach a point of saturation where everything we love/like/enjoy becomes increasingly meh as we get used to it.

I am sure you you expose yourself to new activities, especially those you find to be initially unappealing or way too risky for your taste, you'll find new pleasures. For some it could be an obscure cuisine, for others it would be nude yoga. The most important thing is to not dismiss anything unless you've given it a try.

I may not be on the Jedi Council, but I sure am great with the Force. See my WSO blog posts
 

Eum omnis rerum alias ipsum hic. Sint et dolores inventore sed totam ut. Quae quia assumenda doloremque repellat fugiat. Sit eos dolorum delectus blanditiis. Quia asperiores necessitatibus iusto dignissimos atque et perspiciatis. Quibusdam aspernatur quo accusamus et eum est blanditiis.

Career Advancement Opportunities

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Jefferies & Company 02 99.4%
  • Goldman Sachs 19 98.8%
  • Harris Williams & Co. (++) 98.3%
  • Lazard Freres 02 97.7%
  • JPMorgan Chase 03 97.1%

Overall Employee Satisfaction

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Harris Williams & Co. 18 99.4%
  • JPMorgan Chase 10 98.8%
  • Lazard Freres 05 98.3%
  • Morgan Stanley 07 97.7%
  • William Blair 03 97.1%

Professional Growth Opportunities

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Lazard Freres 01 99.4%
  • Jefferies & Company 02 98.8%
  • Goldman Sachs 17 98.3%
  • Moelis & Company 07 97.7%
  • JPMorgan Chase 05 97.1%

Total Avg Compensation

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Director/MD (5) $648
  • Vice President (19) $385
  • Associates (86) $261
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (13) $181
  • Intern/Summer Associate (33) $170
  • 2nd Year Analyst (66) $168
  • 1st Year Analyst (202) $159
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (144) $101
notes
16 IB Interviews Notes

“... there’s no excuse to not take advantage of the resources out there available to you. Best value for your $ are the...”

Leaderboard

1
redever's picture
redever
99.2
2
Secyh62's picture
Secyh62
99.0
3
BankonBanking's picture
BankonBanking
99.0
4
Betsy Massar's picture
Betsy Massar
99.0
5
dosk17's picture
dosk17
98.9
6
CompBanker's picture
CompBanker
98.9
7
kanon's picture
kanon
98.9
8
GameTheory's picture
GameTheory
98.9
9
DrApeman's picture
DrApeman
98.9
10
Jamoldo's picture
Jamoldo
98.8
success
From 10 rejections to 1 dream investment banking internship

“... I believe it was the single biggest reason why I ended up with an offer...”