What do you value/bring to in a relationship and why ?

Boobs. And also trust. Without trust, there can be no love.

Girthy coke can of a dick

Seems weird, but I try to be (and succeed nearly everyday) to be happy and energized. I find people who are constantly upset/moaning/depressed to be such a drag on my mood so I try to be the complete opposite and I think it makes it nice to live with me.

Obviously I’m only like this with my family/gf or very close friends because it takes me a lot of energy to always be in a good mood lol

I suffer from the illness of having fun, so I keep doing spontaneous things which seems to work in my relationships.

I bring everything to the table B). #dadmode

pee pee poo poo

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I could say that I'm a very loving, warm person, but to me, that just doesn't seem like it's worth a whole lot.

So I'm curious about the rest of you - what strengths and positive attributes you bring to your relationships? I sometimes have a difficult time identifying my own value in my relationships with others - how do you do it?

What you offer is worth a lot, do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

For me, it's about integrity I just do not see this in most people that I meet.

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Nothing

The easiest value that women can bring to a relationship that less are now of days and its incredibly valuable. Is just be FEMININE , I meet to many women trying to act masculine I swear some of these women are taking testosterone every day. 

I bring

* a Thick Cock

* Masculine Energy

* Male Leadership

* Masculine Intelligence

* I'm good at getting my dick sucked

* I make $350k a year in my 40s as a Commercial Banker (this $5mm loans aint gonna close themselves)

She Brings:

* Does whatever I say

* Sucks my dick whenever I ask

* Is feminine

* Let's me make all of her major life decisions for her

* Cooks all of my meals for me and cleans the house

* Doesn't have any male friends as this would be disrespectful to me as an Alpha

* Never shits or pisses while I am within smelling / hearing distance. Any woman who shits or pisses is disgusting

* Showers 3x a day so she always smells clean enough for me - real women do not emit body odor

First of all OP, I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. There are aspects you bring into a relationship which others appreciate, but you don't realize since it's so normalized for yourself. As well, being a warm, loving and attentive person is worth a lot. Not sure if you're familiar with the Gottman Institute, but it's a well known organization led by two married psychologist who have extensively studied what makes marriages last. Kindness was at the top of the list and this article explains the nuances well:

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

Funnily enough, I asked myself the same question awhile back but in a generalized sense. So I was looking at what value I brought in different roles (I.e. friend, colleague, employee). So I set up chats with friends, supervisors, co-workers, etc. and did this exercise where I asked 'I know this is narcissistic lol but I'd love to know what qualities makes me stand out as I'm trying to identify my strengths' then I would share what qualities which made them stand out to reciprocate. 

These are some common themes which stood out to me after speaking to ~15 people. I didn't include work related skills like being analytical or team conflict management.

• Make others people feel special, so maybe they'll forget what we did or what I said but they'll remember how I made them feel. Many people noted that I gave specific genuine compliments often.
• Very open to meeting new people and trying new things. Whether if it's trying an unusual food or going someplace new.
• Care about organizing quality time with other people. They noted that I make an effort to keep in touch with others to maintain a solid social circle and have fun. For example, I organized Zoom parties when everything was shut down last year.

From my own personal POV, I'd say other positive attributes I have are:

• Trying to have a balanced perspective in situations I disagree with, especially when it's emotionally charged.
• Good at making small talk when I meet new people.

I found that this exercise was very helpful as it helped me identify areas of strength to put more energy into. There were many traits they brought up which I didn't have self-awareness of, and they had the same reaction when I brought up qualities which made them stand out. So I would imagine this would be the case for you.