Dealing with loss in IBD

I am about to start my internship in London and my grandmother is very ill.

I’ve heard horror stories of people struggling to go to weddings/funerals, and I just want to gauge what the culture will be like if she passes while I’m there.

I’d imagine as an intern there’s less expected of you and it should be easier to get time to travel home for a funeral, but I wanted to see if my assumption was true, and how that would impact return offer.

To be clear,regardless of what they say I will go to the funeral, I’m not so much of a hardo that I would skip my grandmothers funeral for a job, but more just trying to gauge what this will look like. As you can imagine it’s an anxious taught.

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some guys talking about how his grandma may die and this was your first reaction? I pity you, terrible human being

it’s Briton, same mistake AHAHH

 

Sorry to hear about your grandmother and I’m sad that this even needs to be asked as a question. Please go to the funeral if and when it happens. You are an intern and won’t be needed to such an extent that the world would fall apart should you not be there. Anyone that says otherwise can do one. 

 

Buddy, seriously, your family is much more important than the job. Trust me. I was a senior associate (back then) who flew back home (12+ hour flight) to be with his grandpa for a week (as he was hopsitalised). I left (back to London for a conference / a fight) then he passed 2 days after I landed in London. 

Do I regret not staying? Not really because at that point, he was already pass the point of no return but I still wish I was there. 

People will understand, If they don't, are they really people you want to be working with? 

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My md missed his father and sisters funeral for work, also two of his grandparents.

 

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