23yo at the moment based in SF so dating scene is obv a shitshow. Been with my GF for six months - she slept with her friend in her past. It bothers me every time I think about the fact that she had a one night stand with a friend despite the fact that I’m almost certain she has a low body count. Any advice on how I can man the fuck up and just accept it?
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I assume this isn’t the first person with whom you’ve had sex. If so, it would be hypocritical to hold that against her when you have done the same, no?
If she still hangs out with the friend, my brother you have to run faster than Usain Bolt. If not then it’s fine
She slept with her friend before you were dating? Or during? Was the friend a guy or a girl?
Before, guy
Just get over it. Hypocritical to say the least
Dont think it's hypocritical, dont think it's a deal breaker necessarily either
It's hypocritical if you're upset she had sex with another guy before you and youve had sex with several women. But her sleeping with a friend and still being friends with the dude is a legitimate thing to be uncomfortable with. That said, that stuff happens in friend groups time to time and tbh can definitely hook up and be platonic afterwards, but it really just depends on the vibes you are getting from them.
If they are hanging out one on one, you think he is biding time, they are doing flirty things, then yea F that
Fuck her same friend. Problem solved
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this is literal insanity
Having a higher body count for sure helps with jealousy in the early stage of a relationship. But if you really like someone, the thought of them being with someone else can still piss you off. Don’t think there’s any trick for this other than just being more mature and accepting that everyone has prior partners
Not sure how having a higher body count “helps with jealousy.” I like girls to have low body counts.
bruh
Need more context. What was circumstance of the hookup? Do they still keep in touch? What kind of guy is her friend (nice guy, player, normal guy etc)? Is her body count actually low? What kind of gf is she? Is she hot (1-10)?
They’re still in the same friend group so to speak - don’t know if they keep in touch aside from that. Context of hookup idk
Answer the other questions too bro. If you're withholding that info, I think deep down, you know the answer to your own question. If I were you, I'd find out the context of the hookup, surprised you don't know
The key is, how did you learn about this?
She told me
In what context. Was she spewing off about it like it’s baggage or was she just informing you of her history
Informing
Then you’re honestly set. Sounds like she’s a relatively self-respecting lady
Dawg if she's outright just letting you know how another mans hit you gotta leave. That's disrespect on your manhood
lol completely the wrong take. If she is giving you a heads up that she hooked up with someone in her friend group that's a sign of respect and trust. Otherwise, if she sat on that information she is making you look like the clown when everyone in the room has different information than you have
Have fun dealing with that friend always being at her heels whenever you mess up. If they've fucked, they can't just "be friends" while she's in another relationship. There's always going to be that tension and most women talk to their "friends" whenever they're having trouble/experiencing difficulty in a relationship. The problem you should focus on isn't that she has slept with a guy before you. It's that she's still friends with this guy now that she's with you.
I agree here. I was under the impression that there was no other baggage other than she banged that dude and is no longer friends. If they’re still friends there’s no future for this woman
Her honesty in telling you is admirable and open, which is a good thing. Orange flag is that they're still in same friend group or see each other here and there potentially. I'd keep an eye on that.
I do not talk about any past exploits with girls I date. Nothing good comes of it. Do not discuss body counts - nothing. It’s so childish.
Respectfully, men focus on a woman’s past and women focus on a man’s future. Just how the world works imo - I don’t want to get on my knee for someone’s one night stand
good way to put it. im going to steal that
it doesnt mean every girl needs to be a virgin - just have proved she has dignity and class
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