Always INSULTED and HUMILIATED. What to do?
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Man, this reads like the prelude to a mass shooting or something.
hahaha!
+1.
Do something to earn some self respect and confidence. Start lifting weights or pick up a hobby and get good at it. You should probably not be friends with those people either.
I can't recommend this enough. Learning to lift weights changed my life, but not for the reasons you might think. I did add some muscle, and get more fit, and those were good changes, but not the main point.
Iron doesn't lie. It doesn't make fun of you, or judge you, or praise you, or seek your acceptance. It's not your friend, but it's not your enemy. 400 pounds is 400 pounds, same as it was yesterday, and same as it will be tomorrow. It is consistent and true and honest.
Because of this, you always know the truth about yourself. You can either lift the weight, or you can't. You know if you've been putting in enough work to make progress, because the numbers will go up. If you've been lying to yourself or mailing it in, then they won't. Like many things in life, you get out of weightlifting what you put in.
Getting stronger is hard. It is far more difficult mentally than it is physically. It is hard precisely because you are consistently confronted with the truth. If you don't lift the weight, then you have failed. It's not the weight's fault, because remember, the iron doesn't lie. You'd be surprised how many people can't handle facing the truth about themselves, and instead point to their shoes or the bar or the gym or something else that means their failure was not their fault. But it is the acceptance of the failure and the adjustment to keep fighting that builds strength.
When someone gains strength, and it's the hard-won strength that takes months and years of time under the bar to cultivate, the mental benefits far outweigh the physical. When someone fights through adversity and failure and finds that they can choose to adjust their attitude and their training and effort and the result is a tangible, real improvement, they become a new person.
Plus, picking heavy shit up off the ground is awesome.
Elliot Hulse, is that you?
Benching 225 is definitely a huge milestone mentally
2x- start lifting weights. 100%. Will build some confidence. And lose the bad friends. People will treat you how you let them. Treat yourself and others with respect and don't accept anything else. Sometimes a simple " why did you do/say that" can turn a situation around when someone treats you poorly. Let them answer for their actions- not your self esteem.
If they don't add any value, tell them to fuck off. Why are you seeking so much external validation?
everybody's life revolves around people. just imagine your parents not giving a shit about you. anything you try to do, has massive obstacles.
Sounds like you're already set in the defeatist mindset and are unwilling to see views opposing what is the path of least resistance. Nobody's life should revolve around the opinions of others until you have children.
I have had many friends come from abusive backgrounds, foster homes, or lesser means that are stronger people than I. They did not let their situation or people not giving a shit about them be an excuse not to succeed. Life gave them a bad hand of cards, they bluffed their way through and took the pot.
Until you change your perspective your life will not change. Until you can bring about the confidence to leave those useless friends behind or show your parents your worth, you will forever be a slave to the perspective of others. This is no way to live. Stop seeking external strength, and start building it internally.
I don't inherently give a fuck about anyone. If people want my respect they earn it, then I reciprocate. Chasing respect won't get you anywhere in life, you demand it then you follow up with the same level or more.
You need to UPEND and DISRUPT your social life. Try to find an UNDERGROUND SEX DUNGEON near you, it will TRANSFORM your LIFE!
yo is this real? like is this a real human or some ongoing troll like that dude who wouldn't stop talking about crushing his enemies and shit
KINDNESS
You shouldn't let people insult you, but rather ideas/institutions.
For ex., the current stock market bubble/failure to adhere to reality is insulting to me.
In May, Nasdaq was up 28 days, down 3. Something is very wrong, and I'm humiliated somewhat (as a bear).
4/10
an hero
Haven't seen that one in a while. Nice.
Do not seek affirmation from anyone, work on developing yourself and setting attainable goals to help yourself grow and progress as a person. The people who actually matter will stay around, but don't be concerned about losing friends or anyone that is treating you disrespectfully because you will learn that you are much better off without them. Keep your head up and grind, buddy.
I don't inherently give a fuck about anyone. If people want my respect they earn it, then I reciprocate. Chasing respect won't get you anywhere in life, you demand it then you follow up with the same level or more.
Start building your confidence. By feeling as if the world is against you -- you're already at a loss. Don't speak so negatively about yourself because your'e bringing more negativity into your life. Start working out, start studying and start doing things you enjoy, whether that is studying banking or hiking.
Finance isn't for the weakhearted, so make sure you come in with some thick skin or you're going to get eaten alive. It's all about finding your inner confidence and taking situations and turning them positive. Keep your head up bud.
Like an increasing percentage of posts on this board, I'm going to recommend you speak to a professional therapist. No shame in it, I use one myself as do many high level competitive athletes and business professionals.
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