Analyst with a kid

As someone with a 3 month old, you're out of your mind unless you're getting hired help.

Even then, you're going to miss so many things you want to be there for - you'll regret a lot.

Why not take your time and wait until your career gets a bit more manageable? 

Thanks for flexing that y’all don’t need to work anymore! Fr u just doing IB to pass the time then?

Doable as long as you/your partner have managed expectations. If she’s not working / very flexible job it’s 100x easier. If you also have hired help it’s great. Especially with lots of banks doing some kind of flexibility and you can generally leave before midnight these days, much better even than it was 2-3 years ago and you’ll still be around daily and can almost certainly pull off being a not insignificant part of kids daily routine.

Also you aren’t going in with a kid, by the time it comes, you’ll have a degree of seniority and rapport with your teams hopefully and if they’re not psycho it’s doubly doable

Gotta be an oil and gas Texas A&M analyst

I feel like with WFH this is possible. I get solid down time during the day it's great.

Just do whatever you want man. Can always get help from parents or hire someone if needed. 

Congrats on breaking in from BYU.

Not unheard of, just extremely difficult. If you're at a BB they all offer paternity leave, which you should take advantage of after you secure an offer for the next step.

Wish you all the best, would try to get into corp dev or something less heavy on the hours after IB

Few years ago I saw associates basically “look down” on other associates for having kids. Like why can this guy take long paternity leave but I can’t or why can this girl leave early cause she has kids and I need to be here. Just be aware of that kind of dynamics. Also saw some comment around paternity leave. Tbh only person I saw take more than a week left banking soon after. Have seen as low as 2 days and back to 80-90 hours. 
 

also kids go to bed at 7. So getting done w work at midnight or coming home by 9 won’t do much favor. Just don’t try to have wife working away from home without proper support system. Apparently baby sitters quit often and you can be stuck w crying baby working from home. People are supportive but it’s just not easy. 

Shouldn’t be hard considering you work at Stifel

Had two kids during Associate years, so suspect age wise not too different from your situation. At the same time, I took the opportunity to move to a more prestigious bank/group considered best in my city. I overlooked the fact that some senior bankers were either single, one night stand regulars or family man on paper but left all responsibility to the spouse. Within the norm in banking but terrible situation to be in if you’re just starting a family. I would not change a thing about having kids. Probably would have been better for my sanity to choose who I worked for more carefully (i.e. pat leave cut short for what turned out to be a fake fire drill). Lesson learned: find teams where people generally have successful family life/similar values and priorities as yourself/don’t solely rely on prestige.

Out of curiosity, is there someone else who would help out if something unpredictable happens? Ex. Your wife needs to get a C-section and this can't be as hands on? Or if the baby has a terrible sleep schedule.

Currently third year analyst soon to become associate, have 2 kids (1.5 yrs and 3 months). I didn’t take any parental leave (did take 3 days of PTO for first and 1 week PTO for second) and no one in the office is aware that I have kids. I don’t bring it up to people because I don’t want people to think that I’m not there for the team. Luckily with the WFH, I get to see my kids while I work. The only thing is when kids cry and you’re on a call. That sucks because your group head wonder if that’s your kid. They probably suspect that it’s my kid but never ask because I just told them I don’t have a kid yet. Living in the South with IB salary makes things much better financially. Definitely need help from family, luckily my wife is stay at home mom and my parents are around to help. Otherwise, I can’t imagine how you can do it.

How many married analysts do you guys know? I’ve only met one. 

A2 with a kid here. It’s possible, but you will sacrifice a lot of team building for your family building. To explain, when I’m done with work, I head out. I want to see my kid, not get drinks in a hour at a bar. Over time, this adds up and your teammates won’t connect as much with you as other analysts.

Yeah, I think you're a moron that won't be making enough in a HCOL city to support a child in the way you think you might. Did you come from Alabama? You're too young you havent even explored enough yet.

Not mormon, just entirely confident in who I am and what I want in life. Don’t need to sleep with tons of women who don’t know who they are to try and help me find who I am. Comical watching the “brightest minds in the world” (IB Bankers) continue to use that logic. I’m in a LCOL city and plan on being so for the duration of my career. I have a job 90% of the people on here applied for and didn’t get. I went to a state school on a full ride with no IB hires within 5 years of me. No debt. My wife is incredible. My kids will be too, and I can’t wait to meet them.

I had my first son when I was an analyst. As others have mentioned, the key is having a supportive spouse. We were in a city without any relatives nearby, which made things exponentially harder, but in the end, it has worked out wonderfully. Yes, I missed some major milestones in my sons life during his first year, but he doesn't remember any of that, and we decided we would rather be younger parents as opposed to waiting until I was in a more established position before having children. You will need to be very regimented with your time, especially as your child gets older (think 3+ years old) so you aren't missing out on sporting events, school activities, etc., but it is 100% doable. By the end of my Associate years, I had 2 children and it has been completely manageable, largely due to my wife's flexibility (she is a full-time mom). 

I guess I didn't answer your question in the last post but OP you would be a lone ranger since the majority of people are marrying and having kids later nowadays. A couple years back in the U.S., the number of women having their first child over the age of 30 outnumbered the amount of women having their first child before the age of 30. This would be true especially in your career as those in high flying careers generally settle down later. You'll probably benefit from meeting other young parents with kids so your kids can socialize while you socialize with those your age as well. 

Seems tough but doable if you have a supportive wife. Anecdotally, I knew a handful of Mormons that did this during their analyst or associate years. One guy I knew would leave the office almost every evening for an hour or so to have dinner with his wife and two kids before returning to grind it out until midnight or whenever. They were a family of four (now five! The guy is a VP now) squeezed into a 1-bedroom in Midtown that was walking distance to the office.

The wife has to be the type that can silently endure traditional gender roles with poise and gentleness.

I don't see this working with the typical spoiled American princesses who want their cake and eat it too.

Hope you’re a 29 year old analyst, otherwise statistically, you’re kid is gonna grow up in a broken home.

70 years ago 18 year old fought in ww2, came home and immediately started having kids in early 20s while working through college or med school you name it.

It was fine.  People hype up parenting too much.  As long as you have two loving parents that can provide a home and food, it will work out.  

It blows my mind that anyone would want to have a little shit running around in this current climate

Many banks - especially EBs - have upped their paternity leave to 2 or even 3 months. Maternity is even more. Have one on the way and fully plan to take the whole allotment, and my staffer and manager are encouraging me to do so. Work for PJT/CVP/EVR - the only people I've seen NOT look to take their full leave are people vying for non-VP promotions (aka promotion to senior banker levels), where they need to look out for client relationships. Still tho, planning on taking full leave and IDGAF.