Are you an asshole or a nice person?

I was told I am a nice person which is useful in a client-facing scenario (ie consulting or lots of internal stakeholders). For core roles where you need to push things through, it might be useful to display a more direct or aggressive personality.

I noticed when people get more senior they typically "calm down" though; could be explained with the general nature of aging (ie hormone levels), having a family life or private life that provides serenity (kids, hobbies), more exposure to leadership training and conflict resolution or that managers have learned that cooperation could be more fruitful.

edit: When we are talking office politics I'd say it is more related to tactics and internal string-pulling/influencing rather than being unfriendly or cunning.

I'm respectful all the time but I can be an A hole at times when I need to be. All about having a balance between the two.

Rule of Thumb: always try to be a nice person; karma will hit you eventually.

I'm nice to nice people. I'm an asshole to assholes. Life is too short and dignity matters too much to take sh!t from people who will be coal in a few million years. Everyone's sh!t stinks and farts.

I once remember being picked on by some guy in high school - I didn't even hesitate to point my finger at him and yell YOU SELL TOILETS FOR A LIVING. His family was in the sanitary ware business. But they did have that part of their business.

I grew up Cupertino Silicon Valley. My father used to work at IBM . I knew what the iPod was before 99.99% of people on planet. My family owns rental property which we lease to urologists .

I don't take sh!t from anyone. Period. The feeling of having verbally beheaded someone who deserved it is almost as good as the feeling of ejaculation.

The entire concept of be nice and all that softy feely sh!et presumes that other people are angels and they have good intentions and are flawless human beings who you can never ever be remotely wrong about. The reality is everyone has the ability to slip in behavior.

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Are you objectively an asshole or a nice person? No need to sugar-coat.

I, like most people, am both.

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Would you rather be a nice asshole or an asshole nice person?

This is idiotic.

1: He's a nice guy once you get to know him.

2: That's the perfect amount of 'asshole'.

-GSelevator

My personality changes based on who I deal with to accommodate the situation and to get what I want. Should read "48 Laws of Power". The first chapter would say that being nice is not nice at all. The first person who always die or get fired, cheated, taken advantage of - are the ones with consistent personality (predictability) rather than what we expect of either being nice or asshole at the polar opposite of a spectrum. Be like water my friend.

“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”

I try to act nice on the surface, but am a huge narcissist and sociopath deep down.

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75% Ahole

luckily because of my lifestyle & there isn't a need to be an asshole

When someone describes me, I don't want asshole or nice to be either of the descriptors they use. Driven, smart, witty, fun, capable, productive, but not nice nor an asshole.

Your mom is a nice person...

People tell me I'm an asshole/douchebag so often, that I'm starting to take it as a compliment. Wear it as a badge of honor, of sorts.

Nice on the the surface and as a general rule but a fucking barbarian savage asshole underneath. The barbarian comes out when people behave a certain way and, make no mistake, he hath no mercy. I always remember the slightest insults (or nice gestures) and I always settle my accounts.

...trying to figure out if oligarch is a troll or an unemployed L1 CFA self absorbed delusional sociopath