Attempts to be friends with/be in a relationship with a model?

Its pretty well known that one of the buzz phrases on this site with reference to high finance is "models and bottles." I am just wondering what experiences you have all had trying to hang out/ be in a relationship with a model. Did you fail or succeed?

 
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I received quite the amount of slaps to understand it's not what I want. 1st attempt: chase model with whom I have nothing in common, simply because she's really hot. Doesn't work, waste 6 months in sadness. 2nd attempt: broken girl. Again, good looks blind reason, the instinct to protect did the rest. This time it hurt, because I wasn't doing ok by myself to begin with, this girl used me so long that she also needed a shoulder to cry on, just to eventually fall for her own weaknesses. It ended with a humiliation, being dumped for a drug dealer. Important life lesson. 3rd attempt: cool hangout; by this time I eventually realized most attractive girls have their own self-esteem issues and I have become good at reading them. I get ghosted but I really don't care anymore.

All in all, I don't think models are good for long-term relationships. The background of their world is often dirty, it's extremely rare that they have an interesting personality, I have yet to meet someone who married one and didn't end up divorcing.

Never discuss with idiots, first they drag you at their level, then they beat you with experience.
 
Bizkitgto:
>It ended with a humiliation, being dumped for a drug dealer. Important life lesson.

Model's are like magnets to cocaine.

I was a bit confused by your apostrophe. Did you leave out a word? I think you did:

'Model's asses are like magnets to cocaine.'

Because if its not models and bottles and then coke off the model chick's ass ... is it even a party?!

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Yeah, similar read re. that even the most attractive girls have their own self-esteem issues.

Was introduced to, by all accounts, a very successful model a few years back. We got on alright and there was enough of a spark on both sides that we gave a small something a go (a spark on my side because, well, she was a model, and a spark on her side mostly because I gave decent chat and she liked that I didn't outwardly gun for her). At the end of the day, we just weren't compatible on a genuine personality level, there was also the issue of her constantly trying to prove / assert that she was legitimately intelligent, etc, etc.

TL;DR - models have hang-ups too, as with any relationship, pursue if there's genuine compatibility unless you don't mind spending some time having "fun".

"Work is the curse of the drinking classes" - Oscar Wilde
 
YoungDumbFullOfRum:
Yeah, similar read re. that even the most attractive girls have their own self-esteem issues.

Was introduced to, by all accounts, a very successful model a few years back. We got on alright and there was enough of a spark on both sides that we gave a small something a go (a spark on my side because, well, she was a model, and a spark on her side mostly because I gave decent chat and she liked that I didn't outwardly gun for her). At the end of the day, we just weren't compatible on a genuine personality level, there was also the issue of her constantly trying to prove / assert that she was legitimately intelligent, etc, etc.

TL;DR - models have hang-ups too, as with any relationship, pursue if there's genuine compatibility unless you don't mind spending some time having "fun".

Ahaha yeah, the ''I am a model and I am not a moron'' is indeed what I was referring to when it comes to self-esteem issues. They also know that the first, second, third and fourth reason you are talking to them is because they are hot. Most people have issues with self-control and that's why they get axed quickly.

The best thing you can do is... don't care. It's just another attractive girl, it doesn't work out, whatever. If you don't drool over them and give them a chance to show their personality, they generally appreciate that. At least the decent ones.

Some simply take advantage of their looks to manipulate you.

Never discuss with idiots, first they drag you at their level, then they beat you with experience.
 

Never dated a model in NYC, but lived down the hall from 2 apts. full of Ford models, for 2 years. My take on NYC models:

-- They're too young. In those days (late '80s) most models were 17-18. These days they're even younger. Even when I was 26, I had nothing in common with these near-children and no desire to spend time in their mental and emotional space.

-- Too tall. 5'8" is minimum height for a model. Most are 5'10" - 5'11". I'm 5'6".

-- 80% of models look like nothing special out of their makeup.

-- Unless you're already on the fashion scene, or in the industry, socializing with you will do nothing for a model professionally. She won't see her friends or useful work contacts. If you go with her to her kind of events, you'll be a fish out of water, and get hit on ruthlessly by gay guys.

-- You can't take a model to lunch or dinner, because they don't eat. Anyway, you wouldn't want to go to the type of place they like. A lot of them are on drugs too.

Last but not least, if you do date a model, other guys will constantly be trying to peel her off you. Who needs that?

 
CompliConsultant:
That sounds fantastic social events, not having to pay for meals, and the possibility of free drugs????

Im moving to NYC ASAP.

What do you think goes on in NYC? Half of the people are spoiled rich folks, the other half are poor immigrants/poor working class looking to wipeout stresses of also dealing with being crammed.

 

I dated quite a few back in my single days. Online dating hadn't become mainstream yet and there were a ton of poor models looking for just a decent guy to buy them drinks/dinner. They were all very tall/lanky/hot (depends on your taste I guess), had a great time with every single one but never really looked at it as a 'relationship'. They were all great companions to attend events or even some weddings etc... When you show up with one you get a ton of looks so be prepared for that attention. Most of them will do anything to move in with you if you got a nice place, since most of them are living in model homes with 10 other girls.

My personal opinion was/is to never consider any girl as wife material if she uses her physical appearance to make money instead of her brain (one way or another). Happy to answer any other questions. Makes me feel young again!

 

That was interesting and struck me as genuine. Out of curiosity, what does your wife do? 1. Or at least what did she do when you met her? 2a. Did you hesitate before becoming exclusive with her? 2b. How hard is it to wean yourself off multiple casual feelings to focus on one girl?

 

Sure. I think by far the most important question is the last one, because when it's commoditized very tough to kick the addiction.

Wife is in education. Teaches young kids. Was doing that when I met her, right out of undergrad.

I had a very hard time becoming exclusive because of the said availability around me. It actually only happened after the HF I was at shut down. Saw that when money went away, so did the models (was too naive back then). Looking back it was great to actually see that my wife was the only one that stuck around in bad times. A great foundation to build a relationship.

 

"My personal opinion was/is to never consider any girl as wife material if she uses her physical appearance to make money instead of her brain (one way or another)."

Interested in your reasoning behind this statement. Thanks.

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This is of course all based on my personal experience, though I think it's a healthy sample size to be statistically significant, there are always exceptions:

Short answer is they are attention whores. You want a girl to focus on the relationship instead of counting Instagram followers.

Long answer is that they've gotten everything in life using their looks, so they never had to use/polish any other skills. Are there not girls in finance (or any other industry) who could be models if they wanted? Absolutely. But they had to use a lot more than their looks to get to where they are (mostly). Having to fill gender quotas don't change the fact that they had to compete against other relatively smart girls.

Because of that, when things don't go their way, they try to 'flirt' their way out of situations, you don't want that in a long term companion. They also don't have any girlfriends because they've always had an army of men at their fingertips their whole life (including their dads). This is why you see short bald rich men marrying models because the model knows he'll say 'yes' to everything, he's got no choice (no market value other than $$$)

 

As long as you think it matters it will. Confidence. Treat people like ppl. Fuck their status.

 

I dated a stripper. Very hot, but crazy AF. Worth doing for a little while, but you must protect your mind. She will try to run games on you, etc. So you gotta come correct, spend your money slowly, and don't get attached. Fortunately I knew she was a stripper before I started dating her, so I knew the game. Fun, worth doing, would repeat.

 

I dated a Ford model for awhile back in 2011, that was before I was in Finance though. She was attractive, easy to be with and not very high maintenance. They do tend to have a thing for guys in Finance though.

My friend works with a guy who married that Maybelline Model Emily Didonato (srsly look her up!). He's private equity.. figures..

 

I found it really interesting how they lived one block from each other yet had never seen each other before. Tells you how much time this guy spent his early days in the office lol. Also for a VP he seems to have kept his health quite well (doesn't look like he has aged 20 years or fat, wrinkled etc.). Then again I didn't look into the exact firm where he works (could be better culture).

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