Broke up with girlfriend

I recently had a bad breakup with my girlfriend. While the thing was dragging along for a while and having implications on my performance at work, it still hurts like a MFer.
It has now been six months and while it gets better every day, it remains top of mind and I have this bizarre worry that I wont find a new girl that`s as pretty or nice to hang out with.
It drags me down so much that I think about quitting the job.

Thoughts? Views?
Maybe I need some though love

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I don't think you should worry about it. The hardest moment of my relationship life was when someone I cared wanted to be a flight attendant and wanted to travel the world. Sometimes, sparks don't fly, ha (ironic) but things didn't work out. Of course sometimes things don't work out but I don't think you should worried. It's been seven years, and yes it hurts but you can't think about someone who doesn't want to be you forever.

"It's okay, I'll see you on the other side"
 

Damn, I thought six months was long. 7 years?? Fuck...

I've been listening to Frank Ocean for these past six months to get over a break up. I can't imagine myself doing this for years on end.

 

hey man I've definetly been there. sometimes we feel so bad after breakups because we used our ex as an emotional crutch and forget how to make ourselves feel good without them. I promise you can find someone as good (probably better) than her. I felt that way too after losing the "girl of my dreams" a few months ago but now have come to realize that she was completely toxic and i am extremely glad it ended. just a few words of advice which will help: 1) don't talk to her, there's no reason 2) delete old pics of you both 3) don't look at her social media. I promise you will get better faster than you think.

 
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Simps, please take this into account. Having a girlfriend is not a dream come true.

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My MS / SB ratio is below 2x. I'd say I'm doing a pretty solid job...

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Been there, it sucks, but life is too short to look back. Set yourself goals, may not be with love, but may be to be top bucket, to go heliskiing in Canada with your friends or party like never before in the caribean. The more you try to find a new girlfriend the more it will hurt, just enjoy life and I'm sure you'll meet someone, if you are in IB you are smart, making good $, likely in NYC where there is a massive young crowd.

Also if you need to chat shoot a PM

 

Chin up King. Was in exactly the same spot as you: impacting work, 6 months on I still wasn’t over her.

It’ll get better. I threw myself into the gym (barely went when I was with her) and started doing more things with friends again. One day suddenly came along where I realised I hadn’t thought about her at all for 24 hours, and just like that, I knew it was getting better. Drop me a pm if you want to chat.

 

Data point on the female war board. head down eyes up...

Soon enough you will be bag one of her roommates or close friends (maybe sister?). Usually takes about 1-3 years to repair a female relationship after you destroy their closest “friendship” so consider it another 6 months of conversion time remaining before your pain timeline becomes greater than the pain timeline you deliver.

 

I have learned you generally find a better girl after a while. If you are a smart guy, you learn from past relationships. At the beginning, maybe you just picked girls you found attractive but you had nothing in common with. Eventually you learn what is really important for you in a partner and what traits you can't tolerate.

As for the rest, talk to new girls, go out with friends, improve yourself, keep your mind busy until you find the next one.

Never discuss with idiots, first they drag you at their level, then they beat you with experience.
 

Have you tried using your status to bang stupid artsy girls and models off Tinder? Talk to a few new girls, stop talking about your past relationships and you'll get over her very quickly. As long as you're single and you haven't fallen for anyone else after her, you'll keep experiencing this.

And as the Incoming CFA Level 1 charterholder pointed out (love his name btw), dig deep and find out why you actually miss her. Why do you think you cant replace her? You're probably a top 1% earner for your age with good education and good job, cheer up asshole :D.

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Lots of people posted good advice here already. Just to add: I broke it off with my “dream girl” several years ago. It took me a while to realize that the relationship wasn’t all that good. I got married to someone else, who actually is a lot better for me.

I had pictured a life with my ex before, how it was going to work out, where we would live, all that stuff. But it didn’t work out. We just weren’t right for each other. The relationship was volatile and lasted for several years but I grew tired of constant fighting over the dumbest stuff. Little nitpicking things would turn into big arguments etc.

Anyway, fast forward several years, I’m married now, laying in bed browsing WSO on a Saturday morning while my wife sleeps in. I’m about to have breakfast with her when she wakes up. Life is good. BUT rewind time, I never thought this would happen. I thought I’d never find love again, I thought I was destined to be single (or just strings of short term gfs), I thought nobody would compare to my ex.

Life moves on. It sucks until it doesn’t. One day, so long as you listen to the good advice posted above, it will stop sucking. And when you’re in a good emotional state, someone else will find their way to you.

I’m pretty nihilistic and jaded, but my wife started talking to me out of the blue when I wasn’t looking for anyone or anything. We became best friends and ended up together. Life has a weird way of proving you wrong when you think you have life figured out.

Keep your head up and keep pushing forward. Never just quit a job without taking some time off first. Maybe you’re just tired, emotionally drained, and need a break. That’s normal, part of being human.

“The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary.” - Nassim Taleb
 
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I have this bizarre worry that I wont find a new girl that`s as pretty or nice to hang out with.

Thoughts?

Get chiseled and get a six pack and you'll have chicks following you left and right. Take your pick.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

I would love to hear your stories. Do girls approach you and ask you out because they see your muscles? Do they actually follow you around and you have to look behind you for them to scatter like rats?

I'm not built like you but would be great to have that happen to me

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I would love to hear your stories. Do girls approach you and ask you out because they see your muscles? Do they actually follow you around and you have to look behind you for them to scatter like rats?

I'm not built like you but would be great to have that happen to me

Yeah many chicks lose their shit if I run by without a shirt on or am cycling without a shirt on outside.

I wasn't in this good of shape in my 20s. I am in the best shape of my life. I train like a pro athlete - I expect my counterpart to at least understand this mindset.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

No LOL.

Browse Misc or /fit/. My favorite is depression barbell club on facebook.

Alot of guys get into Bodybuilding for girls but don't work on their social skills and end up as autistic retards who share gym memes.

 

Is Ariana Grande still bored?

If you understood this reference, props to you!

Will update my computer soon and leave Incognito so I will disappear forever. How did I achieve Neanderthal by trolling? Some people are after me so need to close account for safety.
 

I had a similar situation...To cope I cut off contact with family and friends, and completely invested in my work. I became top analyst and since exited to a top Mega Fund where I’ve already been promoted after 1 year...I’m in love with my job and married to the game. As for personal life, I no longer have desire for a wife or family, instead, I have Instagram models lick caviar off my MF balls in my free time.

 

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