Can IB Analysts Have Girlfriends?

Intern in Investment Banking - Mergers and Acquisitions

Curious to know how many analysts are able to maintain a relationship, and if it's even possible for a relationship to survive 2 years of banking. Can anyone provide any insight on this, whether it be anecdotal or statistical? How many people attempt this and fail?

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Sep 11, 2019

No, not allowed. Your celibacy makes you stronger.

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Sep 13, 2019

No wonder @Isaiah_53_5 is ripped.

Sep 13, 2019

he will never live this down:
his shirtless mirror selfie

Sep 11, 2019

Statistically, you're likely to be dating coworkers. Also statistically, your co-workers are dudes.

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Sep 11, 2019

I see this as an absolute win

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Sep 11, 2019

By all means brother you do you.

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Sep 11, 2019

Do people in IB naturally gravitate towards finance chicks or is it the complete opposite? Wouldn't it make sense to have someone to relate to when you are getting an email at 3:45 am that says plz fix tks

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Sep 13, 2019

No right because you'll sound smarter explaining that you working on a mega deal to a non-finance chick at 3:45 am who is sleeping with you than a finance chick who know's you are your MD's bitch and are adding commas and period to a presentation.

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Sep 13, 2019

Oh makes sense got ya

Sep 14, 2019

I've dated both ways. Right now it's an underwriter and she gets that I'm just generally busy with work. If you make it clear from the start it's not a huge deal. Also I've found it is helpful if her parents/brother/whatever are also in a profession that involves a lot of hours since they grew up around it.

Sep 16, 2019

Finance "chick" are often not impressed, because they know you're fronting, and will have zero tolerance for arrogance...girls in cute careers like marketing, or fashion, are more likely to be interested.

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Sep 12, 2019

Guy sat next to me this summer is close to 5 years with his girlfriend. He is an associate and did A2A (very common in London). His gf was in consulting so has an understanding of the job. I think it would be completely different for someone in marketing doing a 9-5 job.

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Sep 12, 2019

You're married to the job, the girl can be your mistress

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Sep 12, 2019

I've honestly found these relationships work out better with people in your industry. At least helps them understand why your job is your main priority, and they also have as little free time as you do.

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Sep 12, 2019

Yup, just need to make time for it. My girlfriend and I have been together for over 3 years and live together so it makes it a bit easier. She had a parent who worked in the industry for 30+ years so she understands the hours. My bank has a once a month protected weekend policy too, so I usually try setting up time for us to spend the weekend together during my protected. Lastly, Friday nights I'm usually out by 8pm, so it's easy to do an 8:30 dinner date with her.

Downside is I usually get home after she's asleep M-Th, but we're able to get breakfast together Sat/Sun and sometimes go out Saturday night. Big change from college where I saw her every day, but you make it work. It's definitely made me much more efficient with how I allocate my time, even more so than I have as an analyst.

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Sep 16, 2019

But...you knew her before the job. Different for people just meeting/dating

Sep 16, 2019

Yup, I'm sure it is. YMMV -- if you want to make it work and have an understanding partner, it's definitely possible.

  • 1st Year Analyst in Investment Banking - Mergers and Acquisitions
Sep 12, 2019

Out of 15 analysts in my group, only two are in relationships and they live with their significant others. One guy had been dating a girl for 3 years (since sophomore year in college) and she broke up with him within 6 months of him starting the job due to not being able to see him more than at most once a week... I think to make it work with a long-term gf/bf, you gotta live together

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Sep 12, 2019

If the bank wanted you to have a girlfriend, they would've issued you one

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Sep 12, 2019

You can date Rosey Palmer and her five friends.

Sep 12, 2019

A girlfriend? I wish but too bad for myself, I am pretty much married to the markets 9:30 to 4:00.

"It's okay, I'll see you on the other side"

  • 2nd Year Associate in Corporate Development
Sep 13, 2019

It really depends on your group - some MD's allow it while others won't. Best to clarify this before joining the group so there's no misunderstanding

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Sep 13, 2019

I notice quite a few posts from young guys on this board who are concerned about relationships while working at an investment bank. The short answer I'd say to this is that if you want to succeed in your IB career, just forget about it. Your presence and quality time is important to women, and unless she's very unusual, your girlfriend is going to get frustrated with your work schedule. I know several guys in banking and equity research who even got married and divorced, with conflicts over work hours being a major reason. At some point, you will have to choose between her, or your job.

When I worked in sell side equity research back around 2008, I had a girlfriend whom I met in my last semester of college and we did a long distance relationship for a while. That was really important to me and at the time was my primary source of enjoyment outside of work. It did take a toll on my job. Staying up late every night talking to her on the phone only left me with about 4 hours of sleep every night, and I was just coming into the office destroyed on some mornings. It was hard on my health - I looked like hell at the end of the day. There's a price to pay for trying to have the best of both worlds.

When the financial crisis hit, I went through an existential crisis about what I really wanted out of life and ended up choosing my girlfriend over Wall Street work. Now we're still married, but I no longer work in that field.

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Sep 15, 2019

Nice personal anecdote, but your experience isn't dogma.

I made it through 3 analyst years with my significant other, with whom I live, and recently married.

As with most things in life your mileage may vary. These things are highly dependent on the partner and are highly case-by-case.

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Sep 15, 2019

As I state in my post, you probably have an unusual partner or circumstances which helps you make it through the challenging times of being in IB.

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Sep 13, 2019

No of course you cannot - it is explicity stated in your offer letter that for the following two years, it is firm policy that analysts are not allowed to pursue relationships with a significant other. If you do decide to take the risk and an MD finds out, if he's feeling generous, he'll just tell the staffer to immediately put you in bottom bucket and to only give you middle market E&P sellsides for the remainder of your analyst program. I wouldn't take my chances.

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Sep 15, 2019

Can anyone verify if this for real? The employment contract can dictate your personal relationships? Wow.

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  • Prospective Monkey in
Sep 15, 2019

You're dumb as shit dude. Please let us know which bank is going to be blessed by your talent

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Sep 15, 2019

are you being rly right now? of course its real. No question

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Sep 13, 2019

Once you move to PE yes.

Sep 13, 2019

Have you tried it with your left hand yet?

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Sep 13, 2019

HAHAHAHAHAHAHANO.

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Sep 13, 2019

Made it through 3+ years in IB w/ my current GF. Started dating in college though. Definitely doable, but not expected. I feel like people with successful relationships through their IB years usually are already dating beforehand or meet somebody else also in finance or an equally tough work / life balance job, such as consulting.

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Sep 15, 2019

Adding a little flavour to the IB commentary above. I'd say it's possible but extremely hard. Work in AM (RE) and just broke up after 3 years. More recently increased responsabilities + CFA and her going to law school and her own headaches just destroyed any chance of solid relationship - yet alone any emotional time to allocate to one. I'd say, if your somehow pursuing a challenging career at a junior level chances are your relationship will be treading on thin ice.

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Sep 15, 2019

I am just here for the lols..

This question can be asked for any profession every relationship isnt the same.

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Sep 15, 2019
Intern in Investment Banking - Mergers and Acquisitions :

Curious to know how many analysts are able to maintain a relationship, and if it's even possible for a relationship to survive 2 years of banking. Can anyone provide any insight on this, whether it be anecdotal or statistical? How many people attempt this and fail?

Was an IB Analyst with wife, can confirm top bucket rated and promoted to associate

Sep 15, 2019

Just date a go-getter hustler female. She's not going to have time for you either.... My question is how are you going to work 80 hour weeks and have no "intimate"-life? Sounds remarkably unhealthy. Not that you need a girlfriend, for that...

You'll meet someone who understands you. Good luck.

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Sep 16, 2019

A real relationship? 100%. If it's a young love fling probably not so much.

I have been with the same guy for 3 yrs and he gets that I work late hours etc, and we are at the
stage together that he supports my goals and that's that. Most girls should be able to do the same for their partners. When he is in web development school, I will do the same for him. If not it is usually a sign of immaturity of the relationship or the people. Something serious won't end over work life balance unless you've been putting work over family for years.

Sep 16, 2019
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