I am going say no because I know many guys who were good friends including me with girls and later on a physical attraction grew. I guess men find it harder to be friends with women than vice versa. I think once you are married or have a g/f.. You can't really have a girl as friend... But in H.S and College yeah but long term wise I think the answer is no..

 

Only if you were castrated or possess incredible sense of self-control. I mean it's the hormone, stupid !

Nobody wants to work for it anymore. There's no honor in taking the after school job at Mickey D's. Honor's in the dollar, kid.
 

Yeah. I would hook up with my attractive friends, obviously, but at this point I'm good friends with some of them and wouldn't want to ruin it. So, if the hot girl is genuinely cool, you can be friends, but of course the guy would bang her if he knew he could. Having hot friends who are just friends is actually a huge plus. They always hang out with other hot women and can introduce you to them.

It might be harder to do that after college though...

 

Sure guys and girls can be friends. Just not many of the type of guys who are acculturated in to the financial field.

Everyone keep in mind that love is only evolutionary ploy to keep families together to propagate the species more successfully.

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seabird:
Sure guys and girls can be friends. Just not many of the type of guys who are acculturated in to the financial field.

Everyone keep in mind that love is only evolutionary ploy to keep families together to propagate the species more successfully.

Well its not love, its our hormones...I feel attractions can grow if they spend enough time with that person..

 

Yes, they can.

That's not saying that you can be 'just friends with never ever any sexual desire.' I have plenty of female friends who I have been tempted to bone from time to time but I let it pass because of the friendship.

I am permanently behind on PMs, it's not personal.
 

YES, physical attraction is one dimension of friendship.

Men who only talk to women they want to fuck suffer from social/developmental impairment. It's a huge red flag if I'm hanging out with a dude and he ignores the women I know until an attractive one walks in: this is the same type of guy that tries to hang out with you in order to get an 'in' with a girlfrind / wife so he can fuck you over behind your back. They are are NOT your friend and can NOT be trusted around business contacts, family, or established friends...and should be denied access to your social networks beyond the limited use you have for them.

I believe the term is useful idiot.

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i am friends with quite a few attractive women and have been throughout m life. once a guy "friend" accused me of "holding out on him" my rolodex of crushworthy tang. that was a WTF moment. like i owe it to any motherfucker to let him roll up in my network.

those cockholsters are in a holding pattern for ME and ME only. this is the chris rock "one cock" rule of porn which i enforce with deadly seriousness.

 

exactly. it pays to cultivate your personal poontang preserve. and like any good herder you need to defend your ground from poachers.

you bet your ass i cock block so hard even when punks try to masturbate to the thought of one of my precious inventory they can hear my voice: "don't you even dare."

 
ivoteforthatguy:
exactly. it pays to cultivate your personal poontang preserve. and like any good herder you need to defend your ground from poachers.

you bet your ass i cock block so hard even when punks try to masturbate to the thought of one of my precious inventory they can hear my voice: "don't you even dare."

Dude, if you're not moving towards / giving a woman a happy, comitted relationship, then I hate to break it to you: she's seeing other people and can get laid anytime they want on 15 minutes notice, maybe less, and you will never know. You're free to live within any illusions you want to, but welcome to the real world. Keeping a steady supply of dateworthy women as friends is just smart, but serial cockblocking ...like cheating... will ultimately blow up in your face and work against you.

The OCR approach actually works best if you're put in the friend zone: now she's comfortable introducing you to her friends, and you get a fresh start with them. As long as you're not a dick, women will keep introducing you to other women. Sometimes, they'll even want to see you date a friend to see how you are in a relationship before they decide to go out with you...why, I don't know, but they do.

If you haven't figured this out, most women are far better at relationship management than men, it's just what they do.

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I live with no illusions that I can keep all hands off my goods, but i do my part to keep the maximum number of hands within my own control away.

My record is three women in three cities. I was a much younger man and back then I made no promises. I knew it was unsustainable in the long run though.

 
whatwhatwhat:
RE: cockblocking, i would never introduce any of my friends to each other not because im an asshole but because i kinda don't want to be responsible (even though i wouldn't give a shit) if stuff didn't work out and then have to deal with some bullshit ass complicated planning shit cos people don't want to see each other.

i don't mind sharing trim that i don't want to plow but if it comes down to "would i rather have me or dude X doing her" it's going to be me

 

Who says sex has to change anything? Fuck yes I have hot girls whom are freinds that I fuck, they don't seem to mind.

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FinancialNoviceII:
heister:
Who says sex has to change anything? Fuck yes I have hot girls whom are freinds that I fuck, they don't seem to mind.

When you say they don't seem to mind, is that a reflection of your sexual prowess?

Damn, I walked right into that one. But no, they don't care that they aren't the only one.

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I always gravitate towards hot women because even if they end up being friends, my first reaction would be wanting to fuck them. Worst case scenario, I have several attractive female friends and being there for them has cachet.

Always have guy friends coming at me for introductions but I tend to shy away from that too - 1) If I aint getting laid, then I certainly am not going to help some other guy get her; 2) If he's an asshole to her, who's going to constantly hear about it? Certainly not him.

 

Its crazy how those women in the video are acutely aware that their guy 'friend' wants them but still they insist on playing friends with them as if it'll go away. If anything, it's just going to fucking build.

Guys need to step up their games though, if I wanted one of those women, I would damn sure be man enough to let it be known explicitly.

I'm of the opinion though, that when introductions were first made, the woman in question had to have known, 'this guy is only talking to me for one reason'.

 
FinancialNoviceII:
Guys need to step up their games though, if I wanted one of those women, I would damn sure be man enough to let it be known explicitly.
Agree, and I still wrestle with being more forward so I can't criticize anyone for not being on point with this one. If you ask a friend out, you risk ruining the friendship, so it's tricky. Best is to be upfront from the start, "Hi, I'd like to take you out and if you're not interested, I'm fine with being friends." This way, you just give them some space if things don't work out and you don't waste your time trying to date someone that isn't interested.

I'm still not a fan of cockblockers though. If you don't want to make an introduction, that's your call. But actively fucking it up for a guy who goes and asks out a chick you know...honestly, it's the kind of thing that bitchy, jealous, high school girls do. Unless the dude is a douche and you don't want your friend banging that guy.

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FinancialNoviceII:
Guys need to step up their games though, if I wanted one of those women, I would damn sure be man enough to let it be known explicitly.
Agree, and I still wrestle with being more forward so I can't criticize anyone for not being on point with this one. If you ask a friend out, you risk ruining the friendship, so it's tricky. Best is to be upfront from the start, "Hi, I'd like to take you out and if you're not interested, I'm fine with being friends." This way, you just give them some space if things don't work out and you don't waste your time trying to date someone that isn't interested.

I'm still not a fan of cockblockers though. If you don't want to make an introduction, that's your call. But actively fucking it up for a guy who goes and asks out a chick you know...honestly, it's the kind of thing that bitchy, jealous, high school girls do. Unless the dude is a douche and you don't want your friend banging that guy.

I dont have the energy to actively fuck up someone's attempt at a friend, I would only do it if I wanted her and if I did, hopefully she wouldnt still be single (or if she is, I couldnt care less as likely I have moved on) but if I am aware of the guy's rep or the fact that he's an asshole, then I would straight up tell the friend what I know, rather then play some stupid game that will first get me shit, and then gratitude. I would like to avoid the shit.

 

Of course they can. I don't see why the guy cannot accept the limitations between us. I would much rather remain friends then attempt to ruin it by taking it further.

I have had guy friends that I was attracted to but I always remained friends. eventually, it'll pass.

 
SpanishBuzz:
Of course they can. I don't see why the guy cannot accept the limitations between us. I would much rather remain friends then attempt to ruin it by taking it further.

I have had guy friends that I was attracted to but I always remained friends. eventually, it'll pass.

Shut up silly woman.

 

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