Recently I've had to think a lot about how some old friends, who have been close to me in the past, have greatly changed their behavior towards me after I have received life changing opportunities in my professional career.
I come from a highly non-traditional background (think sports, arts, military, etc.) and have recently received the most amazing opportunities which I honestly couldn't have dreamed of one year ago. I was accepted into a top target school in Europe and received an early internship offer for one of the most famous firms on this forum. My life is taking a drastic change for the better. This has truly been amazing for me and I am very grateful for these opportunities!
In spite of all these incredible things that have happened to me, a lot has changed in my social life as well. And not always for the better. Some of my old friends who are still following my previous (not even closely as prestigious) career path have started to perceive me very differently. I'm feeling as though my every word is being monitored for clues of arrogance and I have to be cautious all the time about how I present my recent life-events in order to come off as humble. It also seems as if some people are actively trying to find clues that im not as intelligent as the opportunities I'm getting would suggest. All of this is starting to be a real pain in the ass for me.
My original plan was to always stay true to my background and not forget where I come from. I really wanted to retain my old friendships from my past career but im now having doubts about wether it is such a good idea after all.
My question to you is if you've also had similar experiences after getting those truly life changing opportunities? It's really hard to be genuine and share your successes with someone if he or she is not really happy for you. Will people be jealous of me regardless of my behaviour or could it be that I'm just not accustomed to presenting my new self? Or should I just ditch my old friends and be done with it? What was your solution to the problem?
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