Competitive with your ex

sounds like you have insecurity issues

There’s more to life than LinkedIn/ resume... 

Nobody was ever on their deathbed and wished they had spent more time in the office.

I’m not saying don’t try hard and achieve great things, but enjoy life. We’re all talking monkeys on a spinning rock, with a lifespan so insignificantly short it’s almost comical. Make the most of it, enjoy the ride, leave a legacy of greatness AND goodness. 

it sounds like you need to turn to a life of prescription pill addiction 

OG Poster —> for reference guys this isn’t all the time just sometimes. Don’t judge me too much lol Cries

Why do you care about other people? Do what makes you happy, move on from people you met in college and find what matters to YOU, only that will make you happy. They probably don’t care that you see their linkedin profiles or think that you are still into them...

So you based your entire career path on insecurity derived from a guy who dumped you? You’re an idiot.

I feel that these insecurities are not uncommon. I don’t really compare myself to my friends or ex’s for that matter, but do measure myself against family, especially my cousins. I’m still in college trying to get into in RE development, while they’re doctors, engineers, a couple hold PhDs as well. I get the feeling I’m not as “prestigious” (whatever that means) and sometimes do feel a condescending vibe from them (could just be me being insecure lol). Whenever I do get these feelings, I remind myself I chose to do finance and chose RE over everything else because it’s what I wanted to do, fuck what they or anybody else thinks.

Your situation is a little different, but at the end of the day, you got to where you want to be and I assume you can your job well enough to move up the ranks over time. Be competitive, be the best version of yourself you can be. But I wouldn’t compare myself to all the guys you know, they most likely don’t care and in the end, it’s not a game you can win.

You are mentally ill, not sure what you are looking for by posting this but I suggest you get therapy

I think you still let your teenage yourself taking over who you really are.

Everyone is a dummy for someone, just get on with life and embrace the new you.
You're only what you allow yourself to think about yourself.

My sincere advice: I think it would be a good idea to treat your insecurity issues through a professional psychologist - absolutely nothing wrong with it, it is quite normal.

Live your own life and do not care about people that are not anymore in your social circle. And come on, forget your ex BF, I have been stalked for a long time by 2 ex GFs from my time in college and it feels so awkward/annoying. Better not to be that kind of person.

Smh, listen. Some of you guys are shit. Thank you for the rest that gave her advice. Don’t forget a lot of you men will have daughters some day facing a problem like this.

And for the person who posted this. There’s more to life than this. Obviously previous judgements of you are hurtful and it motivated you to prove them wrong. But you only truly win when you find inner happiness in your own personal goals. No point of worrying what they say if they’re currently not in your life circle. Even though its hard, take it to the chin. And push forward in life, try and aim for a new goal in something. Anyways, which u the best of luck, and ignore the super androcentric perspective you see from a lot of chum guys on here and in real life.

I’m just a lowly prospect, but I used to to always try to compare myself to others and compete to be “better”. Definitely developed a superiority complex but got quickly humbled. IMO you’ll never be happy if you constantly compare yourself to others. There’ll always be someone better than you

Thank you guys!!

Definitely get where the negative comments are coming from... this is definitely a toxic attitude/habit to have and an ugly one at that. The pandemic has brought out the worst in me sometimes with all the isolation (easy to forget about the world around you) but I think I just need to stop thinking about myself and focus on doing good things and learning from good people. 
 

Thanks for all the positive comments, wishing good things your way. :) 

also — not sure about you guys, but being a little scandalous in college isn’t something I’m proud of. Was not cute in HS and a total nerd but then got it together just before college and went a little nuts. Just my opinion but as a girl I’d never allude to any “crazy stories” around coworkers (don’t think guys should either!) but it’d especially make me look really bad. So still insecure about that part of my past lol