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Dating as an Investment Banking Analyst

Could someone with experience please comment on the dating life as an analyst? Especially those who started work already with a girlfriend.

Having a Relationship While In Investment Banking

As an analyst at an investment bank, it is well known that you will work hectic hours that can range between 70-100 a week. That being said, our users shared that when it comes to having a relationship while working in banking, it is important to communicate realistic expectations about your work life to your significant other.

monkeyman2010:

It's all about what kind of relationship you have. If you can give him/her realistic expectations and if she/he can live with those standards, shouldn't be a problem.

Our users shared that it is realistic to plan to speak with your significant other 10 - 20 minutes on the phone a day and go out once a week (but sometimes will have to cancel last minute.)

User @CaptK, a private equity partner, shared that while these are realistic expectations - they can be difficult to adhere to:

CaptK - Private Equity Partner:

This is all accurate, but it sounds a lot easier than it actually is in practice. The trouble is that those 10-20 minutes a day are going to be at weird times, and most of the time you'd rather be sleeping.

Plus, if you are able to manage one night a week going out, you're going to want to spend it at least a couple times a month with friends or other analysts from work. There's only so much free time, and you need to spread it around in order to maintain relationships (girlfriend and friendships).

User @ideating shared how one friend maintained a successful relationship:

ideating:

I had a banker buddy who did it really well during his 2-year stint. At least once a week, he'd have his girl come to his office and they'd grab dinner somewhere nearby and quickly catch up on things. He also frequently sent her flowers (once a month) or buy her little things; nothing extravagant, just enough to show he listened to her. Those gestures take less than 2 min. but go a long way. The other thing he did was make sure she got along really well with us (his friends); most nights we went out with him, she would be there but it wasn't annoying because she really fit in well with us (would act like a wingwoman, do shots, etc.)

User @KB24TD21, an investment banking analyst, shared detailed personal experience about both herself and her boyfriend who are both in the industry:

KB24TD21 - Investment Banking Analyst:

My bf is in the industry and it can sometimes be brutal and it can kill a relationship without a foundation but its about understanding and knowing the other person well. You just have to make sure that each of you understands what's going on and what is expected. And that you make the most of the time that is available.

So its keeping contact during the day, its calling when you can, its doing things for the other person. If I could I would grab his dry cleaning while doing mine or he would stop by my office area for a quick lunch.

Everything is made easier in my relationship because my bf is friends with my girlfriends and I'm friends with his guys. So he can knock out 2 stones by having me around with his guys. Or he can be around when I'm with my girls. It's hard but doable

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Comments (640)

Jul 18, 2016

Same situation here, just that we havent seen each other since november, she will be flying from latam to london so we can meet and for her bday and will only have 3 weeks together (she has to go back to her studies, dentistry). Good thing will share a flat in london. At least she is now aware I will have no life, and actually she has been very supportive.

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Jul 18, 2016

Dude, just tell her before hand what it's going to be like and if she gives you shit about it now or during your internship, drop her because it would never work with her when you work FT. If she is a very needy and co-dependent girl it will never work between the two of you. It is hard but with an understanding gf it can definitely work. I'm still with my gf and I'm FT and we live in different cities, but the reason it has worked has been because she has been understanding and doesn't sit around expecting me to text her all day long. Just talk to her and be upfront with her from the beginning.

Jul 18, 2016

id jump ship if shes not understanding.

Jul 18, 2016

so do you know what your sa is going to be like ? are you a magician?

Jul 18, 2016

It's really complicated. Tell her that you'll be working 80+ hour weeks and that you won't know when you're off until about 10 minutes ahead of time. Set her expectations realistically and then when it happens she won't be surprised. If you're serious about this career and she doesn't understand the commitment involved, then she obviously isn't cut out for it and you're saving yourself a lot of heartache/annoyance by figuring that out now.

Jul 18, 2016

aww cute thread. feel like pinching OP's cheeks and saying mazel tov

Jul 18, 2016

I'm in the same boat, although mine has a school commitment outside of her job, so hopefully she'll be close to as busy as me. Honestly, the way I look at it is this: if you and her were working in different cities, you'd be seeing even less of each other than you will be now, so she should really be grateful for any time you get. Plus, your ability to work hard and get this opportunity, should be an attractive quality to her, assuming she actually has some maturity/logic about what will end up being important in a long-term mate, which most college girls have no clue about.

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