Dealing with SO's past?
Not trying to turn this site into a reddit forum, but would appreciate any thoughtful comments on this.
Over the past month I've been hanging out with a girl that I started talking with several months back (I was in a different city at the time). We vibe well and hit it off the bat. She's a senior in college and I'm a couple years older than her.
However I've had a hard time dealing with her hoe-y past, things that happened when she was in middle/high school. I also just found out that she solicited nudes for $ back in Feb (she doesn't know i found out)... She claims that the change happened a few years ago, but when I found out about the nudes exchange that crushed me. What self respecting person does that?
Part of my issue is that I have this picture perfect image of what I "think" I'd like in a partner. She checks many of the boxes, hot, values align (most important imo), and driven. But I initially had a hard time getting over the things she's done. Part of me thinks that people rarely change, and go back to their previous habits when circumstances are different..
In short, I've made her feel bad about it over the past couple weeks, along with making her feel bad about her family (shitty of me, I know. But her mom hasn't been the best towards her, and her dad is a bum. Unhappy marriage).
Edit: Forgot to mention that I've been meditating on it, and I think it's just on me to exhibit forgiveness. I really do think she's great and believe we'd be great partners in the future.