Depressing life freshmen fall

I remember a month ago bitching about not getting into selective finance clubs . But I got into the most selective investment fund/finance club at my school . However , I feel very lonely my inability to get a girl has truly been fucking with me mentality a lot. Many of my friends have mad sex while I do nothing. I realized I'm only good at being a grinder and I just don't know how to get a girl let alone talk to one . I never had any friends that were girls before. I try drinking and talking to girls still no success. Should I just give up on girls and focus on the Wall Street grind. How does one not become a hardo if they cannot get girls because aren't getting girls show you are a personable person .

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Oct 10, 2021 - 3:27pm

Try to be more open/extroverted especially with girls. Just be you and you'll for sure find someone who's worth your time. Ain't no need to rush

Obviously attraction is important, specially to them but I don't think you look like an ogre lol

But if you're under 5'9, it's gonna be hard

Oct 12, 2021 - 6:56pm

I am a girl. Freshman year just started. Take it slow! But if you need advice, girls like men who are confident and go with the flow. You won't vibe with every girl, that's just a fact, but I am sure you'll have some success! Also don't sound desperate and don't pursue a girl too much (ignore them a bit, we like push and pull dynamics).

PS: Use condoms or even better, don't have random sex, get tested and stick to a partner!

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Oct 10, 2021 - 3:46pm


"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Oct 10, 2021 - 3:50pm

If you don't know how to talk to one, just start doing it. Start with classes and stuff, talk about common interests. Better yet, rag on classmates or professors.

It comes down to being fit, well-groomed, and radiating self-confidence. The fact that you're posting about your height and stuff is hilarious lol, just go out and get in shape and have fun. Don't be overly awkward lol.

For reference, I'm 5'8 and I get numbers all the time and I even reject girls now and then.

Oct 10, 2021 - 4:03pm

Okay good. Now you just have to actually go out and talk to girls.

Remember, social skills are like academic skills. If you don't practice it everyday, your skills will get dull and you'll end up becoming boring. No one wants to hang out with someone boring who's socially awkward lol.

Oct 11, 2021 - 1:42pm

You run a 5min mile? Like 5:00? Where?

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

  • Intern in PE - LBOs
Oct 10, 2021 - 4:44pm

I think I know who you are. We talked on Reddit a bit. I'm the guy who goes to Stanford. Either way, bro, just relax. Freshman fall sucks for a lot of people. Your first goal in college from a social perspective should be to make good male friends. Doesn't have to be guys but make friends with similar interests/aspirations, not just girls you find attractive. Girls come and go but guys (actual friends and not romantic interests) will be with you throughout college and beyond. After you do this, you can meet girls through your friend group pretty easily. I promise, from a social perspective, you will feel HELLA good if you have actual good friends who you can count on and who can support you. More important than getting girls, which you will also be able to do easier through a friend group. Also, the height thing is a fucking myth imo. I'm like exactly 5'7.5 as well and I have no problems and the guy I know who gets the most pussy is like 5'5 or 5'6 and ripped as hell. It's all about confidence and how you conduct yourself. Also stop thinking that being black hurts you lmao. Chicks are ALWAYS into black guys. You just need to gain confidence and not think that you're inferior.

  • Intern in IB-M&A
Oct 10, 2021 - 6:32pm

Chicks are ALWAYS into black guys

Lmao depends on the social class they belong to, I don't know any girl who is. Even the most hardcore liberal ones only date whiteys. That's absolute cope and you're sentencing OP to a life of pain and suffering if you lead him to believe that.

Oct 11, 2021 - 4:11pm

From my personal observations typically really athletic white girls will date really athletic black guys as that's something time intensive to bond over (workouts/food/etc.)


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  • Intern in PE - LBOs
Oct 11, 2021 - 5:08pm

Hey I didn't see your reply. Bro, can you just find my Reddit again. It's easier that way.

if you sent me a pm on here I can't see it.

Oct 10, 2021 - 5:05pm

Girls, girls, girls! Your choice of words (as in the constant use of "girls") are kinda revealing that your too desperate. This mentality will hurt ur attractiveness when you are around them. Keeping this mentality will get you girls sometime, but adjusting this mentality will increase your success rate significantly. When you meet "girls", think and treat them as normal people, instead of being "result" oriented, focus more on the get to know them "experience" part. On a lighter note, a sub-5min mile is pretty impressive and just like how you thought you won't make it into selective finance clubs, this is only freshman fall, have some patience and everything will turn out just fine.

Oct 11, 2021 - 4:08pm

You've found the right forum.Β 

Don't worry about dating... that's an experience that will almost certainly be NPV negative.


Oct 11, 2021 - 5:42pm

Even if it is NPV negative, wouldn't it help to get some experience and develop maturity before it truly matters (aka adulthood after college)?Β 


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Oct 12, 2021 - 11:45pm

Sure but my point is he's not really missing out if he's unable to do so.Β 


Oct 11, 2021 - 4:14pm

Goddamn there have been a lot of posts on here recently relating to dating/girls/love life…

To answer your question: there's a lot more to life than being a "Wall Street hardo" or having "mad sex". Focus on yourself, your interests, and living jn the moment - I know it might sound cliche, but seriously, you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't get bogged down in FOMO over your friends and their sex lives.

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