Director wants to meet me for drinks but I am not fully vaccinated yet

I just came back to NYC. The director knows I just got my first Covid shot last week, but she sent me an invite for drinks with her and a few others. I think it will look bad if I decline but I am concerned about the virus. What should I do?

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Jun 14, 2021 - 4:18pm

Are you really that scared of this virus? I'm sorry, but I just can't understand this. You already had one shot which should give you peace of mind. 

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Jun 19, 2021 - 6:10pm

while i agree with young people its generally fine, ive had multiple family members/family friends who were in their late 30s, early 40s literally die from covid. everyone is free to practice whatever safety protocol they wish these days and if that means not giving a fuck, cool I dont care your life bro.

But to judge someone for taking the safer step of avoiding a virus that has, media panic or not, caused widespread death is one of the most low IQ things ive ever seen. plus the statistics of the delta variant are much less favorable and guess what just landed in the states pal! do your own thing but stop judging others for being safe dumbass

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  • VP in IB - Gen
Jun 14, 2021 - 4:23pm

Tell them you're afraid of the microchips and the 5G

  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 14, 2021 - 5:19pm

I personally think it's not a great look, especially for a first impression. I understand being anxious about your health, but if you're not at high-risk, then is it really worth getting off to anything but a great start with your boss?

Jun 14, 2021 - 5:22pm

Hey make sure to use air travel, don't walk in the streets where all the normal people are. Too much of a risk.

By this, I mean try to stay inside 24/7 unless you can levitate. Additionally, consider teleportation for getting around the city so you don't get into an accident.

Finally make sure to burn your food until it is charcoal in order to get rid of all potential infections.

Jun 17, 2021 - 3:23pm

OP is probably the type that would drive home during his lunch hour to push one out because he refuses to poop in public

Hear me now, children, for my occupation is of much import. For 82 years I have been an oil man, a ‘baron’ some have called me. Now what does an oil baron do? The answer - crush your enemies! Grind their bones into dirt! Make them regret that they were ever born! Oil is not for the weak - it is the Earth’s milk, and only the strong may suckle at Mother’s teat!

Jun 14, 2021 - 6:03pm

Because I wasn't sure about trusting the vaccine initially. And then my family members, who were just as skeptical initially, decided to get the vaccine and my younger brothers did too. Then, I eventually caved. 

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  • CEO in IB - Ind
Jun 15, 2021 - 6:09am

I understand you have a pharmaceutical and virology expertise that made you 'not being sure about trusting the vaccine'? 

Or are you also skeptical when crossing a bridge, thinking "I am not sure if I can trust engineers who built this bridge"?

Because if not, then you're a fucking tool, have no respect to science and I'm sorry but I can't stand people like this. 

Jun 16, 2021 - 1:39am

so what was your plan? to never meet anybody? or to go out and not care about the virus? if 2nd, then go and meet with colleagues, cause you don't care about the virus enough to sacrifice opportunities like that. if 1st, then you're just dumb, and you should skip meeting your colleagues to spare them from your company.

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  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
Jun 14, 2021 - 6:07pm

Whenever I get imposter syndrome, I think I'm gonna come back to this post to remind myself that there are people like OP in industry 

Jun 14, 2021 - 6:21pm

Of course you should do it! No offense but I can't believe people like you exist lol. Actually think through the risk-reward profile of this one... what are the odds you get serious COVID-19 from this one (very important) interaction with one jab? Probably like 0.000001%. Cases have declined dramatically, one vaccine offers pretty effective protection, don't be a pussy and do it 

Jun 14, 2021 - 6:23pm

How do you balance "I wasn't sure about trusting the vaccine initially" with being too scared to go out for drinks once while jabbed in your head? 

Jun 16, 2021 - 1:42am

100%. the kid is confused. it's surprising how people like that get such selective jobs. I really wish it was more about your skills and abilities and less about networking and connections.

Jun 14, 2021 - 9:46pm

Lloyd BIankfein

sure but this is basically the same as not flying somewhere because you're scared of flying. Seriously bad look for OP 

I disagree.

If some people aren't comfortable, then they aren't comfortable. A director is probably 35 years old, I doubt they will hold it against anyone (if you're at a firm where the people aren't hardos).

  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jun 15, 2021 - 1:38am

dude being scared of catching COVID-19 is not the same thing as being scared of flying lol. not trying to get political but the pandemic has shut down the world for over a year for a reason...  

  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Jun 15, 2021 - 10:07pm

Since the media brainwashed the public by giving them doom porn 24/7. Same reason people think there is a gun violence "epidemic." When you look at gun deaths (murders only not suicides), it's like 15000 a year, which is very comparable to drunk driving deaths of around 9000-11000. No one ever asks for car control though. It's all whatever serves the mainstream narrative.

Jun 16, 2021 - 12:00am

Also, if guns are made illegal criminals will still find a way to get a hold the guns. Such a law only punishes law abiding citizens and gives criminals an upper hand. I would expect gun related violence deaths to actually rise if gun control was implemented.

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  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jun 15, 2021 - 1:36am

Ignore the other comments telling you to stop being a pussy. I understand if you're uncomfortable, but imo it sounds like a low-risk environment. Assuming the director and other coworkers are already vaccinated, you're already at a lower-risk of getting it from them. On top of that you have a layer of protection from your first dose. You could also wear a mask when you're at the bar walking around or something. If you're paranoid about it, just get tested a few days after the hangout.

I don't think it'll be the end of your career or anything if you express concern about COVID tho. So if you're really not feeling it, just say that you'd prefer to wait until your second vaccine and aren't comfortable right now. They should be understanding.  

Jun 15, 2021 - 8:01pm

I don't utilize CNN. I utilize common sense, which many people here don't have. Hence why there are so many idiots in finance doing more harm than good

Jun 17, 2021 - 12:50pm

Unless you have a commorbidity or you're old there is litteraly no significant risk for you. Vaccines (even first doses) protect you from death and serious consequences in like 95% of cases.

Nothing wrong with not wanting to go but it's just not rational based on the numbers.

  • Prospect in Research - Other
Jun 15, 2021 - 11:44am

bad news OP. Because you (foolishly) decided to take the vaccine,  you now have tiny droplets bill gates' sperm coursing through your veins. The vaccine was engineered by deep state "virologists" and "medical experts" to replace your sperm with good ol billy boy's, so upon inseminating your future wife or girlfriend, you will have unwittingly created a biologically illegitimate child. In a few years, there will be millions of half autistic young boys running around, each one looking strangely identical to the others but without the understanding of who their true creator is. This is all part of the bill gates' plan, coordinated in conjunction with the deep state and AOC, to create an entirely autistic male population in the US. Congratulations OP, you are now fucked.

Jun 15, 2021 - 12:04pm

Man this forum is salty sometimes. I'm literally in the exact same position. Just spoke to the guy that I'm catching up with and was like FYI - I've only had one shot so far, is that ok with you? Happy to catch up outdoors if preferable or we can just postpone for a few weeks. In all likelihood, the MD probably won't give a shit. Mine basically said he was happy to catch up a week after the first. 

Jun 17, 2021 - 4:52pm

Excuse me, sir? There's no seatbelt back here - what do you recommend?

Hear me now, children, for my occupation is of much import. For 82 years I have been an oil man, a ‘baron’ some have called me. Now what does an oil baron do? The answer - crush your enemies! Grind their bones into dirt! Make them regret that they were ever born! Oil is not for the weak - it is the Earth’s milk, and only the strong may suckle at Mother’s teat!

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Jun 15, 2021 - 7:37pm

What a complete pussy. Get a different job you won't make it. Can't stand young people acting as if they're scared of a virus that has a lower % chance of killing you than getting the bus to work. Also please don't say you're scared about hurting others bruh you're going iB you complete disgrace. Mugglewamp prick 

Jun 17, 2021 - 4:57pm

Yep, and you could drop dead from an aneurysm any second. If going out for drinks in 2021 after having been vaccinated makes you uncomfortable how on earth are you going to be able to handle what's going to be asked of you as an analyst?

"No sorry Senior MD, I don't think I can price update the book because I'm really tired and feel unwell. The client CEO will have to wait another day to announce the txn, but he/she will understand I'm sure"

Hear me now, children, for my occupation is of much import. For 82 years I have been an oil man, a ‘baron’ some have called me. Now what does an oil baron do? The answer - crush your enemies! Grind their bones into dirt! Make them regret that they were ever born! Oil is not for the weak - it is the Earth’s milk, and only the strong may suckle at Mother’s teat!

  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Jun 15, 2021 - 9:48pm

Bruh it's fucking COVID not smallpox or a human plague. If you're in your early 20s, you have a higher chance of dying from a car crash on the way to meet the MD. Stop being a scared bitch and put down the fear mongering doom porn news. Plus, you have one dose of the vaccine, that still has a pretty high efficacy. Go meet the MD

Jun 16, 2021 - 12:19am

. If you're really concerned ig you could go with a mask on and not drink. May not give you the best look, but tbh that's almost certainly not going to cost you a return offer. Blowing off the meeting entirely though is another matter and could cost you. At the end of the day you have to do a cost/benefit analysis of each option and see what works.

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  • Principal in PE - LBOs
Jun 17, 2021 - 11:35am

People here are being unnecessarily mean but I agree with the sentiment. We take thousands of risks every day and at this point, the risk of catching/transmitting COVID as a young person who is partially vaccinated among other young people who are fully vaccinated is very low (and the odds of serious complications are an order of magnitude lower). You have to draw the line somewhere, because everything you do has some inherent risk, whether it's crossing the street, getting on a flight, or even eating from a buffet. 

Jun 17, 2021 - 12:49pm

I'm super confused why the OP is getting shit here. We have no clue about OP's health history. What if they are a high-risk patient or had someone close to them die? I dont think citing one-off examples or statistics is useful here, especially when people are emotional about these situations. 
Here's my concern and I think this is most important. What if there are other seniors in the group that are COVID-consious and would be pissed if they found out that someone who hasn't been fully vaccinated is attending? I think the risk you're taking is too high for minimal benefits. If you're a strong performer, your Director won't care if you missed 1 event as long as you get shit done. If you're not comfortable going i would say something along the lines of, "Hey X, thanks for the invite. I was really looking forward to meeting you and the rest of the team in person but to be honest I've completed 1 dose of the vaccine and since I'm not sure about the COVID-consiousness of the group I would uncomfrotable putting anyone at risk. I hope to have my final dose completed in the next week or so and look forward to attending future events."  
Imo, drinks with seniors are helpful but play a minimal role in your annual feedback or promotions (especially as a junior). There are going to be plenty such events (even more so after COVID) and missing 1 for a legitimate reason is totally acceptable. I think exercising bad judgement and someone finding out that aren't vaccinated reflects even more poorly then being perceived as a "pussy" 

Jun 17, 2021 - 5:57pm
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