No, pussies finish last. For some reason "nice guy" is now equated with being a pussy. You can be a nice guy and still stand up for yourself, your thoughts, and your beliefs. Pussies don't do that and a lot of pussies are seen as nice guys, so somewhere along the line the two have become synonymous.

I consider myself to be a nice guy, and most of the time I really am. But when people do/say stupid shit I have no problem getting into it. One of my friends started calling me a "nice asshole" and that kinda caught on with my friends. Fuck that, I'm a nice guy that's not a pussy.

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No, pussies finish last. For some reason "nice guy" is now equated with being a pussy. You can be a nice guy and still stand up for yourself, your thoughts, and your beliefs. Pussies don't do that and a lot of pussies are seen as nice guys, so somewhere along the line the two have become synonymous.

I consider myself to be a nice guy, and most of the time I really am. But when people do/say stupid shit I have no problem getting into it. One of my friends started calling me a "nice asshole" and that kinda caught on with my friends. Fuck that, I'm a nice guy that's not a pussy.

There may be some truth to this.

I think a lot of people try to come off tougher than they really are.

I think a lot of people genuinely think they are tougher than they really are.

I think it's best to not worry about talking a good game and to instead do your best to play a good game.

I'd like to think I am a nice guy. I try not to think about or worry about whether I am tough or whether I am a pussy. If I get mugged, and the guy has a gun, I am going to hand over my wallet rather than try to pull some MMA stuff.

I don't care whether I finish first or last so long as I finish with a 60 acre farm on Lake Michigan. I think we need to set reasonable goals relative to ourselves than worry about trying to beat everyone else. If we try to beat everyone else, having that in mind as a goal is often counterproductive to that same goal.

 

Well sheeit, the guy who tries to pull some MMA stuff on a guy with a gun is just an idiot

"You stop being an asshole when it sucks to be you." -IlliniProgrammer "Your grammar made me wish I'd been aborted." -happypantsmcgee
 
D M:

No, pussies finish last. For some reason "nice guy" is now equated with being a pussy. You can be a nice guy and still stand up for yourself, your thoughts, and your beliefs. Pussies don't do that and a lot of pussies are seen as nice guys, so somewhere along the line the two have become synonymous.

I consider myself to be a nice guy, and most of the time I really am. But when people do/say stupid shit I have no problem getting into it. One of my friends started calling me a "nice asshole" and that kinda caught on with my friends. Fuck that, I'm a nice guy that's not a pussy.

+1

 

That's a good one!

"It's very easy to have too many goals and be overwhelmed by them... The trick is to find the one thing you can focus on that represents every other single thing you want in life." -- @"Edmundo Braverman"
 

DM basically got this: you can be assertive without being a prick. The pussy gets kicked around, the prick eventually gets taken down by everyone, but most confident+courteous folks tend to do well.

As far as licentiousness, there's a time and a place. If you're in your 20's, single, and employed....have at it. Otherwise, sort your priorities out. We're biologically programmed a certain way, but that doesn't always make it right or beneficial to you.

Get busy living
 

i can't think a more appropriate time that this answer applies: it depends on the situation. You don't need to be nice guy all the time, definitely don't be a dick all the time, don't be @flake at any time, and you'll be good

what @"D M" said sounds about right

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I think "don't be @Flake all the time" neatly sums up this thread

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Just be yourself and don't be a pushover. You don't have to kick ass 24/7 and be a dick head all the time. Honestly, dick heads tend to be the biggest pussies. They just run unchecked so much because most people avoid confrontation.

It is really something you grow into though. At 22 you can put on a nice face, but most people don't have a clue. By the time you reach late 20's you will have experience, money and know your limitation and goals. People usually respect that stuff.

Here is a pro tip. Women like guys who talk to them. And I don't mean cat calling. Go say something, anything. And don't roll out with 5 dudes and be on your phone all night. Wolves hunt in a pack, but they also eat one animal they all kill. Unless your bro-pack is planning an orgy go out with one other hunter and no more.

 

@"TNA" do you mean talking with no end goal in mind?

"It's very easy to have too many goals and be overwhelmed by them... The trick is to find the one thing you can focus on that represents every other single thing you want in life." -- @"Edmundo Braverman"
 
<span class=keyword_link><a href=/company/trilantic-north-america>TNA</a></span>:

I frankly talk to most everyone, but I wouldn't be focusing on a goal before you even know if you have a shot.

How may I find that out?

"It's very easy to have too many goals and be overwhelmed by them... The trick is to find the one thing you can focus on that represents every other single thing you want in life." -- @"Edmundo Braverman"
 

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