Do wealthy men actually attract gorgeous women?

There's a narrative out there that wealthy men (non-celebrity) get hot women. Is this based in reality or is it a Hollywood story? I work with some very wealthy people and their wives or significant others aren't really that attractive. I find they're usually with someone who matches them in terms of good education, family background and/or career level. Or maybe they do meet gorgeous women but don't end up settling down with them. I don't get paid enough to really know.

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Dec 5, 2018

That depends, did they major in accounting?

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Dec 5, 2018

had the same question, very important

Dec 7, 2018

Best comment I've ever read.

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Dec 5, 2018

I used to hang out with a select group of girls that only dated super rich guys in NYC. By select, I mean that they were in my normal group of people I hang out with, but were a small percentage of them. This one girl had a good job at GS, was from Russia, was hot, but really only linked up with ballers. Like $10-20M net worth+ it seemed. These guys would have crazy ass boats in Manhattan and go on trips across the world - for the weekend. She was attracted to this lifestyle and they were definitely not good looking guys. I mean the quality of their clothes made them look better, but a lot of these dudes were bald and kind of chubby.

She was actually the kind of girl I was attracted to and we made out and stuff, but she wasn't into me as I didn't have a fucking yacht and jet. Its so ridiculous. I mean, she was making good money already, but not fuck you money. And then we would sit there and talk in our little clique of friends and be like - you're totally just into that guy because he's loaded or CEO of xyz, etc. And, she'd be like, no I like his 'eyes' or 'personality'.

Horseshit.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Dec 5, 2018

"Being single and having money - was like standing 6 feet 4 with a full head of hair."
- Jack Welch, Winning

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Dec 6, 2018
Isaiah_53_5:

was from Russia

obvious
explains everything

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Dec 7, 2018

lolol

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Dec 6, 2018
Isaiah_53_5:

I used to hang out with a select group of girls that only dated super rich guys in NYC. By select, I mean that they were in my normal group of people I hang out with, but were a small percentage of them. This one girl had a good job at GS, was from Russia, was hot, but really only linked up with ballers. Like $10-20M net worth+ it seemed. These guys would have crazy ass boats in Manhattan and go on trips across the world - for the weekend. She was attracted to this lifestyle and they were definitely not good looking guys. I mean the quality of their clothes made them look better, but a lot of these dudes were bald and kind of chubby.

She was actually the kind of girl I was attracted to and we made out and stuff, but she wasn't into me as I didn't have a fucking yacht and jet. Its so ridiculous. I mean, she was making good money already, but not fuck you money. And then we would sit there and talk in our little clique of friends and be like - you're totally just into that guy because he's loaded or CEO of xyz, etc. And, she'd be like, no I like his 'eyes' or 'personality'.

Horseshit.

You have to understand, people like that want to be shitty people. I used to think, "no, there's good in them". Wasted so many years with that perspective, and I have less friends today, but am better off because of it.

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Dec 7, 2018
iBankedUp:

You have to understand, people like that want to be shitty people.

Yeah, it is very hard for me to understand.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Dec 7, 2018
Isaiah_53_5:
iBankedUp:

You have to understand, people like that want to be shitty people.

Yeah, it is very hard for me to understand.

Maybe after your first divorce ?

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Dec 7, 2018

Money is the great equaliser. That's hypergamy in action.

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Dec 5, 2018

How would anyone on here know ?

Dec 5, 2018

I don't think you can really hate on women though. The ability to obtain large amounts of capital in our society is the equivalent of catching tons of food to eat in hunter gatherer days. Women are naturally drawn to those who can provide and some women are immensely drawn to wealth as the person being 'king of the jungle' in some aspect. In WSO terms, the BSD. Women will always go for the king, the head if they feel they are the queen. In some way, the allure of the wealth to a girl may enchant every encounter with this person so that they genuinely feel that they like his 'personality' or 'eyes'.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Dec 5, 2018

Some women are definitely attracted to the money itself; wise men avoid them. But I think the phenomenon has more to do with women naturally being attracted to qualities that are commonly correlated with wealth: ambition, aggressive/assertiveness, respect of peers, competence, power, etc.

Dec 13, 2018

Accurate - nothing like a good dose of ambition and confidence ;)
Personally, the wealth doesn't matter as much and personality >>>>> looks (given a hard lower bound around looks).

Dec 6, 2018

better question is why would a normal, mentally healthy guy even subject himself to being in a situation where she's only in it for her money? there's always an underlying issue...

there's a pro MLB pitcher who told his now wife that he was a plumber when they first met. presumably to avoid a gold digger.

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Dec 6, 2018

I think all people are attracted to confidence and most wealthy people are confident.

Dec 6, 2018

i disagree...
many wealthy folks have either fragile egos or have a false sense of confidence because of their wealth. in other words, take money and flashy items away and their confidence will crumble. whereas the dude making $50k a year doing what he has a high conviction in (military, entrepreneur, whatever) has confidence because theyre pursuing their purpose in life.

Dec 6, 2018
Returnofthemack:

i disagree...
many wealthy folks have either fragile egos or have a false sense of confidence because of their wealth. in other words, take money and flashy items away and their confidence will crumble. whereas the dude making $50k a year doing what he has a high conviction in (military, entrepreneur, whatever) has confidence because theyre pursuing their purpose in life.

I agree, are you kidding me. Take away a wealthy person's weed or his alcohol (especially ones mostly born into that life), or just simply challenge him in any way, that fucker will flip out like a poor person with nothing.

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Dec 8, 2018

I disagree.

It's certainly not easy to make a lot of money so in that sense, being in top x% will surely give you confidence. If you were killing it, why would you care about the opinion of a girl?

It's not so much about the money/flashy item but the freedom to say no to anyone. Plus, you can further enhance your appearance with more money.

Dec 6, 2018

From my experience it doesn't mean much until you are a certain age (26+). Up until then most women when you tell them what you do, almost have a blank stare on their face; many don't get it.

I'm going to assume that having money works better for picking up women when you have a way of showing it. In NY there really isn't much of a way to do that. Watch? Other than a Rolex most won't know. Suit? Everyone wears a suit. Fancy tie? It's a tie... Outside of NY maybe you have a nice car and women notice that pretty easily.

It really just comes down to having the confidence where if by some chance a material possession of yours acts as the icebreaker you can get the deal closed.

Dec 6, 2018

Of course it's true. It's like asking whether beautiful women are chased by tons of men. Dating/marrying wealthy has a ton of advantages and is a way of obtaining financial security. Not necessarily condoning gold diggers, but most people in that type of relationship know what they're getting into. It's no worse than pursuing a girl because she's hot; you have no idea what else she's bringing to the table except looking great when you're out in public.

If you are hot and you lead with your looks, you'll get people who want you solely because of that. If you're loaded and you lead with your wallet, you'll attract people who only want your money. This is why you see "flashy" rich people with a different hot woman every other week, while the more quietly wealthy people end up with someone with intelligence and drive but who aren't 10/10 smokeshows.

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Dec 7, 2018

Going off what you said, not condoning gold digging, but most people looking to get married eventually get married. It becomes somewhat of a trade off, would you marry someone you're 90% into who has no money, or someone whose a billionaire that you're 75% into. What about 60%?

On the same end for guys who make a lot of money, you kinda know which women are into you for you, and which ones are into you for the money. You just have to pick your lifestyle, am I going to be the guy who marries a smoke, divorces her in 30 years to upgrade to the newer model? Or find someone you're better suited with.

Also, remember, a lot of it is based on the circumstance and who the person is. Take Buffet, he could date a different women every night if wants, but he's more homely and kinda just needs someone to take care of him. Versus, say a guy like Wilbur Ross, I'm sure he and his wife get along well, but I'm sure he's also looking for the arm candy while she's just looking for a sugar daddy.

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Dec 7, 2018
ironman32:

. Take Buffet, he could date a different women every night if wants, but he's more homely and kinda just needs someone to take care of him.

Not sure what you mean by homely, it does not make sense in your sentence.

Dec 13, 2018

Homely (per the definition Google)- unattractive in appearance; plain.

In this I mean, Buffet doesn't really worry about how he looks or dresses. He's one of the richest people on planet; he could probably have access to the latest technology for anti-aging. He could also afford to pay for the "best" of everything-food, cars, clothes-but he eats breakfast at McDonalds, drives older cars and buys off the rack.

Dec 7, 2018

Look, dude.

Compare dating to going to the gym.

Sure, you can have all the protein shakes in the world. Sure, you could have the fanciest gym bag. And sure, you could have the most state-of-the-art testosterone boosters. But none of that means anything if you're not actually going to the gym and putting in the effort.

The same thing goes with women. Money is an ENHANCING quality (you accounting nerds will get that) when it comes to getting girls.

In other words, if you're a short, red-headed, obese d**chebag, most women probably won't give you the time of day no matter how much you make. And the ones that will are gold diggers and aren't worth anyone's time anyways. Money only adds value if you're already a decently attractive person with a semi-bearable personality.

Dec 7, 2018

what the fuck do you know about getting women

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Dec 7, 2018

More than you, slugger.

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Dec 13, 2018

he is an accounting major, after all

Dec 7, 2018

The answer is yes.
The better question to ask is whether those type of women are "keepers" - to which I say, they generally are not. It's much like how bigger men in the warrior tribe days won the women over the weak - physical security. Now, it's financial security.

Dec 8, 2018

I guess this isn't super obvious to me as the wealthy people I know are all married. I didn't see who they were with when they were dating around.

Dec 8, 2018

Broadly speaking, studies have generally found that women are less attracted to men who earn less than them. Women, in general, don't like men--they are programmed to like men for the specific benefits that men can bring to relationships. When a man is particularly wealthy, that exacerbates the preference.

One of many:

https://www.canstar.com.au/savings-accounts/women-...
For women aged 18-36 years old in 2017 (Gen Z, Gen Y), 59% said they find someone with a higher income more attractive.

Dec 11, 2018

Lol at people shitting on some chicks because they like dudes for their money. It's so much better to like someone for how attractive they are right? One's far less superficial

Dec 11, 2018
miscer:

Lol at people shitting on some chicks because they like dudes for their money. It's so much better to like someone for how attractive they are right? One's far less superficial

Personality? Friendship? Like mindedness? I think those are the preferred qualities normal people would expect in attraction.

Dec 11, 2018
iBankedUp:
miscer:

Lol at people shitting on some chicks because they like dudes for their money. It's so much better to like someone for how attractive they are right? One's far less superficial

Personality? Friendship? Like mindedness? I think those are the preferred qualities normal people would expect in attraction.

I don't think anyone is disagreeing with this. But it's also hard to argue with the statement that if you're out at a club, most guys are most interested in the hottest woman there. Why is that less superficial than to be the girl interested in the guy with the most money?

Physical attractiveness is important, and I don't see anything wrong with having that be a piece of the equation by which you judge potential partners (not the only thing, or most important thing, but one of them). Likewise, having a decent income and the financial security that provides is a perfectly legit consideration for a woman (or man) in choosing a mate.

Dec 11, 2018
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Dec 11, 2018