Dream vs Relationship and family

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Just as a warning, the following will probably be really unreal to some of you guys.

So basically I planned to move abroad to study but neither my parents or my girlfriend of 3 years wants this. (Told you it will seem ridiculous)

So I'm 19M and my parents, as well as girlfriend, are already talking about marriage. I told them that I won't even consider about marrying before 30, which especially my mom and girlfriend disagree with. My mum wants me to have an engagement once I'm 23. And my Girlfriend wants to have her first child not later than 27. I guess all of you guys would just break up with her BUT my whole family knows of this girl, so they would probably disown me from the family if I break up with her.
And also she's an extremely caring and lovely girl, she spent more than a $1000 dollars on me to help me get educated and get the paperwork done to apply to college etc. (I'm afraid that I will never find such a person again). And to be honest, she isn't the brightest and will probably not even attend college, also she actually told me that she will commit suicide if I break up with her since I took her virginity. (And she definitely is crazy enough to do is)

Well, I guess I'm just wondering if you guys think following your dream is worth to likely get disowned by your family and possibly be the reason why a human lost their life.

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Comments (19)

May 24, 2017
anonymhomo00:

(I'm afraid that I will never find such a person again). And to be honest, she isn't the brightest and will probably not even attend college, also she actually told me that she will commit suicide if I break up with her since I took her virginity. (And she definitely is crazy enough to do is)

WTF bro. Wake the fuck up!

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May 25, 2017

As a female, I'm so embarrassed girls talk like this... it literally makes our whole gender look bad.

1) You will only regret and grow to hate and resent her and your family for not doing what you want to be doing.
2) She will get over it, you will get over it - it takes awhile but use your brain... seriously. How many people do you think are with the person that took their virginities... lmao.
3) She sounds like dead weight / the ultimate clinger... and if you want to get educated and go abroad, and be in finance / a corporate job / why are you on WSO if you're not... you're just going to feel more and more differences between yourself and someone that is totally uneducated.
4) DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH A CRAZY PERSON?

This is so cringeworthy.

BSP

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May 25, 2017
BlueSweetPretzels:

This is so cringeworthy.

Yup. SB'd

May 24, 2017
anonymhomo00:

Just as a warning, the following will probably be really unreal to some of you guys.

So basically I planned to move abroad to study but neither my parents or my girlfriend of 3 years wants this. (Told you it will seem ridiculous)

So I'm 19M and my parents, as well as girlfriend, are already talking about marriage. I told them that I won't even consider about marrying before 30, which especially my mom and girlfriend disagree with. My mum wants me to have an engagement once I'm 23. And my Girlfriend wants to have her first child not later than 27. I guess all of you guys would just break up with her BUT my whole family knows of this girl, so they would probably disown me from the family if I break up with her.
And also she's an extremely caring and lovely girl, she spent more than a $1000 dollars on me to help me get educated and get the paperwork done to apply to college etc. (I'm afraid that I will never find such a person again). And to be honest, she isn't the brightest and will probably not even attend college, **also she actually told me that she will commit suicide if I break up with her since I took her virginity**. (And she definitely is crazy enough to do is)

Well, I guess I'm just wondering if you guys think following your dream is worth to likely get disowned by your family and possibly be the reason why a human lost their life.

only one way to find out if she's a girl of her word and worth marrying!

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May 25, 2017

Dark... I approve. SB'd

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May 24, 2017

Dude cut this chick off and go abroad. This has bad news written all over it. I thought my girlfriend was crazy.

May 24, 2017

"Girl is making me her meal ticket, and says she will commit suicide if I don't go along with it"

This is what you just spat out. God have a f$*king back-bone.

May 25, 2017

Seriously... wants you to be on lockdown by 23 and kids by 27? Goodbye to the rest of your life...

BSP

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May 25, 2017

Follow the dream.

May 25, 2017

Follow the dream and if your girlfriend truly loves you then she will follow you which isnt bad if shes working and making some $$ to live

May 25, 2017

you're infatuated. I felt that way about my now wife when we were 19, but practicality needs to rule here bro. any woman that gives you an ultimatum like that, especially at this age, is fuckin bonkers. speaking from experience, you change a LOT between 22-27, so while it may make sense to get married at 25, it doesn't make sense to get married at 22.

move abroad to study, it's a couple of years versus the rest of your life. if you love this girl, try to stay with her, don't break it off, fly her out to visit you, and if it's meant to be, it will work out. if it's not, it's not.

if she is really that fragile emotionally, you don't want that, until someone's comfortable in their own skin, they can't be a good companion. you must love yourself before you can love anyone else.

also your parents are bananas, and don't worry about getting disowned, blood over everything. my grandparents felt the same way about my uncle's girlfriend before his wife, they loved her, wished they would've gotten married, even told him that she was great, but ultimately supported his decision to break up with her, because again...blood over everything.

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May 25, 2017

I've read a lot of crazy shit on this site, but this by far tops anything else I've seen. If she isn't like Jessica Alba hot, you're making the mistake of a lifetime. Only a true 9 or higher can pull off that kind of crazy, but if she is seriously a 9 (Be real with yourself on this one, the only way you'll know this is if she's an actual model/other guys drool at her when you go out places) then sounds like a solid trophy wife if you're into that kind of thing. Otherwise I'd probably leave her, you'll regret it in the long run.

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May 25, 2017

Indians are so weird.
Call her bluff though.

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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May 25, 2017

damn, I posted before I read your comment. I like where your head is at.

May 25, 2017
anonymhomo00:

also she actually told me that she will commit suicide if I break up with her since I took her virginity. (And she definitely is crazy enough to do is).

I'm no lawyer but it looks like you have your "out" right here.

May 26, 2017

WTH

May 25, 2017

This is like a bad love line call....

You & your girlfriend need help, separately, from a trained professional. Fix these issues now or it will carry on for the rest of your life.

May 25, 2017
anonymhomo00:

she actually told me that she will commit suicide if I break up with her since I took her virginity.

Run. Fucking quickly.

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May 25, 2017
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