Flirty networker - what to do

So this attractive girl who has been networking with me desperately wants me to pass on her resume. She has been very flirty so far and we're meeting for drinks next week to discuss her plans. I'm pretty sure she is willing to do much more.

So is it wrong to carry on relations with someone who is networking with you? It's not like I'm going to recommend an unqualified candidate just because she offered some action. I'm not asking her to exchange favors for help with getting a job. If she wants to throw that in, sure I wounldn't mind. But frankly she is pretty qualified and I would recommend her regardless.

So what do you all think

 

The only downside would be if she were to not get the job and then sue you claiming you "promised" a position in exchange for favors. If you're okay with this risk -- I don't see the problem with proceeding assuming she is qualified and you were going to pass on the resume anyways. Try to keep some sort of documentation of your exchanges -- maybe even drop in an email with "I can't promise anything but I'll certainly pass along your resume to the appropriate people."

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Tell her the level to which you will support her application will be correlated to the fervor with which she shows her dedication to making you happy...that should make the picture pretty clear for her.

If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses - Henry Ford
 

I once slept with a girl who i met because she was trying to network and i didnt feel bad about it at all....just be honest about it and make sure she knows this has nothing to do with finance or her job search. Bottom line is that if she is mature/smart enough to understand the concept of networking then she is certainly competent to make her own decision about whether she wants to have sex with you you so I wouldnt feel bad about it. There is nothing immoral about hooking up with girls you meet professionally unless your firm has specific rules about it.

On the other side of it, I have also been rejected by a junior girl who was being really flirty because she thought it would help her career. After she stuffed me it ended up being something that was no big deal and that we joked about...so just dont be a bitter ahole if she dosent really want to hook up with you. I kind of expect girls to use their sexuality to their advantage and so if a girl gives me a "false signal" and i try to act on it and get rejected I do not get pissed.

 
Best Response
Bondarb:
...also if you sleep with her and she has a good time the resume thing will be meaningless. Good sex is way more important to a girl then a job 99.9% of the time. Afterward, you can tell her you never even looked at her resume and she wont care as long as the sex was good.

...or when she asks for a towel, tissue, etc. just hand her the resume

If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses - Henry Ford
 
happypantsmcgee:
Bondarb:
...also if you sleep with her and she has a good time the resume thing will be meaningless. Good sex is way more important to a girl then a job 99.9% of the time. Afterward, you can tell her you never even looked at her resume and she wont care as long as the sex was good.

...or when she asks for a towel, tissue, etc. just hand her the resume

haha that's a good move. Actually when this happened to me the last work-related conversation i had with the girl was in the last email before we met. When i showed up and saw that she was hot I just proceeded to talk to her like she was a regular girl and this meeting had nothing to do with work. We ended up hooking up that night and many times after that and I dont think i ever even saw her resume. Like two months later she told me she got a job and i congratulated her.

 
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I got my first internship at a BB by banging a 40 yr old VP milf. Now I got my sights set on a 35 yr old PE partner chick to land a new Job. Nothing wrong with what you are doing unless there is a double standard in this world and since there isn't. TAP THAT!!

"The higher up the mountain, the more treacherous the path" -Frank Underwood
 

Strictly from the perspective of economics, the person who gets his/her offer via this "networking" method would tend to end up in a position/profession that is not the best fit for him/her and in the long run would be miserable in his/her chosen career.

 
HedgeKing:
Strictly from the perspective of economics, the person who gets his/her offer via this "networking" method would tend to end up in a position/profession that is not the best fit for him/her and in the long run would be miserable in his/her chosen career.

Or like weezy once said "tony said this world is ours and the bible said every girl is sour; don't play in her garden and don't smell her flower"

"The higher up the mountain, the more treacherous the path" -Frank Underwood
 
maui:
bondarb sounds like a complete asshole.

haha...whatever. The girl in question was mature enough to make her own decisions and we are still friends so she doesn't think I am an asshole. I will repeat what i said above that for the vast majority of women a fun relationship is way more valuable and worthwhile then an informational interview with a boring hedge fund employee.

 
Bondarb:
maui:
bondarb sounds like a complete asshole.

haha...whatever. The girl in question was mature enough to make her own decisions and we are still friends so she doesn't think I am an asshole. I will repeat what i said above that for the vast majority of women a fun relationship is way more valuable and worthwhile then an informational interview with a boring hedge fund employee.

mhhh thats weird, I suppose depends how likely that informational interview is to transform into a position and how hot the chick is.

Id choose guaranteed hf job over casual relationship with v. attractive chick any day. but thats probably cause money--> women but not the other way round

 

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