Forget about yourself; depend on others for happiness

Alright, that may be a bit extreme. However, many people (especially on this board) believe that their happiness comes from what they achieve, that’s why there are so many people on here worrying about internships and CFA exams and getting into a top 10 MBA.

However, something we often overlook in our search for happiness is our coworkers. Many of those who work long hours such as bankers or public accountants often cite their colleagues as the main reason why the work was bearable. On the flip side, disliking one’s coworkers is often what leads to essay-long quitting emails or online rants.

An article was recently published which suggested that it may be worthwhile to take a step back from always focusing on ourselves, and rather spend some time focusing on those around us and appreciating their positive qualities, with the hope that this would lead to overall workplace happiness, which would then turn into workplace success.


“Most self-improvement strategies focus too much on the person who’s trying to do the improving… Assume the worst in other people, and they’ll prove it every time (“confirmation bias,” anyone?), closing off one opportunity after the next to shore up those crucial relationships that your own happiness and success depend on.”

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I believe this is something worth considering – if I look back at my past, many tough experiences were made better by the people who were around. Being able to change my way of thinking and appreciate the people around me could likely make any situation better, especially in a demanding workplace.

What do you monkeys think? Have you actually stopped to think about your frustrating colleagues and tried to see them in a more positive light? Or are you always only thinking about yourself?

 

I didn't bother reading the article but I did read your post and this is my reply:

At the end of the day it's a dick measuring contest and nobody wants to be the loser. So, it's obvious why I focus on myself.

 

This is absolutely terrible advice. Every book on bettering yourself, influence, and happiness will advise that you should focus your efforts on improving yourself; you have no control over other people. This is similar to why people preach forgiveness - focusing your anger on someone else will only harm you and have no effect on the other person. Learning to let go will free you from that burden.

 
iBankedUp:

lmao people who say coworkers are the reason they love their job, are bullshitting you as a recruiting technique.

GoldenCinderblock: "I keep spending all my money on exotic fish so my armor sucks. Is it possible to romance multiple females? I got with the blue chick so far but I am also interested in the electronic chick and the face mask chick."
 

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