Getting Action with the Ladies in NYC

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WFO pretty slow right now..thought I'd throw this up:

1 - Where do the guys here on WSO meet girls for casual relationships here in NYC?

I've hooked up with girls that I went up to on the street, nightclubs/bars, coffee shops. Where else do you fellas get some luck?

2 - How do you guys play your cards per the different locations/settings?

Looking to share some notes here for some fun speculation.

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Jul 29, 2020

Tinder

Jul 29, 2020

Tinder, Bumble, CoffeeMeetsBagel, Hinge, OKCupid

with all the various apps (assuming you present yourself in the most attractive pictures possible for YOU, plus a flirty few words for your "profile"), you can create a steady pipeline of girls to date and never have a night home alone when you want to socialize.

lots of my female friends have been going on dates from Tinder and Bumble during covid and hooking up...girls need the social interaction...they really need

Jul 29, 2020

Who did the monkey downvote on this, what a loser - do it again

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Jul 29, 2020

Going up to girls during COVID is complicated...have a friend who managed to pull it off twice. Would be six feet away, say "Hey don't worry I got tested" (flirty smile) then say "Before I ask you on a socially-distant date, have you been tested?"

Chutpza or however u spell it, this dudes got a lot of it

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Jul 29, 2020

How can a girl see you smile if you're wearing a mask?

Financial Data Science

Jul 29, 2020

he takes it off while being 6 ft away to do his move

Jul 29, 2020

you say "i know you can't tell cuz of the mask...but i have a huge smile right now"

Jul 29, 2020

Do girls think he's hot?

I feel like this could go wrong in NYC pretty quickly b/c a lot of people are pretty on-edge about wearing masks. Seems like a decent idea especially if you're 6 feet away anyhow.

Jul 29, 2020

Here's an idea. Stay 6 feet away, remove your mask and smile. Then, proceed to lie down on the ground touching her feet with yours.

This way not only you showed how handsome you are, but you also demonstrated to her that you are indeed 6ft and above.

Financial Data Science

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Jul 30, 2020

can confirm, works every time

i tried this on the nyc sidewalk though, and someone stepped on me

Array

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Jul 30, 2020

Hinge is the best by far. That's where us finance guys... get most of our work done.

Jul 30, 2020

Hinge worked well for me during my single days. Met some real great girls through that app. Some not so great - but that's what you get when you put yourself out there.

Matched with a few chicks on bumble. Most of the matches expired without communicating first, and those that communicated I realized I went through their profile too quickly when swiping right.

Tinder was absolute garbage in terms of profiles. It looked like a directory for People of Walmart.

Jul 30, 2020

How old are you? As a young guy Tinder is still king. Pretty much all hot girls use that.

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Jul 31, 2020
  1. Back when I was in college, Tinder was the go to, but that's all we had. The dating app thing was just coming on. Maybe it's an age thing, but the quality girls I've found were on Hinge.
Jul 31, 2020

Not single right now, but when I was mostly Hinge and occasional bar pickups. I've found that the quality on Tinder is low, as have most of my friends. I'm 33 and no one I know uses it regularly.

One thing that doesn't get discussed a lot is how the apps changed social life as a 20-something guy in NYC. When I graduated, they really didn't exist (a handful of people were on OkCupid but online dating wasn't really a thing) and the way you got 90% of your dates/hookups was in person at a bar. The goal of most every Friday/Sat night was to get numbers/take a girl home -if the women at the bar didn't look promising, we would quickly move to another bar. A "good night" was based on numbers obtained/taking someone home. Apps changed that entirely - you can never talk to a woman at a bar and still have basically as many dates as you want. Now "picking up women" is a secondary objective of going out - I would only do it very selectively and if I was in the mood. The primary focus is on having a good time with my friends. As a corollary to that, I have to imagine the younger guys' (<28) in-person pickup skills are not as strong - they were never really forced to develop them if they chose not to.

Jul 31, 2020
Masterz57:

One thing that doesn't get discussed a lot is how the apps changed social life as a 20-something guy in NYC. When I graduated, they really didn't exist (a handful of people were on OkCupid but online dating wasn't really a thing) and the way you got 90% of your dates/hookups was in person at a bar. The goal of most every Friday/Sat night was to get numbers/take a girl home -if the women at the bar didn't look promising, we would quickly move to another bar. A "good night" was based on numbers obtained/taking someone home. Apps changed that entirely - you can never talk to a woman at a bar and still have basically as many dates as you want. Now "picking up women" is a secondary objective of going out - I would only do it very selectively and if I was in the mood. The primary focus is on having a good time with my friends. As a corollary to that, I have to imagine the younger guys' (<28) in-person pickup skills are not as strong - they were never really forced to develop them if they chose not to.

As someone in early to mid 20s, I absolutely hate the fact that dating apps dominated the whole scene.

My horny adolescent high school student self was dreaming about adult life where I could go to a bar to chat up girls every weekend. Now that I'm living that life, it's disappointing to see everyone, even at bars, just staring at their phones swiping away. What's wrong with them? They are literally surrounded by bunch of young and horny people.

It's been useful during COVID though.

Financial Data Science

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Jul 31, 2020

agreed - it's fun and a better experience to do it live. I feel strange using apps tbh

Jul 31, 2020

Nice assessment.

Masterz57:

As a corollary to that, I have to imagine the younger guys' (<28) in-person pickup skills are not as strong - they were never really forced to develop them if they chose not to.

Makes me wonder if girls would be less or more receptive to in-person pickups due to this.

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Jul 31, 2020
itsnotsosimple:

Looking to share some notes here for some fun speculation.

Admitting you're a virgin to the internet is definitely not REPE

...but is it REPE?

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Jul 31, 2020
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