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Lol why does it matter if your girlfriend out earns you. So what?
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This ain't the 1980s anymore buddy.
Who cares? If you guys are in IB you’re obviously making good money. It isn’t the 1950’s anymore. You guys will be well off if you continue what you’re doing. She probably doesn’t mind earning more than you and doesn’t even think about it.
Here's the problem OP. Go get yourself some barely legal Tinder THOT
This is it, I think. She's two years older than you, so obviously she'll be earning more in the earlier stages of both of your careers. I'm sure two years from now you could get close to an associate promotion or maybe lateral to an EB, and you would make as much or close to what she makes now.
if she bad this a W
Facts
Are you Indian? Cause you sound kinda Indian.
Edit: here come the Indians.
No...might be because my Director is Indian and he got into me.
Seriously, I‘m an advocate of the, “financially savvy, male gold digger” she out earns you, so make her buy everything you want and need, save all your money. You can trick her into this easily, women love attention and being loved. Society will see you as a supportive boyfriend. You play your cards right, this is a win-win-win situation. Literally cannot lose. You can have six figures saved within a few years and when you do, you may feel more comfortable or ditch her for someone hotter and younger.
(No sexism intended)
if he got into you, shouldn't you be making more for it?
Talk about generalizing...
Shut up Paki. At least my government can stand up to China and not be their little bitch like you guys. At least we know how to separate religion from government- I’ve seen some of your comments in the past and I know that you rejected Islam. Try going to the middle of a street in Islamabad and saying that you’re an atheist. Then do the same in Delhi. In one city, you’ll be killed by a mob and the other city is Delhi. Before generalizing about India (one of the greatest countries in the world and literally the worlds biggest democracy), take a look at your shitty country first.
I was joking, relax lol.
1. It's a joke. Stop being a baby
2. Separate religion from government? Modi is a Hindu nationalist and anti-Muslim. Yes, better than Pakistan but that's a pretty shitty standard
3. India one the greatest countries in the world? Get a fkn grip. I'm Indian guy. I know you must be as well. Consider what it's like to be a female in India before calling India great.
HAHAHAHAHAHHA RELAX
Hahaha curry-eating man angry, seriously chill. You're not wrong on some of these points but you're not winning yourself supporters saying them this way.
This probably won’t help you, but I’m older than you both, and think that you’re being dumb for thinking this way.
Helpful...thanks. I'm 25 rn.
It's 2021 my guy. Plenty of women make way more than their boyfriends / husbands, etc. If she was with you before you got into banking and still with you when you're making 1/3 of what she's making, it's likely she isn't after your money.... cause you ain't got any (no offense).
I'm not one to usually make assumptions, but you sound extremely insecure. If she leaves you because of money, it wasn't meant to be and that's not someone you want as an SO anyway. Until you are secure and comfortable with yourself, you will never be happy. There will always be someone that makes more than you. Don't let your insecurities ruin your relationship.
Thanks...helpful.
Fuck her right in the pussy, that'll show her.
Get her pregnant. Quit and get custody. Now her 3x earning ass will be paying child support.
You're complaining that you girlfriend is making great money, is ambitious, and successful? Sucks to be you. Confidence doesn't come from comparing yourself to others.
Yeah...I didn't write all the details. After 35, if we get married, she wants me to be the one who makes $ and she can enjoy life.
I dated a girl who was worth roughly 8 figures due to a family inheritance. We didn’t talk about money that much and I didn’t learn how much she was worth until I met her brother and he started talking about their family.
She offered to get married and I would be taken care of for life, but I wasn’t super into her and broke it off. She couldn’t believe I was breaking up with her and we were FWB for a bit until I committed to a new girlfriend and then never talked to her again.
The prospect of never having to work again was alluring, but I didn’t want to spend my whole life with her. I was 24, she was 30 at the time.
I think you made a bad career decision.
It's not the first time I have heard this. 😂😂😂
Dude good for you. I was oddly enough in the same situation and did the same thing. Coming from nothing, felt like I wanted to earn my own way. But I do miss the family vacations! lmao
One Thousand and One Nights simpnation version
I could see how that intimidates guys. I tend not to tell guys Im in IB at first unless they ask. But you have to get over the thought that women need men for money. That’s pure BS, working is so much easier than finding a man. But what you are saying is an indication that you are insecure. think about this: she is more senior than you and she has been in the field (mostly men) for years and still chose you and wants to be with you, she definitely doesn’t care about money. Practically speaking if Im IB and I care about money, I would not date less than MD (or equivalent in money). She is smart and ambitious and just looking for a partner. Be that partner and dont make it an issue so it doesn’t become one.
Thanks...could be wrong here but feel like yours is the female perspective that I need.
Relax and enjoy being with a woman who has her shit together
You're right. I think a man should earn more than his wife. In relationships, men are primarily selected for their ability to provide, while women are primarily selected for their fertility, which translates to physical attractiveness. This is a trend that dates back millennia, with women subconsciously looking for strong men who can hunt for food and men subconsciously looking for women who can bear children and breastfeed them. This is why often times when a man makes significantly less than his wife, there is a sense of discontent in the household that stems from the woman feeling like she doesn't have a good provider. The same applies the other way around with women and looks. This is why although male gold diggers exist, you see far more female gold diggers in society. This type of behavior is ingrained in our psyche.
That being said, she's two years older than you like someone mentioned, so she will obviously make more at this stage. I don't think you have too much to worry about. Remember, everything I wrote is a general principle, but individual cases vary. Maybe your girlfriend genuinely doesn't give a shit about how much money you make.
Wow I am amazed by how much bs you can fit in one paragraph
Homie you're a few decades behind
These views aren't "a few decades behind." They are general principles that govern how the sexes behave towards each other. They have existed since the dawn of mankind and will continue to exist far into the future.
You know something stupid is about to come out when my guy feels the need to post his view anonymously on a topic like this.
You’re crazy bro, I wish my girlfriend made 3x what I do. Plus you’re a recent grad and she’s older, no shit she makes more. Give it 5 years and it will even out
Thanks...helpful.
The insecurity on this site is amazing
You literally spelled out she's both older and got onto the IB career path sooner yet still felt the need to post this. No shit she's going to be making substantially more than you, she sounds like a boss. My god what a whiny bitch, you're the girlfriend here make no mistake.
If she’s hot af, she’s wifey material
If I were you, I would do everything I can to earn more than her from this second on lol. And yeah I would feel uneasy too
OP, you’re being a pussy bro. You’re in a good situation if everything else is good about the relationship. Don’t be stupid and let it get to you. She’s older than you. She’s obviously driven and doesn’t care or she wouldn’t be with you in the first place. It’s not like you’re a slouch either. And at some point, she may decide to go a more WLB-friendly route and maybe you can out earn her then. Until then just maybe try to use it as motivation if you want. May propel you further in your career than you would’ve gone otherwise dating some broke chick.
Thank you...helpful advice.
People are whining about some 50s shit. This is totally valid. There was a time my wife was making just more than me and it felt kinda meh. Then, there was a time of like 6 months she was making a lot more than I was and that felt really bad. I felt like such a bitch. And now, I make a lot more than she does. Like she doesn't have to pay any bills. And it feels way better. Gender roles are super real. The more you pick up the masculine slack, the more you get feminine back.
OP, I'd 1. try to figure out how to earn more money; and 2. Compensate by being masculine in other ways.
Because if you're some skinny little banker beta boy on propecia who reads newspapers and shit, AND you don't even way out-earn your gf which is supposedly all your boiled potato ass is good for anyway, she's 100% cheating on you with someone richer and/or fitter. Just a matter of time. Or even if she won't, she'll want to. Maybe those are just my own insecurities shining through. That's my opinion and I'm allowed to have it.
Exactly. People are acting like sexual selection doesn't exist or that humans are somehow immune to it. I'm surprised this is such a controversial take on this forum.
Lot of dudes on this site can relate with that second paragraph and are lying to themselves about it.
So would you rather prefer to be with someone making 1/3 of what you do and getting milked for everything you're worth? LOL you;re an insecure idiot
If he wants someone poor and complacent, there are millions of girls who can fill that role. Millions.
Lmfao, reality is going to hit him hard.
Imagine you are writing, complaining because she is hotter or smarter than you are. Pointless, no?
Same here, find it attractive that she is making good money (more than you, now or also going forward, it doesn't matter).
Confidence must come from knowing she is attracted to you and wants to be with you, irrespective of the pay check.
Btw. I'm in a similar situation, and she is a few years younger than me. It was not always so, but it developed that way. Hey, nicer vacations and she gets to buy herself things she like. Not bad. And a great intelligent hard working good earning lady. What's not to like.
Thanks...helpful.
Are you rich?
I guess not as rich as he would like.
I sense insecurity coming from you. Are you going to the gym? Staying fit? Being attractive? Because she will leave you if arent.
another way to figure this out is to assess your sex life with her. Do you give her pipe? How often? Does she want it? Does she want it more than you?
Don't date an older woman if you can't handle the realities of dating someone older than you.
Sugar momma ...
Damn I'm suprised by all the comments here. I think that I would certainly feel insecure if my wife/significant other was making a lot more than me
My mindset is probably way too banal.
My girlfriend is a sales machine and makes like double what I do. It's awesome, such a breath of fresh air from girls who rely on you to pay for everything.
She work in Tech sales?? Some places made a killing recently.
Yup, crazy how much they make. I always thought real estate was the path to riches, but tech is some quick money.
Probably need to adopt this mindset.
All I'm saying is look at it this way, she's got way more money than you, is probably fairly attractive and intelligent and she's also older than you, so you're probably doing something right if she's into you.
In hindsight you're going to think measuring how much success you've had in your 20s is a waste of time, your highest earning years are going to be 40-60+. All your 20s are is a time to set yourself up for success later on.
What do you mean “Handle it?”
This a good thing LOL.
Yep...
Yeah I see this as a total win just ask for a car for your birthday to ease your nerves
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