Handling the Breakup - Never been good with these things
We'll this girl I have been dating for a while finally called it quits yesterday on our relationship. Out of the blue she just texted me and pretty much said it is over. Still stings and honestly just want to vent a few feelings.
I get that as a banker I am a busy individual, but I truly did make time for this relationship. I would try and have daily calls and focus on trying to spend at least one night a week together. granted sometimes these were very sleep deprived interactions, but 80-90% of the time I would give all my attention (and if I couldn't I would tell her that I had a longer week than usual to giver a heads up if I was going to be tired). IDK if this is the source of the problem, but I am sure it doesn't help.
She choose to not have a conversation with me about how she was feeling. She felt that I was just using her for sex and rather than ask what we were, she just decided to break up. This hurt the most because I seem to struggle with sharing my emotions a lot of the time. So unless prompted it doesn't come naturally to me. This has been the source of my last few breakups and it just stinks that I can't ever seem to find the balance to get this factor of dating right. I really did think we were just taking it slow.
It really does frustrate me because it keeps happening. I am just a normal dude trying to do some good things in the world and find a relationship. I generally feel that I am a good guy and I feel like I keep getting passed on. To paint the picture, I workout/in good shape, I'm not short (over 6ft), I actually have a couple hobbies outside of work, and when given the opportunity I like to volunteer for an arts program. I feel like sometimes I can be a little dense in the head, but most of the time I can hold pretty good conversation with anyone. It feels like I am doing a lot of things correctly and still miss the mark in the dating realm.
Some words of wisdom, or any thoughts would be appreciated.