Have women become too sensitive? Or have I spent too much time with the bros?

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Went on a date, thought it went well. Then found out we were incompatible because she said she didn't like how I kept teasing her. Pretty innocent stuff too, like it started to drizzle a bit and she said we needed to go inside immediate. I replied a little rain won't kill you. Am I spending too much time with the finance bros? Have I lost all sensitivity or caring for others?

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Jun 5, 2019

Honestly I thought this before too about the like gentle teasing. When I'm with the boys, we talk shit like constantly to one another (joking, of course), and thats just kind of how I am now. I always do like a little gentle teasing but got like shut down fairly hard for it a while back and was trying to figure out where I overstepped. Honestly I don't think it's all women in any way, I just think it depends person to person. I've had girls laughing their ass off at my teasing since then. It sucks when you get iced for stuff like that, but shit happens. Idk about the rain. Man, woman, girl on date, or drunk friend walking with my outside a bar, if anyone bitches about a little fucking water they are inviting in some shit talk from me.

I wouldn't say you've lost all sensitivity or your ability to care for others haha.

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Jun 7, 2019

I mean like yeah facts especially to the second part but thats kind of a different discussion.

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Jun 5, 2019

I was thinking this the other day as well, is it me or are girls way more sensitive? I feel like everything can get you in trouble.

Array

Jun 5, 2019

"Pretty innocent stuff too, like it started to drizzle a bit and she said we needed to go inside immediate."

I don't know where this took place, but if it was outside your/her house this could have been
her way of signaling to get inside to f*ck.

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Jun 6, 2019

That was my first thought too, lmao he just blew a lay

Jun 6, 2019

I wish that were the case. We were sitting outdoor seating at a coffee shop and she requested to go indoors

Jun 5, 2019

group culture, on average women expect less teasing right away in my experience, but there are plenty who can give/take. Overall, do tone it down- you're always competing with bros for dominance a little but women compete differently (more subtle)

Jun 5, 2019

Seems to me like the whole world has gone soft.... both men and women.

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Jun 5, 2019

She probably spent a while doing her hair and makeup. Drizzling/humidity ruins that instantly and is annoying as fuck. If this happened near the beginning of your date, does come off as a little obtuse.

As for girls being sensitive - am female, my friends (guys and girls) and I are all horrible to each other lol and imo I couldn't date someone who didn't tease me when I do stupid or over-the-top shit, but there's a difference between that and teasing someone when they're actually annoyed/uncomfortable.

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Jun 5, 2019

Brotip: If you haven't realized yet, she was worried about the rain ruining her hair/makeup.
Then you basically added on to her insecurities by making fun of her. On a date. When you're supposed to be charming. Or witty. You were neither. Nice man.

Judging from you thinking the date went well, you don't know how to read the room. Body language basics.

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Jun 5, 2019

Try hard alert. Get off your high horse. Who are you to say this guy doesn't know how to read a room based off of two paragraphs? Come on, pal.

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Jun 5, 2019

mispost

Jun 6, 2019

She didn't seem to be all that made up, although admittedly I have no knowledge of beauty products

Jun 7, 2019

remind where exactly he made fun of her?

Array

Jun 5, 2019

Sounds like she flat out wasn't interested, not sure how that justifies the idea all women are soft.

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Jun 5, 2019

I think she may not have liked you

....not saying it to be a dick btw

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Jun 5, 2019

has one interaction with a woman

"HAVE ALL WOMEN GOTTEN INCREDIBLE SOFT??? I REMEMBER WHEN WOMEN STOOD IN THE RAIN AND ENJOYED IT"

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Jun 5, 2019

Also you're not in third grade, any worthwhile woman wants a more substantive discussion than grade school teasing.

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Jun 5, 2019

keep negging the shit out of her, over text message. she will be back in no time. also could try sending dick pics. godspeed.

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Jun 6, 2019

Like others have said, it's dependent on when in the date it happened. At the beginning? She was worried about her hair/makeup because she spent time doing that beforehand. At the end? She either wanted to bone and you missed it or she just doesn't like rain.

Either way, read the situation better. If you don't know each other, always err on the side of caution.

Jun 6, 2019

I hope you were alpha and threw your Armani coat over a puddle for her.
Or were you beta and kept your Men's Warehouse clearance rack coat on?

Array

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Jun 6, 2019

A real alpha male would just hammer throw her over the puddle.

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Jun 6, 2019

You know that saying, if you look around the room and can't spot the idiot, it's you?

Well, when you sit around thinking that half the human population has gone soft, it probably just means you're a dick and everyone else is doing just fine.

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Jun 6, 2019

Flip side of this...if she wasn't trying to bang, and she really wanted to go inside, sounds like the two of you weren't exactly compatible. Luckily, it only took you one date to figure that out.

Jun 6, 2019
kakaman:

Pretty innocent stuff too, like it started to drizzle a bit and she said we needed to go inside immediate. I replied a little rain won't kill you.

Glad I finished sipping down my water, because this definitely would've made me choke and spit. Dude, that's funny.

But you can't speak that way to women. If you can't make them feel "safe" and "valid", it ain't gonna fly.

On the other hand, look for different women who don't have a softspot for that sort of thing.

Jun 6, 2019

Honestly it depends on the woman. I am a woman and I never rlly get offended unless the guy seems like a total jackass. You probably just have a dryer sense of humor and there r plenty of women out there like that. In all honesty I kind of like when guys are like that. Nothings worse than a guy who's awkward and boring. Then there's no liveliness or conversation

Jun 7, 2019

Sounds like she just doesn't like you bro

Jun 7, 2019

She either doesn't know how to take a joke or wasn't interested in you so she brushed it off, either way the best course of action is to leave her be.

Jun 9, 2019

Unless you're from 1970s western Pennsylvania where the rain is actual acid I'd say the shit talk is totally warranted

When life gives you kefir and flour, make some blins.
Jun 10, 2019

Females have attractive bodies.

Jun 10, 2019

Up your game bro. It's not her, it's you.

Jun 10, 2019

You won't hit it off with every girl you go on a date with no matter how good your game is.

Jun 10, 2019
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Jun 10, 2019