Having no friends

So I guess this post is not related to wall street or finance in any way but I thought I would ask it here as personally I really relate to people that work in finance.

To give this post context I am 25 years old and I work in a field outside of finance.
Looking at my life from the" outside", life is fucking fantastic.

However looking at my life from the "inside" , life feels so bad.

I literally have no friends. I live at home with my parents and I am so lonely.

I am very fortunate in the sense that I have achieved a lot and punched above my weight.

To get to where I am in life I have had to fight for every inch and nothing has ever come easy. I have become addicted to literally fighting for everything and I can not switch off. I cannot relate to anyone around me. I have always been considered popular in school but over time I have stopped relating to people around me. I'm usually the one the shuns people away when they try to get close to me.

I keep thinking that maybe it is the field that I work in?
In recent time I related to people the best when I was interning in Investment Banking, comsulting and people around me had the same mentality. I also relate very well to my mentors.
I do want to go back into finance or consulting in the future.

Maybe this sounds weird but I am most happy when I am working long hours, always switched on the job and surrounded by people in a very cutthroat environment.

 
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1) what do you do for work? 2) where do you live?

to give you some perspective...i have friends from different parts of my life -early childhood -college -work collegues -friends of my girlfriend (and their significant others) -people who are friends of my family -people i've met thru various activities

You make friends from trying to make friends....you make friends from doing things that include interacting with other people (team sports, artistic stuff that interests you, cooking for people, going on dates). Maybe you like school....so go take adult classes. Exercise? Go running in the park...join a running group...or take an aerobics class...find things you like and do them on a regular basis. Mingle with the people that you meet. You'll find ways to be more social with some of them. You'll have common interests. Go on dates..lots of dates. Make friends with the friends of the people you date. This really opens up the friendship pool.

just google it...you're welcome
 

I think it bothers me because it's not socially acceptable. That's what's happening with me, I don't make friends unless it will benefit me later down the line by helping me achieve a goal. When I meet someone if I know it is a purposeful relationship, I'm very smooth and have excellent social skills. When it comes to someone who serves me no purpose, I literally become autistic.

P.S excuse the bad grammer- Im using a very shitty tablet

 

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