Heading into IB as Parents Divorce
Hey everyone,
I'm a college freshman here intending to recruit for IB. I already have a decent amount of experience in modeling and PE, and I like the work, so I'll probably end up at an IB eventually. My problem right now is that my parents will divorce promptly after I graduate, and there are a lot of moving parts I need to consider. My dad is a senior staff member at a FAANG, and my mom has not worked in 18 years. My dad is a douche and a beta, but I have to admit he has been raking in a solid income. He has absolutely zero tact or empathy, and I'm pretty sure he's just straight up dense. My mom is alright. She doesn't work, but was definitely the better parent throughout my childhood.
So the problem is that my dad is going to bail once my sister goes off to college, and my mom is going to be pretty screwed. I know that I could be making a lot in IB, but I'm not sure how well it will support my mom and I. I think a good first step is to find a great lawyer that can extract as much alimony from my dad as possible. What do you guys think?
Thanks!
I mean if your parents have been married and mom's been stay at home for 18+ years, odds are there's going to be some kind of alimony agreement. That said, those things can take forever to be enforced (speaking as someone who's been in an almost identical situation to you). Your mom is going to have to be able to support herself to some extent (unless you're literally living with her to take care of her), but the income from IB should be plenty if you're fine with cutting back on regular spending/savings to help her when needed. I did much the same making less than IB money when I was first out of school for my mom.
Thanks for this. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, and I hope you're better off now. If all goes according to plan, everything should be okay then.
Your mom should start stashing away cashing since it sounds like the divorce is 3 years away. Beyond that, she will be entitled to alimony
Tell your mom to put everything she has into GME, literally cannot go tits up
Your mom could get a job...?
This. But sadly if she hasn’t built up a career it’s a little late to start now. This is how people get smooshed into substandard jobs.
She can work at a fucking McDonalds... she literally earns $0. How will anything be ‘substandard’ for her?
So this is the same thing that my mom when through. She was a stay at home mom for 20+ years. She just updated here resume and took a job she was probably over qualified for, but she enjoys it. I get that OP's mom is probably going to be screwed but 3 years is a lot of time to start building up some experience. I also think alot of companies are going to be pretty sympathetic to s stay at home mom.
side with your dad, your mom sounds like a leech and you sound like a beta male cuck. Don't support your mom financially ever - she made her own decisions in life, and you'll fuck over your future ability to compound if you give her money. Life is tough, look out for yourself mate.
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You say this like we know when your sister is going to college.
Oh, we know
Your dad is so much of a douche that he supported your mother for 18 years while she just subsisted off him? Interesting
There's nothing wrong with staying at home to raise kids; they certainly benefit from a mother who's always around instead of being at work. You'd think a right leaning forum would understand this. And it's not easy work either.
Furthermore you can provide for your family but still fail as a husband or father. Money can't fix being a dick.
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Thank you sir, I will definitely be using my IB salary on securing the bag for my mother.
Secure the bag for yourself. Why should you work 100 hour weeks to support someone who hasn’t worked for 18 years who’s had their entire life to accumulate wealth? Get your head out of your ass and don’t give her a dime. You don’t owe her anything and you sound like you’re sheltered and manipulated. Buy her flowers on Mother’s Day, make sure she’s not destitute and homeless, that’s basically all you should be doing in your young 20s for your mom. If you get assets now and let them compound, you’ll be set for life. If you give all your assets to your dads depreciating asset, you’ll have cucked yourself out of your future. Wake the fuck up
18 years of marriage means she'll get half of all [your dad's] assets. And based on his income, that should be substantial. Probably some alimony for not working for nearly two decades. If she lives modestly, she may not have to work at all or very little.
This sounds like a troll post...
Nah this is for real. I'm just 18 so there's still a lot for me to learn. Yeah she definitely won't have much luck working at this point in life, but it sounds good that she'll get a solid chunk of money. Thanks!
1 lesson you can learn — don’t be a beta
LOUD NOISES
I genuinely hope this is a troll post because OP sounds like a complete noob around women who will let them take everything, just like his mom is fixing todo. There’s no honor in giving up your wealth so a pampered FAANG housewife who hasn’t worked can maintain their standard of living. If you were raised by a single mother and she became disabled and couldn’t support herself financially or something like that, then by all means, support her financially. But in this situation, you are being a stupid beta male cuck.
what are people talking about? Supporting your mom (even if they didn’t work for 18 years/were primarily a stay at home parent) isn’t wrong. These days it’s a lot less normal to have a parent not work whatsoever, but it used to be much more common (especially across certain geographies and cultures). Hell, even now you have people who only go to college and look to date/marry rich people. It may or may not be the case with OP’s mom, but she’s not necessarily a leech just for being a stay at home mom all these years. Admittedly not great especially by today’s standards, but it is what it is.
why should OP work 100 hours a week to support someone who presumably won’t get a job? Preventing your mom from becoming destitute or homeless, or giving her nice things that she wouldn’t have otherwise is 100% the way to go, but I have a feeling that OPs mom will get more than enough from alimoney and divorce settlement that OP should definitely not contribute a dime to her.
Yeah I catch your drift and I definitely don't plan on contributing if the alimony is sustainable and solid. I'm just concerned about how sustainable it is, and especially the fact that despite working at a FAANG, my dad's salary really isn't all that impressive. He also wants to retire and spend more time investing, since he recently had a stroke of luck in the market. We've lived in the same condo for over a decade, and don't have nice cars or anything like that. Since my dad does not talk to us about finances, I hope we're just voluntarily living below our means. Regarding getting a job, my mom used to be a teacher but left to raise my sister and I. Nowadays she isn't doing that well health-wise, and has had a few cysts over the years, so I just don't want to heap more stress into her life. All in all, she deserves the support I can give to her if necessary, because there have been times where she literally saved my life from my dad's outbursts when I was a kid.
And no, I do not let anyone walk all over me and take my cash.
I don’t disagree with where you’re coming from. Perhaps I’m being too charitable with OP’s case, but I also come from a household with a stay at home mom who didn’t work for 18+ years. I don’t want to get on a soapbox, I just want to point out that some parents choose to stay at home to raise their kids and it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re being a leech. I would like to think people here would help one or both of their parents with basic expenses if it ever became necessary and they had the means to do so.
Also disagree with all the comments calling OP a beta/cuck/simp lmao. Maybe they are in personal relationships for all we know, but helping mom with basic living expenses =/= simping for girls on OnlyFans haha
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I see you are man of culture. You too have taken the black pill suppository
Your mom is going to get very favorable treatment from the courts re: assets and alimony. Beyond that, she can get a job.
Helping your own mother is "beta" 😂😂
Redpill and incel culture really ruined a generation. Especially since the OP said his own father was "a douche", "a beta", "zero tact", "zero empathy", and "dense".
You can tell by the replies that this forum in 99% male
Regards,
A female
My thoughts on the whole take 50% depends on the situation:
You get married, you’re making bank, you’re wife leaves you / cheats on you / etc then she doesn’t deserve shit, she’ll still get it though.
This situation sounds like your dads a cock and is leaving your mom. He knows how divorces typically go down, he knows what he signed up for, and barring a prenup she’s going to get half of assets plus a substantial alimony given 18+ years of being married.
If he’s making as much as it sounds he is, she’ll be more than fine and can probably still give you your allowance that you’ll inevitably blow on bottle service your first year on the desk for girls that will eventually leave you for a HF bro and make off with half your net worth.
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