How can one utilize money to "get girls"?

I'm a first year analyst at a BB who graduated remotely and has worked remotely ever since, so I'm a complete newbie when it comes to navigating adult social life. I make good money, come from a rich family, and graduated from a prestigious T10, but all throughout school I was shy and never took the initiative to make overtures with women. I'm 6'0" and decent-looking (I think), but I'm extremely insecure and self-conscious of the fact that I'm no model. It was always my plan throughout school for money to ultimately serve as the main source of attraction for girls; and now that I have money, I'm eager to use it. Should I buy a Rolex? A Porsche? Is my job title/alma mater name enough? Any advice is appreciated, and Godspeed.

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  • Analyst 2 in IB-M&A
Sep 13, 2021 - 10:04am

I have what you described here (I am taller but come from one of the less prestigious target schools) and girls approach to me in various social settings.

If these are true, you shouldn't worry about getting laid.

Sep 13, 2021 - 10:29am

Just to comment on your car argument, I am a car guy and have been for my entire life. Have owned, worked on and driven Porsche, BMW, GM trucks, etc. Also had exotics. The biggest group you'll meet with cars are young boys. Almost every young boy from the age of 2 to teenagers up to 20-22 will approach you when you have a nice car. Most frequent questions from them are: 'what do you do for a living", how fast does it go, does it break often, how expensive, etc, and they also often say "I bet you meet lots of girls with this car".

Women, in contrast, rarely know anything about cars, nor have they any interest in them. There could be exceptions since there are also car girls around town, but I seriously doubt a girl would want to be with you just because of a car and nothing else. If anything they want the lifestyle around luxury, and not just the car itself (ie nice house, nice area to live in, nice stuff you buy them,..). These kind of women are a liability.

Most women I have dated had no interest in cars, had no drivers license or if they had one they barely drove, and in larger cities like London or NYC anybody would argue that a car is more of a hassle than a benefit. It is nice to have one for the occasional trip, but nobody would want to drive to work in the middle of Manhattan.

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  • Analyst 1 in S&T - Equities
Sep 13, 2021 - 11:07am

Girls don't really care about money IMO...Only when they go to marry.

Sep 13, 2021 - 11:23am

There's a YouTube video I seen about a homeless guy getting game with a woman almost every night.  

No pain no game.

Sep 13, 2021 - 1:29pm

You can lose a lot of money chasing women. But you'll never lose a lot of women chasing money.


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  • Associate 1 in RE - Comm
Sep 13, 2021 - 1:57pm

The girls who think wearing a Rolex implies you're rich are dumb as fuck. You don't use money to "get girls" but you can use it to keep them interested.

Go on fun dates, trips, buy small gifts, etc.

But if you want my advice, you need to work on your confidence. Hit the gym and make friends 

Also who says "make overtures with women"? Did your T10 school not teach you how to write

Sep 13, 2021 - 2:19pm

1st year analyst here. Tbh man, you're already good on paper, so just be a charming guy and the rest will follow. Work on yourself, be an interesting person, learn another language, hit the gym and travel when you can, make friends, make friends with your friends' friends, and naturally girls will come. Also seeking girls who are attracted to guys solely because of their money is a BAD (and very unsustainable) path to follow - there's always gonna be a richer guy w nicer things out there. Also, you're in freakin Manhattan (here I am, stuck in a Tier 2 city), where so many of the girls there are BOTH hot and smart. From my experience, girls like this aren't gonna be that shallow to where a guy's demonstrated wealth/socioeconomic background alone is a deciding factor - mind you it helps, but it's extremely far from what really matters.

Finally, just be humble and modest and don't flex often - girls will pick up on your wealth without you explicitly showing/discussing it, and it's gonna be a huge turn-on for them once they already see that you have such a fun and interesting personality. That's just my 2 cents man. Godspeed

  • Intern in PE - LBOs
Sep 13, 2021 - 2:22pm

Girls are extremely cognizant of what school you went to. You mentioned you're a T10 graduate, which is what Brown/Duke/Chicago/Columbia/Penn grads use when they try to brag because they're trying to cope with the fact that they didn't get into a HYPSM T5 school. Girls have strong mating instincts, they tend to look for attractive characteristics like strength, wealth, and intelligence, and they instantly pick up on social clues like this. Source: am a hot girl myself. In terms of the dating scene, since you didn't go to one of the T5 schools, you are basically a non-target or fringe-semi-target at best. Think of yourself as a Kelley kid trying to break into IB. Your state school degree just doesn't appeal to the sophisticated female mating instincts. I would just leave your school off of your dating resume like you would with a low GPA. Don't even bring it up unless you want to be embarrassed because you definitely will be. I would recommend trying to attend a H/S MBA program in order to boost your educational background and prestige. Unfortunately, Wharton MBA doesn't really cut it anymore. 

Edit: Ugly Kelley chicks MS'ing me

Edit 2: The fact that people actually took this serious is how out of touch you guys are with girls... not that I am one.

Sep 14, 2021 - 5:49am

If you have to spell out that you're a hot girl........

Currently: future psychiatrist (med school =P) Previously: investor relations (top consulting firm), M&A consulting (Big 4), M&A banking (MM)
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Sep 13, 2021 - 7:28pm

First, you gotta make sure you resume is in top shape AND printed on the nicest paper you can find, one typo can cost you everything here.   Next, create an elevator pitch on your top bullet points, height, bench press, portfolio size, car brand, etc., and make sure it's between 30 seconds and 45 seconds, practice in front of mirror if necessary.  Finally, and this is the most important part, as you're walking around town, whenever you see a girl you're attracted to, muscle your way up to her until your at most a foot away, even better if she can smell your overpriced cologne.  Proceed to aggressively shout your bullet points at her, and don't let her interrupt (practice is key here).  Women absolutely hate any form of dialogue or conversation, visit a zoo and watch how chimps interact for more pointers on this step.  Finish it off by slipping a folded copy of your resume into her purse or bag to seal the deal.  Go home, and proceed to profit.    

Sep 14, 2021 - 12:38am

rolex and Porsche would help, but only buy them if you can easily afford them, but the main point is to come up to girls and try to talk. you'll get a lot of rejections and horrible experiences, but it's necessary experience to learn and get better. also, apps should work well for you if you're shy to approach in person.

Sep 14, 2021 - 12:59am

If you need a Rolex or a Porsche to get a girl…that's pretty depressing.  Gotta be a troll, if you're not a troll, no amount of money will be able to buy what you might be lacking.  A good personality and a big Johnson.

Sep 14, 2021 - 5:49am

Analyst 1 in IB-M&A

It was always my plan throughout school for money to ultimately serve as the main source of attraction for girls

Aaaaaaand this is how it started.

Currently: future psychiatrist (med school =P) Previously: investor relations (top consulting firm), M&A consulting (Big 4), M&A banking (MM)
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