- I'm now in law at a very good firm.
- Many years ago, I had an offer from School A which is one of Oxford, Cambridge, Harvard, Yale.
- For dumbass reasons I didn't go to School A (sabotaged my own grades so that I wouldn't be able to go) and went to an okay law school School B (think Manchester/Boston University or thereabouts).
- It took me 3 additional years to get to my goal (a position at a very good law firm) coming out from School B rather than School A.
How do I deal with this regret mentally? I thought I'd get over it once I busted my ass off in School B and got to where I wanted (a position at a very good law firm), but it seems like I'd miss the elite academic credentialing of School A for the rest of my life - School A's alumni network is overwhelmingly in incredible positions, I've seen how people react to people from schools like School A (much better for building network), elite academic credentials will protect me better when the market gets bad and law firms lay people off, it'll be easier to lateral to another firm with elite academic credentials, it'd be easier to lateral to other fields with elite academic credentials...
I also regret the 3 additional years it took me to come from School B. 3 years of lost income and lost career advancement is a LOT, especially in your 20s.
Basically, because of a decision I made many years ago, my life is much harder than if compared to if I went to School A all those years ago.
This regret has kept me up at night for years and I can't seem to get over it. Has anyone experienced anything like this before, and if so, how did you deal with it? Thanks in advance.