How do you deal with annoying people?

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Just asking generally. How do u deal with annoying people? You know, the kind with their irritating questions, useless advice on how to live your life, stupid jokes. The ones who have no respect or consideration of another person's personal space or feelings.

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Aug 29, 2017

I throw monkey Shit at them. In all seriousness, it depends on the setting. Professionally, I keep everything courteous and respectful. If they are not getting work done management will find out before you need to say anything. If they are asking the same question over and over again, have them write down the answer. If they are just annoying, then just let them be themselves.
Within social a social context I tolerate them and enjoy the group. If it is 1 on 1 i wouldn't know because I do what I can to not end up in that situation.

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Aug 29, 2017

you cannot control others, but you can control your reaction to them. if someone is annoying and on the same team as you, kill them with kindness but keep interaction limited. as mentioned above, depends on the type of annoyance. if someone bothers you during the day for idle chit chat, do not make yourself available. if you have an office, close the door. if you have a cube, put in headphones and even if you're not listening to something and they come up, ignore them and then act surprised, something like "sorry, I was busy working on something, what's up?" our assistants have to do this from time to time, it works and people will get the hint. if it's someone's mannerisms, check yourself. if what they're doing is harming the team's work product, bring it up tactfully, but if it's annoying like someone's shoes squeak or the dude has an annoying sounding laugh then get over it.

as far as the stupid jokes, are they just not funny, or are they offensive? if they're just not funny, then the headphones/closing door thing should alleviate that, just do not get into idle chit chat. if it's offering life advice, same thing, don't get into idle chit chat. if they bring it up during conversation about work, politely steer the conversation back. say they're talking about their paleo diet, say something like "I appreciate that, I'm really trying to get this project done, what do you think about XYZ?" one of my business partners has a habit of giving unsolicited advice, and he has good intentions, so I politely listen, but then I let the conversation end. don't feed the annoying person's unsolicited advice by offering comments that keep the conversation going, just say "thanks" and be done with it. most of the time, they don't want a conversation, they just want to hear themselves talk.

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Aug 30, 2017

Thank u. You've given me some really good points. Will surely keep these in mind.

Aug 30, 2017

Watch out for the comments guys --- they just want to hear themselves talk. Say thanks and leave.

Haha. Thanks brofessor, really helpful.

Aug 29, 2017

THE EMBODIMENT OF STOIC PHILOSOPHY

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Aug 29, 2017

(+sb) Who is your favorite Stoic philosopher?

Aug 29, 2017

marcus aurellius i guess but its not like im some scholar

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

Aug 29, 2017

I struggled with this for a while, but it's always good practice to pay it forward and treat everyone equally. Some people who I thought would never be valuable to me, ended up in positions where they were able to give me a good referral for both a client and job.

I'm very much an opportunist and I see more opportunity with keeping someone in your distant orbit than removing them completely. Best you can do is shrug it off and find humor in their social ineptness, it all starts with changing your perspective.

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Aug 30, 2017

Thanks, guys. It's nice to hear your viewpoints. Got some really helpful tips too.

Aug 30, 2017

I crush my enemies, see them driven before me, and listen to the lamentations of their women (in my bedroom).

Aug 30, 2017

If you don't give them your attention, except for when it is work related and absolutely necessary, how much can they really bother you? Ignore those worth ignoring.

Aug 30, 2017
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Aug 30, 2017

I'm a nice guy, my 90 yr old grandma has told me countless times. That being said, if someone is being rude or annoying to me I mirror that action back 2-3x at them.

For example eating lunch; they are interrupting and talking loud while slurping through their drink straw. I'll do that back towards them. They stop and retreat while becoming quiet and usually solves the problem.

Aug 30, 2017

The annoying guys is sitting right across my desk ... and I still need to talk to him, have lunch with him, and play pool with him, pretend that we are good friends. LoL

Dec 25, 2017
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