How do you deal with bullies/dominant personality with intent to harm and how is manipulative?

A teammate took my name off a big assignment and didn't tell me until days after the due date. He claimed my work is suboptimal citing some rule which work

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Feb 24, 2020

was unfair to begin with. He is the type of people that would never apologize and keep spreading rumors about my work is bad. A lot of people are on my side and know the personality of him. Inhave been emotionally disturbed because of the drama. Inneed advice ow to let it not impact me. Appeciate it.

Feb 24, 2020

I'm not sure I understand the situation as it's described. What did he do and how did it affect you?

Feb 24, 2020

He submitted a team project without putting my name on, which meant that I would not get the grade. He didn't have the courtesy to tell me before he did it It affected me because

Feb 24, 2020

it is a big project. On top of that, he has been making personal comments against everything I posted on group chats which made me feel intimated. The incident was a tipping point and all of this adding up is causing an emotional burden to me

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Feb 24, 2020

Dude be a man

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Feb 24, 2020

Help me be a man then. How do you define a man?

Feb 24, 2020

Tell him he's a fucking dick

Feb 24, 2020

You mentioned that others know the way he treats you and is on your side. If that is the case, then take the high road. Understand that there is likely something deeply flawed about his character and that you are in a better position than he is. There is no point in working yourself up over it and taking away from your happiness too.

One thing I will say however is don't let him take advantage of you. If you feel like he is, which from reading above it sounds like you are, then call him on it and set your boundaries. Don't let him walk over you. I'm not saying to attack him back because that would contradict what I wrote above. Just make sure you send the message that you're not going to take his shit.

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Feb 24, 2020

How do I send the message that he can't walk over me?

Feb 24, 2020

How do I call him out on it?

Feb 24, 2020

Take your portion of the work directly to the professor as proof of your contributions to the group project. Your interaction in this case should only be with the professor going forward as they are the only person responsible for determining your grade on the assignment.

As far as dealing with the other guy - who cares? You won't see him after the class ends, so there's no point getting worked up about his actions. If he can't figure out how to work as part of a team, he will run into his own issues down the road.

Out of curiosity, how did you not know a group project was submitted without your name? Did you have input in putting together the final version?

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Feb 24, 2020

I did show my work to the professor and the professor said that is good. The project was submitted as a team. By default it should have all the names aeveryone'sname on it.

Feb 24, 2020

show your Professor email chains, as long as it supports your case you should get indemnified

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Feb 24, 2020

We're financiers don't be a bitch, get your gang and bully this nigaa.

Feb 24, 2020

Did you actually do anything meaningful for the project? I've never seen that before, so I assume you must have contributed almost zero. Not sure why people assume you are pulling your weight just because you say you did. I am surprised he would be able to turn it in without your name unless you had almost zero involvement.

Quite frankly, I think you're the bully who tried to get your name on something you had nothing to do with.

Feb 25, 2020

Ya, this is unfortunately the most likely scenario.

Feb 24, 2020

Is this teammate treating others in the same way? Some more details about the situation would help, but from the sound of it, it seems like what he did is unfair and didn't properly communicate with you before taking you off the big assignment.

If that's the case, I would try to communicate with him about why he did what he did. If his response is unreasonable, or rude, you can then try to communicate with whoever your manager or boss is who is over-seeing the assignment. No one deserves to be treated unfairly, and don't feel shame in speaking up when you have to.

Feb 24, 2020

just ask wwdd...."what would Dexter do"

Feb 24, 2020
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