How do you do big city life in your 20s right as a single man?

Since we are having so many questions pop up about what city is the best city to live in, I wanted to post this thread for the socially savvy guys in here.

It seems like the guys who are out enjoying post college life in a big city are doing it with their former college classmates that they all moved to the same city with. I seem to get the impression that this is really the only way to enjoy the fun of big city life.

But if you're a single man in your 20s and lets say even a part of your 30s, don't exactly have college bros to lean on, how do you do big city like right?

 

In all honesty, it's about making as many meaningful connections as you can and surrounding yourself with interesting people. Since, I assume, you're in a city that doesn't have a strong alumni base for your school, look up clubs to join based on your interests, like sports (pick up soccer, basketball, etc.), casual interest (books, cooking, etc.), or whatever. Meet people through that and then just hang out with people on the weekend.

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Yankee Doodle:
Friends come from weird places. I used to date a girl and became very good friends with her brother. Even after we broke up, her brother and I kept hanging out and things have expanded from there.

When do you think you and her brother will take it to the next level? Sounds like it is getting serious.

 

as said before sports are a big social network, I met tons of new friends at the gym.

also hobbies: carsandcoffee, car events, motorcycle spots, you get to see the same people over and over again and will start talking. Some car collectors are also quite successful and/or in finance.

In rare cases I also make friends at the office (easier in consulting when you get to travel and meet a lot of new people).

 
  • Plenty of colleagues who I'd go out with, in the past and now
  • again, gym allows to quickly expand your network, most likely in your age group
  • try to be close(r) to educational facilities, universities, colleges; or even do a degree or something like that part-time. 100% guarantee you'll meet enough people
  • hobbies and clubs (via the web and then IRL or just hobbies where you'll meet up)
  • WSO. plenty of like-minded folks on here who all could be local to you.
 

Co workers are a good start. Get to know the people you work with, especially round lunch time. You should also have hobbies that require you to socialize. Jujitsu, Crossfit, rec leagues, etc. Meetup is a good app if you're into niche activities (nerdy shit like cosplay, video games) .

If you're just trying to fk hot women, get on all the dating apps and get friendly with the bartenders at the closest watering holes.

 

Apps like Tinder and Bumble are great as suggested above.

You don't need to be with your college bros to have a good time. Go out there, approach chicks, learn game, have some fun. I've had stints in cities where I've known literally nobody and I've created some truly incredible memories.

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