For banking analysts and associates that aren't on multiple live deals, how often do you respond to your S/O's texts when you're in the office? I know he's on his phone monitoring his emails all day long but he won't reply to me until he goes back to his apartment. Is this normal? It makes me feel like absolute shit.
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Isaiah I love your presence on this forum but I feel like knowing what you do, you are not the target audience here...
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Y’all are ever not on a live deal… ?
Is it called a fire drill when you're getting slammed? In consulting, we have time "at the beach" or "on the bench" where we're not staffed for a week.
A fire drill is when you're rushing to get something out to a client, like how someone rushes to get out of a building in an actual fire drill. You drop everything else you’re working on and focus on getting the specific deliverable out ASAP.
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Never, fuck her
Usually only reply during a few quick blocks during the day like when I'm on the toilet or going down/up the elevator
Depends on how much sex you have with him. You could not text him if you give him lots of blowies, he won’t even care. On the other hand, if your’re lacking in this, I hope you’re texting him quite often.
Work in REIB, I'm texting my GF whenever I can, usually a few times throughout the day. I WFH full-time though.
I manage to text plenty.
I work 70-90 hrs but doesn’t mean I can’t respond every few hours
Wow, how in the world do you manage with those hours??
There is more than enough time to reply to a quick text every few hours - midmorning coffee, lunch, dinner, bathroom breaks... Even in your busiest times you still have to send deliverables back and forth all the time, so you've got 30 min or so waiting on your associate to tie the numbers or VP to sign off. Banking is a busy job but you are very rarely grinding away from 9am-2am without a single break.
Not responding for 12+ hours at work sounds more like his issue than the job
Your boyfriend just doesn’t feel like texting you. I take out my phone about once every 1-2 hours and will quickly shoot my girlfriend back a text. Same as during bathroom breaks
I mean it depends on the context - not messaging at all for 12hrs+ does seem extreme (given as others said you will always have downtime).
However particularly during my IB years I would try to minimise the time on messaging/WhatsApp during office hours - not that I wasn’t allowed to, but it’s very easy for you to get “sucked in” (don’t mean it in a bad way) to convos, and before you know it 15-20 mins have gone by. Ie if the person responds quickly and then you reply and get chatting.
Also it’s possible that while he gets downtime he might be mentally shattered if working on something particularly onerous/intense. In which case he might just want to read random news/sports articles online for the downtime he has to “recharge” mentally (again just speaking from my own experience)
Ask yourself - would he make time if Alexis Texas was texting him? Yes, absolutely
Maybe a contrarian opinion, but I personally hate texting and use work as an excuse to not be responsive all the time. There are certainly enough windows in the day to shoot back a quick reply, but I would rather have a real conversation in person / on the phone later in the day instead of a drawn out, half-assed conversation over text throughout the day. I also find during work there is enough multi-tasking to do without needing to juggle a text conversation too
Well it also depends on the relationship.. LTR or wife get VIP treatment. Tinder girl #19483 will get a Snapchat when I get bored
Seconding this for OP to see. It could be what most have suggested that there is time too quickly respond between interims even when getting swamped with work, which would suggest he’s not too committed. But consider this comment above which I empathize with. People do the juggling and exchange texts constantly throughout the day, but there are people described above that view texting an activity of having an actual conversation. So, I don’t see the value in shooting the shit throughout the day and much rather engage with people when I can actually be engaged. Although imo more people do the former than belong to the latter bucket.
You know him better than we do. Make the judgement based on how you know him as a person. When he’s doing other things outside of work, is he multi-tasking and responding to texts simultaneously? Does he give you the undivided attention when he isn’t occupied with work? What kind of person is he and does that match the kind of interaction between you two?
Lol this post made me chuckle. Why look for a sympathetic ear on a banking forum lol? I also love how girls will stay with guys who make them feel like crap every day. You fat or ugly or something? Only with him for his money? If not, how about you dump him and find a guy that doesn't make you "feel like absolute sh*t"?
LOL going to be the bigger person and not insult you but you should stop being so cynical about love. Everyone has their flaws and a recent one of his has been his slow response rate. Not looking for a sympathetic ear, rather looking for perspective. Was curious if this was a normal occurrence with banking analysts when they're in the office because I'd be more understanding of his situation.
Is it normal to not text the person you love at all during the day? Ummmm, no. Is that clear enough for you.
Just cause you’re on live deals all day doesn’t mean you don’t have 10 secs to send a quick text.
I bet if you were a model he would find time to respond.
I'm not going to have a big dick contest with some stranger on the internet but i really hope you're still in college because you sound incredibly immature. With your mentality, you're going to stay single for a long time or end up with someone who only wants you for your money. I was looking for perspective to see if this was normal when dating a banker because we're young. I understand that I need to take the backseat for work sometimes in the early stages of his career because he has to do the same thing when i'm busy.
Going to talk to him about how this is bothering me. Have a wonderful day.
I’m immature because I told you your bf doesn’t treat you right?
Whatever mental gymnastics you have to do to justify the fact he doesn’t stay in contact with you, that’s on you.
But when someone loves someone then stay in touch. It’s a quick text back, not a 15 min phone call to hold your hand.
But I’m the unrealistic jerk?
Feel free to check back in with us when he dumps you. Just keeping it real.
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