I'd like to learn how to do emotions better. My wife is a very emotional person and I'm not. She just started a job as a special ed teacher and finds it very stressful (underfunded school in the ghetto, contract, not the long-term goal, long story). She does a lot of crying and being stressed in general. She's emotional about everything though, good and bad. She'll cry because of some shit she saw on the internet. It's absurd.
I'm not emotionally retarded or anything. I understand why people feel how they do in different situations. It just takes great extremes for me to feel much of any emotion. I don't really find anything that isn't threatening to life/limb/etc to be a very serious matter. I don't have any close friends, like alone time a lot, etc. My stoicism has been immensely beneficial elsewhere in life, but it's not working ideally here. I'd like to learn to be more comforting. I do what I can, but it's just very strange to me to listen to someone talk about their issues without asking for advice, which is what women like to do apparently.
She knows this about me and I know she represses a lot of her emotional expression because she knows it irritates me. She says she understands that's just not who I am and she's OK with it and blah blah. But I know that's not sustainable. I'd rather learn how to deal with it now than walk in on her with some dude who understands feelings better in 5 years.
So, I'm all ears. Please give me your advice on comforting women emotionally. And yes, we both realize we got married way too young and soon (24 & 22). No kids so whatever. I give this marriage like a 35% chance of success, but I'm going to give it a valiant effort.