How to deal with sick parents while working in IB
Hey everyone. I'm a native New Yorker, did undergrad in the city, and will be working as a FT analyst at (WF/DB/RBC/CS). I'm pretty stoked given that I had to work my ass off to get this opportunity and didn't work in IB during the summer. Problem is--I've lived with my parents in an outer borough my whole life, my father is a sluggish 73 years old, and my mother's health (along with her happiness) has been deteriorating in the last 3 years due to work-related activities. She's also suffered mentally and physically (had 3+ trips to the hospital) when I went to study abroad for a semester in Asia and wasn't able to help out around the house.
My commute to the office, if I stay in my current home, will be a dreaded hour and thirty minutes. In a perfect world I would get an apt. that's within twenty minutes from the office. However, I fear that my lack of presence since I'd be working on average 70-hour weeks and thus seeing them once a week would cause them hardship.
I don't know whether I should move closer to my office to sustain my physical health or stay where I am to sustain my parents' health. As of right now, I'm thinking about staying at home to help my parents and eating that long commute. Nevertheless, I would appreciate your opinions on what you would do if you were in my shoes or even some insight from those of you who live in NYC and deal with a long commute.